A snake bites you out of nowhere and instead of immediately trying to suck out the poison, instead of rushing to heal yourself, instead of getting to safety, you chase after the snake.You run after it.
You are trying to find out why it bit you!
You want to tell it that you didn’t deserve that!
You want an apology.
You want an explanation, instead of thinking My God , I’ve been bitten. I’ve been poisoned, I need to fix this right away or it’s going to kill me
Right now you are staring at this snake thinking Seriously , why would you do this to me? I didn’t deserve that !
You are arguing with a snake!
Like the snake suddenly owes you honesty.
Like it owes you closure!
While its venom is spreading through your body with every second you waste. That’s exactly what we do with people that hurt us.
We chase explanations instead of just accepting that the bite has already happened and we have to save ourselves first. We think if we can just understand the why the pain will somehow hurt less, that if we can get them to explain themselves, we will feel better about it . But the truth is, knowing the reason doesn’t remove the venom from your body.
It never has.
Some snakes bite because that is what snakes do. Not because you deserved it , not because you caused it, not because you could have stopped it if you had been a better version of yourself.
Healing begins when you stop chasing the snake.
You don’t need an explaination to heal.
You need acceptance.
You need distance,
And you need the strength to walk away.
Before the poison finishes what it started.
