- September



I can’t dance
Never have been able to.
Some of that is my dyspraxia 
Mostly I have a limited sense of rhythm 
And a huge dollop of self consciousness 

The last time I danced was with a patient at her request
She asked me about my bucket list and I mentioned dancing
She shared it was one of her wishes to dance again
As it turned out she had less than a week to live

So she asked me to dance, a funny silly little dance
Me in my navy uniform, she in pyjamas and fluffy slippers 
And we danced in her room after pushing a set of drawers against the door so no one else could see.


Fuck You

 

Weaver remains aloof with me and darn right aggressive  with the Welsh. 
If she was human, she would be termed as a damaged adolescent 
She certainly has issues.
She clearly loves her sister 
And just occasionally she will allow me an ear scratch but only when I’m supine in bed
But if the dogs are in any close proximity, she is a tiger, a Shere Khan, crossed with Vicky Pollard
If she could speak she’d be yelling FUCK YOU 
With her middle claw extended
Before punching you smartly in the face.
Oh the shame of owning a daughter with such problems 
Is she A Bad Seed? Roseanne’s Darlene? Dolores  Umbridge ? A Bette Davies Baby Jane? 

Bun remains sweet, and acts as though she should be wearing a gingham dress and pigtails 
Weaver I bet is upstairs pulling the wings off flies. 
It’s a shame
I will be letting them loose on the village soon

Gawd help us all



When I’m Calling You!!



 Blogging to me is a bit like a one sided chat
Sometimes it’s a deeper conversation
Sometimes it’s a lecture
Sometimes it’s a bit of whimsy
I can’t stand blogs that tells its audience what it thinks of them
Pompous 
The trip to work last night was dreadful but I drove 30 miles praying that Bluebell’s dodgy windscreen wiper wouldn’t come loose again
It did, of course.
These things always do.
I’m day dreaming of my bed 
I love my new duvet. 
I cleaned it and the bedding the day before Colin arrived so it’s still fragrant and devoid of kitten paws 
It’s calling to me like Rose Marie belting out the Indian Love Call to Sergeant  Bruce
I won’t be long my love
I call back

Snow

 


I’m on night shift so am just going back to bed 
Hopefully it will be clearer later

Takeaway and lunch

 My friend Colin came over from Liverpool last night and we drank wine, ate a Chinese takeaway and gossiped. He’s a true cat person so Bun and Weaver made a bee line for him.
I was jealous 

This afternoon I went to the Mostyn Gallery to see the works by Greek painter Apostolos Georgiou


After popping into Waterstones I met my friends Ben and Ruth for lunch at Providero ( soup to die for ) and left earlyish to get home before the snow warning

# nice weekend




A Little Story About Grief

 

Nearly fifteen years ago now, I had a conversation with Auntie Gladys.
I remember it as if it was yesterday .
We were sat at her kitchen table with tea and scones. The scones she had just baked on the off chance of someone calling. The tea was served in a mug. 
All men drank tea from mugs according to Auntie Glad
Only women drank tea from cups with saucers.
Her kitchen was immaculate  and testament to her cataracts , as she always over cleaned everywhere just in case, and her eyes were always a watery blue, like topaz seen through gauze,  as she regarded you carefully and always with much affection.
We talked about a mutual acquaintance from Bron Haul who had recently died and the conversation veared to the personal and the painful; memories of her daughter, Edwina who had been killed in a car accident aged 16. 
“ I went to bed” Gladys said simply “ I went to bed and didn’t care for anything or anybody’” 
She paused and put a warm, dry hand on mine
“ It was a dreadful time” she said her sing song Welsh accent hiding the emotion “I’d given up”
“ But then came the Doctor, who marched up those very stairs” she pointed to the hallway where her Regency Staircase stood, one which was once part of a private boys school.
“ He said Gladys my girl, enough is enough. You need to get out of bed !  I have got you a job cleaning in a solicitors in Holywell ! You start on Monday” 
Gladys clapped her hands and laughed at the memory
“In those days you did what the Doctor told you to do, as they had the learning and we didn’t 
I got up, washed my face and went to work, and it was the saving of me . The Lord sent me the doctor that day and do you know what John 
I’ve  always been busy since” 

We drank more tea and gossiped more about village news and I realised  that what was a charming little story, a snippet of whimsy, was in fact a story that hid a great deal of pain. 
Gladys, buttered more scones and poured more tea and wrapped the scones in brown paper for me to take home. 

I was happy, sat at that table 
I was a child again, listening to my Grandmother’s  voice. 

Safe and comfortable in a warm kitchen that smelled of baking.

Beautiful

I wasn’t going to post today 
I have nothing much to say. 
By breakfast time I’d already worked eight hours, driven home and shopped. 
By 2pm I was awoken by sunshine streaming in from the Western sky
It felt warm on my face
whereas the cottage air felt just above zero

Mary lay on the bed with me. Her head facing the sun
She was obviously enjoying the moment and looked as though she was smiling gently to herself.
I watched her for an age


My New Year’s resolution ? 
To note something of beauty every day,
No matter how small


Sat With My Tree


I couldn’t sleep after 2pm so got up, Marshalled the sleepy Welsh and braved the showers in order to get some air. 
We walked into the graveyard and sat on the bench sheltered by the vestry.
There we watched my laburnum. 
I said we, when I mean I.
The Welsh just watched the trees in general, they way they whipped in the roar of the wind.
I watched my tree.
It looked bare but robust, 
Much bigger than when I planted it with Islwyn back in 2021
This piece of music was playing on my phone a piece by James Newton Howard 
Sweet

“A society grows great when old men and women plant trees in whose shade they shall never sit.”

Happy New Year I thought hopefully

Then we returned to the cottage and to bed