We all have our own trajectories in life.
Some like the ones I have with my friends of long standing are running more or less parallel
Others occasionally Veer away or in the case of one , Jane, intersect on a surreptitious level.
Many many moons ago Jane and I were an item. She is a free spirit and has an empathic and generous soul
And I came out shortly after we had split up.
I hurt her badly and I regret that hurt to this day.
But she , forgave me ( after planting a fully iced birthday cake in the centre of my new lawn) and eventually we became good friends again.
That seemed a lifetime ago.
Jane has a husband and two beautiful grown up daughters and lives in Sheffield
We speak regularly.
Last week she went on holiday to a tiny mountain house in the middle of the Andalusian mountains.
She went alone which took some balls, but she did it and FaceTimed me several times sharing the triumphs of that bucket list adventure.
We are both feeling our ages.
Next week the both of us are off to Barcelona another first since we were together a lifetime ago and I know it will be lovely.
Lockdown allowed us to share our worries and our dreams and thoughts about getting older, both have embarked on changes in work snd study late on in life.
Both feel we have lots of things undone, rather than unsaid
And now it’s the time to do them
Good for you. It says a lot about the two of you and your bond that you've remained friends for all these years.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
nice to have you back dearheart, its been a long time x
DeleteWhat a wonderful friendship you and Jane share and coming adventure will be all the more fun together!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
i hope so xxx
DeleteWishing you a wonderful trip to Barcelona. Good company and an amazing city.
ReplyDeletei cant wait
DeleteYou and Jane have a unique friendship! Have a blast together in Barcelona!
ReplyDeleteYou and Jane have a strong and long standing bond and friendship. Enjoy Barcelona; it sounds like lots of fun.
ReplyDeleteHow wonderful that your friendship has weathered a few storms and, by the sounds of it, grown stronger. Barcelona will be a chance to have a real catch-up. I'm sure you'll both enjoy it. xx
ReplyDeleteSounds like it will be a wonderful trip, John. How nice that you reconnected.
ReplyDeleteHow very lovely. You'll have a great time
ReplyDeleteAlison in Wales x
Good to rekindle friendship. Losing close friends is sad
ReplyDeleteEveryone needs a friend like Jane; few of us achieve that. Blessed and special. Shre a wonderful holiday with joy.
ReplyDeletei agree totally
DeleteHow nice. I hope you guys have a blast in Barcelona!
ReplyDeleteJane sounds like the best kind of friend ever. Through thick and thin. Good times will be had next week. GG
ReplyDeleteJane’s adventure is tucking at my heart
ReplyDeleteKJ
Last summer I had lunch with my high school sweetheart, she was my first love and lover, we were inseparable for 2 years.
ReplyDeleteWe hadn't seen each other since then, well over 50 years. It was a pleasant lunch, but we found after a few initial 'what have you been doing', we found we had little in common. We parted amicably.
Do enjoy Barcelona, one of my favorite places. The massive central market is a wonderland of food, and just out back is a great churro y chocolate place.
melancholic but also an important vindication that you both made the right choices in life
DeleteWe can have various loves in our heart x 💖
ReplyDeleteIt is good that you've kept in contact with Jane. I love your first line, "We all have our own trajectories in life." So apt and fitting as I look back on mine.
ReplyDeleteyours has been a zig zag one at times eh??? lol
DeleteYes it certainly has been that.
DeleteYou two are truly lucky to have such an enduring friendship, treasure it. Enjoy Barcelona!
ReplyDeleteim finding that i am treasuring lots of things
DeleteI have an old friend who played a similar role in my young life. I didn't appreciate at the time how hurtful it might be for me to come out to her. We're still friends but I often wonder if she thinks I didn't love her -- because I did. Just not THAT way.
ReplyDeleteno you dont understand because you are going through a bigger more confusing bizarre hurt yourself
DeleteI was married and when I came out gay my wife quite understandably rejected me. She was hurt beyond words.
ReplyDeleteShe died five years ago and I went to her funeral and was stopped outside the church by her sister and friends afterwards.
One of whom spat at my feet
Keith
bloody hell
Deletethats the other side to the coin keith
how dreadful all round
Lovely John! A friendship which past the test of time and challenge. Reading this reminded me of the story of your friend who went to live in Scotland? at an enclosed retreat/commune living. How goes that for her?.
ReplyDeleteshes back and doing well x
DeleteHow lovely that you are still good friends
ReplyDeletethat was originally down to her and her big heart
Delete(Debbie in London)
ReplyDeleteThat sounds terrific! Good for you and Jane!
ReplyDeletewatch this space x
DeleteWishing you & Jane a wonderful, fun-filled trip to Barcelona!
ReplyDeleteDon't forget the sunscreen and your hat. 😎
the hat is ready
DeleteIncreasing age is a salve for ones soul.
ReplyDeleteI THINK ITS A BIT OF BUGGER
DeleteEnjoy Barcelona.It is a city that has everything.
ReplyDeleteBarbarax
scotch eggs?
DeleteWhat a very special friendship. Wishing you both the best time in Barcelona. Sharon x
ReplyDeleteA lovely story about an enduring relationship through thick and thin. Enjoy your time together.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy Barcelona, we are looking at plans that might include that city next spring.
ReplyDeleteShe sounds exceptional. So glad the friendship rekindled.
ReplyDeleteThat is great that you and Jane remain great friends,after all you have both been through. hope you both have a great time on your holiday,Mary XX
ReplyDeleteI like these sort of stories. They give me hope old friends and flames can be revived and keep going.
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