Last night was another film night, this time with Gorgeous Dave who dressed up for the occasion ! He has a new rather glam girlfriend so the glam is rubbing off.
As usual I had gravy stains on my t shirt
I won’t review the movie Joy Ride as it was only mildly amusing and not very good, but I enjoyed the night as we always have big chats to and from the venue, in-dispersed with lots of laughs.
It’s been a testosterone filled few days with me meeting up with a gaggle of male friends . Nigel, Colin, Dave and today I’m catching up with an old Sheffield friend John who is in holiday in Llandudno.
He was an old neighbour who turned into a best mate
I’ve always gotten on better with women than I have men. Only in later life have I cultivated male friendships and have a good dozen men, straight and gay who I am close to.
I find that most men are more emotionally intelligent than they used to be.
I know that’s a sweeping statement but for the good of all, I think they are and that, I think, underpins why I have more man friends than I did 20 years ago.
How good is that…..
I agree with you John about men changing in today's society. I think it has to do with the way women have changed too - we have all opened up to express our feelings - when I was young it was unthinkable for a man to show emotions in public - crying was almost seen as a crime. Now things have evened out a lot between the sexes.
ReplyDeleteI know we have some way to go…..the patriarchy still rules while some men feel emasculated
DeleteWe are moving in the right direction
Oh, yes, I agree with you and Weaver. My husband was brought up in a household where "big boys don't cry", and I find it so strange. My son, I'm pleased to say, isn't afraid to show his feelings. xx
ReplyDeleteIt’s not just showing feelings but understanding them that the turning point
DeleteYou are staying busy. I hope that as a species we have developed over the past 40 years.
ReplyDeleteJust over 40 years homosexuality was illegal
DeleteAgo
DeleteI think it is the same here. Men are more emotionally intelligent than they were. Not all, but most.
ReplyDeleteSpoken bravely by an Australian where it is generally thought to be the last bastion of straight patriarchal men
DeleteOur domestic violence rates would suggest that Australian men are struggling but I agree there's some improvement
DeleteThank the lord x
DeleteI think the mainstreaming of feminist and LGBTQ sensibilities has started to erode some of the more negative effects of traditional masculine conditioning. That's a good thing and needs to continue.
ReplyDeleteWell put . Men in general are less threatened by gay men I feel . My friends fall equally in the two groups
DeleteI guess that’s a bit old fashioned now. I need to have a gender fluid mate too
DeleteOur closest friends have always been women.
ReplyDeleteWith an occasional fag hag?
DeleteI have always got on better with men, in fact I almost turned into one. Had to cut down on the swearing and stop chatting women up ;o)
ReplyDeleteNow here’s an interesting story
DeleteThere is, but I ain't squealing.
DeleteIt has gotten easier to simply be who you were created to be. I agree with you there.
ReplyDeleteNot just being yourself but understanding rights and lifestyles and others points of view.
DeleteThere are still Parochial people , but things are a changing
The trouble with male friends is that they know bugger all about knitting.
ReplyDeleteSo true 🫤
DeleteApart from his ex.
DeleteVery true
DeleteBut knitting used to be done by men...women did the spinning
DeleteGood point ……I’m joining ma Manley’s art group this winter, I intend to learn to knit
DeleteI had coffee with 2 knitting friends yesterday and our catch up was interspersed with much laughter, so nice to have a common interest.
DeleteThere are some really good knitting podcasts by gay guys, I follow a few.
I had coffee with 2 knitting friends yesterday and our catch up was interspersed with much laughter, so nice to have a common interest.
DeleteThere are some really good knitting podcasts by gay guys, I follow a few.
Glad you are happy, John.
ReplyDeleteYour theory depends on the men (and women), tho... Some have not changed at all...
Agreed….again I’m generalising and that’s a positive swing in the pendulum
DeleteI agree that it seems to me that both our male and female friends seem to be very interesting folks to talk with over lots of years. Hope we're intersting, too!O!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
Yes, I agree , to be thought of as boring would be the ultimate put down
DeleteI think it's also an age thing at the moment, middle aged men and older are more emotionally intelligent. Young men are too full of bravado and wanting to be seen to be tougher with their peer groups, it's the brave few who are breaking out of that mould ... for the better.
ReplyDeleteYes, I see this too…..many young men are missing role models .
DeleteEven on The Archers Tonight Emma Grundy was telling son George off for listening to an on line “ influencer”
That song sure is a blast from the past. My closest friend is a woman!
ReplyDeleteAnd people didn’t know you were gay ? Lol
DeleteI always got along with men better. I was betrayed by a girlfriend, so didn’t trust women much. My second husband had five sisters so he had a very good idea of how women worked. I only saw him cry, which was more like sniffing, when his son passed away. When he was upset he would say ‘I’m in a mood” and they never lasted very long. It’s nice that you have cultivated both men and women, gay and straight as friends. I had lots of yachtie friends, but we all got old and moved back to our pre yacht countries and eventually lost contact. Gigi
ReplyDeleteIt’s nice to have a mixture of ages and sexes
DeleteYes, to emotional security and confidence. It makes everyone's life more enjoyable.
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteOh cave men still exist
ReplyDeleteCave women do too
I always got on better with men as friends..girls grammar school was purgatory, socially and educationally.
ReplyDeleteHaving gay men as mates was great, because we could concentrate on the job in hand and work together well without any distractions.
The downside I guess is that I had many girlfriends when younger without having boyfriends
DeleteThe same problem from different directions?
DeleteThe problem with society perhaps that it expects certain behaviours. It doesn't differentiate between the girl/boy friends and girlfriends/boyfriends