I am consistently amazed that such in innocuous blog such as Going Gently can rile some readers into such apoplexy and anger.
It baffles me, as does a comment from last night which admitted that my blog is bad for a certain reader’s mental health.
Gawd help us, if that’s the case, I hope that reader contacts MIND immediately before never reading Going Gently again.
There’s a lot to be said for self help.
Anyhow I went shopping today.
I’m not a big shopper, but I heard that a new sushi bar had opened up in the town of Mold which is located around 17 miles east of Trelawnyd, so I thought I’d treat myself.
Mold’s Welsh name is Yr Wyddgrug ( Mound in English) and it is a pretty market town overlooked by Theatre Clwyd which situated a mile or so out of town.
I was impressed with the bespoke shops as well as the sushi and as well as buying myself some Japanese tea, I bought some French bacon twists from a bone fide French baker, some books at in independent bookshop and some bespoke birthday cards from an art shop
There is no question, on the amount of instability among people. I wonder if said individuals even know they have a problem. Your trip to Mold and shopping sounds excellent.
ReplyDeleteI’ve given the sushi bar a great review on Facebook which he was tickled pink with
DeleteI completely fail to get my head around as to WHY people who get so annoyed by reading your blog (which in itself is extraordinary) continue to do so. I know it's been said often - and not only by yourself - but, you people, if it offends you, for Heaven' s sake, just STOP DOING IT! Easy-peasy!
ReplyDeleteI may be wrong but I'm not so sure about it being more personal towards you rather than the blog itself, JayGee. I suspect that certain people feel some compulsion to read a blog , any blog, and derive great satisfaction by shooting it down - perhaps giving them some feeling of 'control', a sensation which they feel absent in their lives away from their computer/laptop/phone or whatever. At this point it only gives them yet deeper satisfaction when it results in a reaction from the blogger by their personalising it. I'm only theorising though must confess it's the thoughts of someone who's never been trolled and have had VERY few - hardly any, in fact - hostile comments in all my 15 years of blogging.
DeleteI love a leisurely afternoon of browsing through bespoke shops and boutiques myself. Glad you found such treasures!
ReplyDeleteI loved the bookshop, a real find . The owner was so sweet “ we limp along” she said
DeleteMy morning routine: read two news feeds, one right leaning and one left; immediately read Going Gently to offset the horrifying, depressing stuff in the news. Going Gently is my reassuring, mind-balancing therapy. Thank you for writing it.
ReplyDeleteWell there’s no further pressure then xxx lol
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ReplyDeleteI’m very flattered that you like reading my blog. It’s a therapy for me , and always has been
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DeleteThank you for your comment, which I have discussed with my supervisor at length .
She suggested it’s appearance here was somewhat ill advised
Absurd. No one is forcing anyone to read this blog or any other. Someone needs professional help. As for me, your blog posts are often one of the highlights of my day. I won't sing your praises again today but I will say you're an exceptional story teller.
ReplyDeleteYou are so sweet, we need to meet up in Spain one weekend and we could raise a glass or three to each other lol
DeleteI would LOVE that!
DeleteA winter visit?
DeleteYes. I'll save my pennies for a quick trip up to Sitges if that's where you'll go.
DeleteReminds me of the people who complain to the TV companies about the violence and swearing on TV. Don't they know they have an on / off switch?
ReplyDeleteSome of the comments smack of obsession Ronald
DeleteThose eatables should be banned from your post - how am I supposed to eat healthily and in small amounts when they jump out at me from the page?? The cards look interesting too. x
ReplyDeleteI didn’t buy any of the French cakes even though they looked delightful
DeleteNever seen a bacon twist before. Do you eat them hot or cold? For some reason sushi doesn't appeal at all.
ReplyDeleteEither…they were slightly burnt so I got them cheap , the dogs loved them
DeleteThe sushi, were chicken and spiced pork and were delightful , light and aromatic
I think that there are nasty argumentative people who are spoiling for a fight verbally and they will keep going back to any blog they get a resonse from. So delete them and don't mention them. Just my humble opinion.
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DeleteI love your posts! Rarely comment, but look forward to you, and The Weaver, every day to get me started! Like others, I feel you are a friend, a kind and thoughtful soul. I am a retired nurse and enjoy your nursing stories. I live in Austin Texas.
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DeleteI bet you have some nursing stories that would beat mine xx
Well, to counterbalance that comment, your blog is GOOD for my mental health. So, please keep on blogging just the way you do. The good, the bad and the ugly. I love it all. Some people seem to be constantly aggressive, looking for a fight or to put others down. A very sad way to live. xx
ReplyDeleteIt’s good for my mental health too…it’s the quiet moment of my day.
DeleteThe time to say
Hello world I’m here !!!
John. We put our opinions and lives out there. Everyone has a take on it. Sometimes we can learn things about ourselves. I don't know which comments you refer to. I would say just take some of it on board if it fits, and sod the rest. (Says the blogger with one commenter). I used to stick with gardening posts, and got into conversation with dozens of people around the world. It was wonderful. Now, since it's 'life' blogs that apparently follow me, there is nobody out there. Just opinions that don't like criticism. You aren't one. Don't become one.
ReplyDeleteLovely to hear from you again xx
DeleteI won’t …
Too many positives in blogging
When there’s not, then it’s time to go
Holu cow, why would anyone read any blog (or book) that bothered them? It's not your job to cater to each and every one of your readers, John. Be yourself and write on!
ReplyDeleteI'm interessted in the bacon roll, to, but you can have the susshi!
Hopw does Mary smell now?
(and please w son't say "With her nose!")
Hugs!
The bacon and cheese rolls were over cooked so I got them for a pittance as the French baker wasn’t happy with them . The dogs thought they were delightful . ,Mary had had two further showers, one with tea tree shampoo and smells miles better.
DeleteI think that the people who leave hurtful comments are sadistic. A truly sad way to be. No love in their heart or joy in their soul.
ReplyDeleteThere must be an unhappiness there Anne I think
DeleteI believe that she goes apoplectic on a lot more than your blog. She's a nasty person looking for a chance to prove herself superior in all ways. She spoils for a fight. Even worse, I think she has the ability to use others to achieve her ends. Not a healthy thing, really. She should be simply blocked from ever commenting again. Side step the controversy altogether. She's a very unhappy soul, really.
ReplyDeleteThe internet has its downside and on line road rage is perhaps the worst aspect of modern life where damaged and ill people can rub salt in their own wounds
DeleteRoad rage. That is a clever way to put it. The information highway is littered with car wrecks, in it?
DeleteI wonder if we have sushi bars in Suffolk? I've never eaten any - what am I missing?
ReplyDeleteA great deal sue…..usually they are a mixture of Thai, Indonesian and Far East cuisine , lovely noodles , fish …oh lovely …find one
DeleteHi Sue, I've never tried sushi but I noticed they had some in our local Morrisons and also the Coop. In the section where ready made sandwiches are.
DeleteTry it x
DeleteAsda and Lidl do great sushi
DeleteI read the prior post and the response you left up. I'm sorry this person felt the need to be awful. As you responded, it says more about her (?) than you.
ReplyDeleteThe bad feeling has become personal and is now without balance or insight Sandra
DeleteYou can’t argue with irrational thoughts disguised behind reason
John, I live in America. I've become painfully aware of that fact!
DeleteI’m glad you can see the reality Sandra
DeleteI lived in Mold for 49 years!We moved two years ago to be nearer our daughter.I miss Mold soooo much.
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Babs, it’s a lovely little town. The church is delightful and there’s proper shops too AND a market
DeleteOk, so the problem has to be that your blog is honest, funny, candid and wise. And the other problem has to be that you are disgracefully normal, sand and loved by so many people online and in real life. Yes? So we have a sad, inadequate soul who resents your sanity and is still nothing more than the child with the strange look in the eye and an unhealthy obsession with picking scabs, it's own and other peoples. My message would be to gently tell them to stop spreading your misery onto others and get help, bless you. Because you do seriously need it.
ReplyDeleteEloquent and balanced Liz .
DeleteI know people that don’t like me…some of them don’t like me because I’m opinionated and I’ve argued with them publicly ( I get this) and one or two, I’m sure, because of my sexuality, ( I don’t get this)
I have lost all patience with her and a few others that feel they are so superior and they must visit blogs and spew their venom. I agree that they have some deep-seeded issues that need sorted but I now feel they enjoy being controversial so that is how they have fun. The profile fits a very lonely and insecure person but I am tired of taking the high road of feeling anything for them but annoyance. Yvonne
ReplyDeleteAnd the anonymity of blog land is not the place to sort things out. Too many places to hide. Too many games to play.
DeleteIT REALLY RILES ME WHEN YOU BUY BESPOKE ITEMS! GRRRRRRRR!
ReplyDeleteDown boy
DeleteRe: Commenter who I shall not name, it always amazes me how some people insist on making complete fools of themselves in public. Your response to that person was perfect. Moving on to the sushi and French bacon rolls now, a much more pleasant subject........
ReplyDeleteThe sushi wasn’t fish based as the fish order after the bank holiday was late but I had spiced pork with avocado which was bloody lovely
DeleteLooks like Yr Wyddgrug has certainly gone upmarket since I lived near there in the late 70s!!
ReplyDeleteThat’s interesting ….
DeleteI worked for a while at Oriel Theatr Clwyd..
DeleteTell me more
DeleteWe lived in near Ruthin for a year while I was at Llysfasi College, Mold was our 'big day out' - wow, I agree with gz it has certainly had an upgrade since 1985/6.
ReplyDeleteI find the town charming
DeleteA good description
DeleteSometimes I just don't know what planet people come from. How could anyone find your blog disturbing. Quite the contrary for me. It is a blog that brings peaceful feeling and reflections to me. I love the way you write and what you write about. I will never visit Wales, or anywhere else for that matter, but living in what I call "the home" each day is better after I read your blog..which I do first thing in the morning with a cup of coffee. Thank you so much just for offering this daily bit of joy to me.
ReplyDeleteThis moved me greatly my friend …I’m glad I have met you
DeleteJohn Gray
ReplyDeleteI follow many blogs and yours in unashamedly sentimental and arch all in the same breath.
I love it .
One day I cannot quite believe what you say about someone in the village , the next I’m worried about an old cat I’ve never met or crying at an old nursing memory I have no experience of .
I am warmed by the fact you can’t eat food without dripping most of it on yourself , and by the fact you are still filled with sadness after a divorce you didn’t see coming .
Your comments about finding a man with a hole in his clothes made my heart soar for you and your efforts at reinventing yourself with friends and a new career and by plodding on bravely when I would have given up ,made me see you in a new light.
You are flawed, and silly, and shallow and wise
And I wish you were my friend
Andi
Oh lord l that made me tear up
DeleteThank you
Me too…..what a lovely thing to say
DeleteWhat a beautiful thing to say. xx
DeleteDitto...welling up over here reading that! What a lovely comment L X
DeleteA lot of very good responses up there. Better than I could write. Hugs to the black one(Albert in case anyone is wondering)
ReplyDeleteHe’s still with us, sucking the gravy from his meat chunks
DeleteWell I absolutely love your blog and read it every day and even check it late at night in case there's more. People are getting odder and odder. If you don't like a blog, don't read it.I love that you treat yourself to goodies. I just bought my own mother's day present. take care.lini from petaluma
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DeleteI rarely comment but do enjoy your blog - my favourites are the photos of the dogs and cat, photos around your town, photos of the food and just the general chat on small town/village life. Plus the odd bit of travel chucked in. It's an escape for me a city dweller. Lucky you having found where you want to be. I do like seeing the inside of your house too, especially the posts when the bathroom was being done. (Sorry this will say Anonymous but I can't work out how to put my name Ruth up.)
ReplyDeleteXxthank u
DeleteI think your blog is delightful. Anyone upset by it is looking for a way to be upset.
ReplyDeleteShucks
DeleteI can't imagine why anyone would be outraged by your blog. (But then I haven't yet read the previous post! Ha!)
ReplyDeleteSeriously, some people live to stir up trouble.
You are fat because you eat too much bad food , the sushi is fine but bacon rolls from a French baker? I am fat because I eat too much bread .
ReplyDeleteThe dogs ate the French rolls smart arse
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ReplyDeletethose french bacon twists look so tasty, as does the sushi! Was disheartened to read of nasty comments you recieved...I *visit* you every day but ignore the ugly ones if they crop up. I find your self awareness, your willingness to grow, your honest sharing and your humor to be delightful. Now, if I could only grasp how welsh words are pronounced! Just the spelling makes me shake my head.....I bet I wouldn't come close, if I tried! Susan M
The pronunciation is difficult sometimes , look on line
DeleteThat will help
John has already said he gave the bacon rolls to his dogs, it would be kinder if you kept the 'fat' comments to yourself.
ReplyDeleteAnd my comment was to the bread eating Anon/
DeleteThank you P
DeleteEveryone’s a critic lol xxx
Hopefully the sh-t disturber will read todays comments and go get herself some help or better still just go away. The rest of us love your blog, find it a joy to read and look forward to seeing what is going on in your corner of the world. GG
ReplyDeleteI doubt it but I hope she does
DeleteGorgeous, shallow, gravy-dribbling fat bastard. You're a legend x
ReplyDeleteI think the blogging world can be deeply sycophantic and sometimes I find it refreshing to see disagreement but I never want to see anyone hurt.
ReplyDeleteYou had a great day out, I'm a teensy bit jealous
i find your blog refreshingly honest. keep blogging. Bun
ReplyDeleteI was just thinking, it's so nice not to have to read any nasty comments from ursula and then she's back. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteYou must know better than most why the dreaded U is so unhappy with the world. I can think of a few reasons, but inbuilt nastiness is not amongst them. I suspect she has current domestic issues that makes everything look bleak.
ReplyDeleteWell I really enjoy my visits to your blog , a window into a little part of your life and the comments of such an interesting group of people. I suppose there will always be the odd one who tries to spoil everything or to hurt. I don't begin to understand why.
ReplyDeleteI always want to support small independent bookshops. They have a pretty hard time of it at the moment I think. Mold seems to be a great place to mooch about a while and do a bit of shopping.
Dear John in the past year I have lost my dear husband and both dogs, your blog has been a ray of sunshine, thank you so much, hugs j
ReplyDeleteI’m so sorry Joyce x
DeleteDitto what most of the normal readers say. Semi retired nurse myself so love your stories. I say normal but not sure what it is. Ignore those who criticise , they are not worth bothering with. Keep them coming. We need humour in this world.
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