Up early today to beautiful sunshine again, even though the forecasts were gloomy.
In Dyserth on the walkway there was a cool sea mist which was invigorating in short sleeves.
I met Chic Eleanor not long after nine, well before the sun burnt off the haze.
There are few people that you can have an authentic conversation with, I always think.
A honest and sincere interaction that is both supportive but challenging at the same time
I had one of those conversations this morning
Chic Eleanor knows me well.
We have similar coping mechanisms, similar places we go when we are hurting.
Similar behaviours we revert to.
She knows how I tick and today we talked about forgiveness and letting go of things.
It was a necessary and serious conversation
And when we parted, we hugged long and hard like friends sometimes do
Her warmth reminded me of being worthy
And I can still smell her gentle perfume and feel the softness of her hair on my cheek.
Friendships like yours and Chic Eleanor's are a treasure. I'm glad you had a good walk and talk. And a meaningful, long hug is always a good thing. A very good thing.
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DeleteIsn't it cool when we talk to a friend who really GETS us? It's something to cherish. Not many people can do that and it's a pity.
ReplyDeleteXOXO
Gets us and who really listens
DeleteThere's a time for letting go. It can't be rushed or forced, just reached in your own time. You seem to be there now. As you say, onwards.
ReplyDeleteYes….onwards
DeleteI believe Eleanor is a real life angel-I'm quite certain they do exist x
ReplyDeleteShe is a kind, patient and intelligent woman
DeleteWhat a truly wonderful friend she is. I'm so glad that you are letting go of the past and forging ahead with a bright new future. The sun came out, very briefly, this morning, but it's decidedly nippy now. Ho hum, British weather! xx
ReplyDeleteIt’s been a somewhat fraught journey
DeleteI have resurfaced and I am thinking about letting go of the past. It comes in waves, like low tide each one sweeps things further out to sea. We should focus on those who stick around and not on those who don't.
ReplyDeleteWe need to understand patterns in our behaviours ..and learn to be kind to ourselves
DeleteThe world needs more Eleanors.
ReplyDeleteShe's such a good friend to you!
ReplyDeleteShe is indeed
DeleteFriends of the calibre of Chic Eleanor are worth their weight in gold as are those sensitive and sometimes difficult conversations. They only take place with certain chosen people that you trust absolutely. Hugs xx
ReplyDeleteI’m lucky , I have several such friends …
DeleteForgiveness and letting go are key to balance and well being. Your friendship with Eleanor is a treasure.
ReplyDeleteYes….and understanding where you go when in pain
DeleteYour walk with her was just what you needed.
ReplyDeleteOur talk was vital today
DeleteLovely ….. Eleanor is a true friend ( & very beautiful too ) She has amazing skin. Ask her what her secret is please? XXXX
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DeleteHer mother looks 60
I’m glad you were reminded how worthy you are. How privileged to have the friends you have.
ReplyDeleteI’ve always kept good friends throughout my life
DeleteNice start to the day and what a wonderful feeling to remember it: gentle perfume, soft hair, and wise words. Dorothy patiently waited!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
As she always does
DeleteI love a good hug. I was always told, when someone hugs you first, never be the first to let go.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a disastrous recipe for deadlock.
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Lockdown and covid stopped so many hugs
DeleteI’m making up for lost time
Means the hug goes on
DeleteTwo such beautiful faces.
ReplyDeleteOne beautiful , one somewhat shopworn lol
DeleteAnyone who did not know the back story might look at that top picture and think, "What a charming couple - so easy in each other's company".
ReplyDeleteAnd they’d be right x
DeleteSounds like a very productive day.
ReplyDeleteIt was john , a useful and important one
DeletePerfect - just what you needed I would say John.
ReplyDeleteIt’s been a good day pat
DeleteAfter my day grappling with solicitors and barristers etc, what a lovely perspective to find on opening your blog at the end of a long day ;) (oh lucky man).
ReplyDeleteThat perspective is useful dear P
DeleteYour friendship stories always make me wistful. We all need to find an 'eleanor' in our own lives.
ReplyDeleteShe looks like a good soul.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to have such a friend. You're a lucky man.
ReplyDeleteThe love and strength of friends is so powerful . I have popped in and out to read your blog over the last few years . I seem drawn to your kind and gentle writing . It is good to see that there are good things in your life . Long may it last .
ReplyDeleteThe support and advice of a friend who understands us is invaluable. Who can look at our problems with us, but in a helpful and positive way. And at the end make us feel stronger, more hopeful and loved. Lovely Eleanor.
ReplyDeleteJohn - you're a fortunate soul, indeed, to have an easy, and authentic (for me this means I can be who I am, warts and all) friendship. I feel like you're not a "small talk" kind of person (though we all can do it, if we must) and enjoy the deeper level conversations that can alter our thinking. These are the kinds of friends I have, and I pray that I am one, too.
ReplyDeleteYou have a wonderful and a good life.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.