You can hide people who are tagged in a photo so certain photos won't appear in your feed. Every now and then one pops up in mine that makes me flinch. When you can look at someone in a photo and not do that any more you know you have healed and moved on xxx
I didn't know you could disable that feature. You're past those days. You can be proud of forging on. It may not always be perfect, but you've made a life filled with people who love you. Your circle of friends always amazes me.
Memories - good or bad create the person we become: better, stronger and more resilient (than we were before). I associate all with you John! The journey hasn't been easy but you've done it with grace and courage. Dee
People say: "It's in the past." "Move on." "You have moved on". "He is history." Sure. YOUR history. Your SHARED history. Doesn't mean that( bitter) sweet moments can't be remembered, shouldn't be remembered. They should, John. They are part of your life, not to be denied.
The best advice I can give to anyone: Just because something ends doesn't mean it made the whole relationship valueless. It doesn't. Not for you, not for Chris. He will have as many fond memories of your time together as do you. Cherish those moments, embrace them even if they make you a little melancholic at times, like today.
New York is opening up again. The shows are reopening but I still would be afraid to go there. I live about one hour away and I miss running into the city for an evening.
Flashbacks of a previous life are hard. Looking forward and accepting things as they are without judgement is difficult some days but really it is for the best. My late uncle used to say, "All things happen for the best."
. . . . . and the winner is? YOU of course dear John. Proud of you - come back across the pond some day soon. If we can't make it to Wales perhaps we can meet up here.
Does ''disabled the facility" mean you have turned off History notifications from FB? If not, you can easily do so. Or harden your heart. NYC is here for you! Opening up and busy again.
I have been wondering if that nasty mouthed anonymous a-hole might possibly be your ex!! Anyway ... memories make up our life stories ... good, bad and/or indifferent they do crop up at unexpected times too often!!
Some past relationships bring pleasant memories. But I have a past relationship that brings me nothing but pain and I don't need FB to send me reminders of it! It's never far from my mind, unfortunately, although I try very hard to be rid of it/him.
I agree with Marcia LaRue that Anonymous seems like it might be your ex, just being his usual nasty self. Just note the many, many people who comment here who are your fans, compared to that one twit. Nina
Oh dear, piping up again, second time in a row (I hasten to add, with John's permission).
In answer to you, Nina, and Marcia LaRue, I can virtually guarantee that the Anon you are referring to is NOT Chris. He strikes me as far too intelligent (and mature) to do something so pointless and, potentially, hurtful to someone he once loved.
Maybe best not to speculate and stoke a fire where there isn't one.
I’ve always thought Facebook memories is quite an irresponsible feature - I had no idea they could be disabled. I hated them so much during the year after my Mum died that I ended up starting a whole new Facebook account! Not that I wanted to forget anything - but having old posts pop up without warning just isn’t welcome some days.
I didn't know you could disable the feature, either. Four years ago seems like a lifetime in some ways. There's been a lot of water that has crossed under the bridge, no?
I hate that Facebook sometimes turns up memories I would rather forget and didn't know you could switch it off. I will have to do a for and against analysis before I do as most of my memories are really good ones. Thankfully.
You have forged a new life in spite of what happened. Onward and upwards as the bishop said to the actress.
ReplyDeleteJust look how far you've come in the past year. You're doing great! xx
ReplyDeleteWell he's history now and you've both moved on.
ReplyDeleteIndeed x
DeleteAnother life, another world.
ReplyDeleteMy photo happiness broke my heart just a little x
DeleteSome things are not worth remembering.
ReplyDeleteI now try to just remember the precious times-and keep them safe-removing the sad-difficult though xx
ReplyDeleteYou can hide people who are tagged in a photo so certain photos won't appear in your feed. Every now and then one pops up in mine that makes me flinch. When you can look at someone in a photo and not do that any more you know you have healed and moved on xxx
ReplyDeleteI look like his present partner,, that kills me a little
DeleteI didn't know you could disable that feature. You're past those days. You can be proud of forging on. It may not always be perfect, but you've made a life filled with people who love you. Your circle of friends always amazes me.
ReplyDeletewow! so much has changed in four years
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DeleteWell I was thinking more of John's progress and covid and changes in my life. The prof is becoming irrelevant
DeleteAnonymous .. you know nothing. If you did, you wouldn't need to presume anything.
DeleteOh dear, I'm going to get foul mouthed and thoroughly unpleasant, so if you're easily offended, look away now!
DeleteAnonymous, (it's obvious which one I mean),
Just fuck off, shithead!
Ignore the absolute moron John, they are a sad nobody who has no life, no interests, no love, and cheap shoes!
I’m not bothered by them , infact ive just seen the comment
DeleteMemories can be bitter sweet.
ReplyDeleteGhosts of the past.
ReplyDeleteNew York is still there and so are YOU - and so much better than before by your own amazing determination. Applause and big hugs!
ReplyDeleteYou have got to come back to America!
ReplyDeleteCome to Chicago. Make new memories ;D
XOXO
You’re on xx
DeleteMemories - good or bad create the person we become: better, stronger and more resilient (than we were before). I associate all with you John! The journey hasn't been easy but you've done it with grace and courage. Dee
ReplyDeletePeople say: "It's in the past." "Move on." "You have moved on". "He is history." Sure. YOUR history. Your SHARED history. Doesn't mean that( bitter) sweet moments can't be remembered, shouldn't be remembered. They should, John. They are part of your life, not to be denied.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice I can give to anyone: Just because something ends doesn't mean it made the whole relationship valueless. It doesn't. Not for you, not for Chris. He will have as many fond memories of your time together as do you. Cherish those moments, embrace them even if they make you a little melancholic at times, like today.
New York, New York,
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Truer words were never typed!
DeleteMy ex and I managed to become friends after our divorce. He broke my heart but in his own way he helped me heal.
Sometimes the bad memories eclipse the good ones and it's better to forget the whole lot.
DeleteNew York is opening up again. The shows are reopening but I still would be afraid to go there. I live about one hour away and I miss running into the city for an evening.
ReplyDeleteFlashbacks of a previous life are hard. Looking forward and accepting things as they are without judgement is difficult some days but really it is for the best. My late uncle used to say, "All things happen for the best."
ReplyDelete. . . . . and the winner is? YOU of course dear John.
ReplyDeleteProud of you - come back across the pond some day soon.
If we can't make it to Wales perhaps we can meet up here.
Chin up dear heart - you have done wonders.
ReplyDeleteDoes ''disabled the facility" mean you have turned off History notifications from FB? If not, you can easily do so. Or harden your heart.
ReplyDeleteNYC is here for you! Opening up and busy again.
Yeah, sometimes we could do without those Facebook memories, right?!
ReplyDeleteI have been wondering if that nasty mouthed anonymous a-hole might possibly be your ex!!
ReplyDeleteAnyway ... memories make up our life stories ... good, bad and/or indifferent they do crop up at unexpected times too often!!
No it’s not him, I’ve always known that
DeleteI wouldn’t consider such a notion
Not his style at all
Thanks ... That's good to know, John.
DeleteXx
DeleteSome past relationships bring pleasant memories. But I have a past relationship that brings me nothing but pain and I don't need FB to send me reminders of it! It's never far from my mind, unfortunately, although I try very hard to be rid of it/him.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Marcia LaRue that Anonymous seems like it might be your ex, just being his usual nasty self. Just note the many, many people who comment here who are your fans, compared to that one twit.
Nina
Oh dear, piping up again, second time in a row (I hasten to add, with John's permission).
DeleteIn answer to you, Nina, and Marcia LaRue, I can virtually guarantee that the Anon you are referring to is NOT Chris. He strikes me as far too intelligent (and mature) to do something so pointless and, potentially, hurtful to someone he once loved.
Maybe best not to speculate and stoke a fire where there isn't one.
U
Nina my reply is above x
DeleteI’ve always thought Facebook memories is quite an irresponsible feature - I had no idea they could be disabled. I hated them so much during the year after my Mum died that I ended up starting a whole new Facebook account!
ReplyDeleteNot that I wanted to forget anything - but having old posts pop up without warning just isn’t welcome some days.
I am thinking about going back to New York next. It has been several years since Tink and I went. That year it was in the sixties in December.
ReplyDeleteI’m going back one day xx
DeleteI didn't know you could disable the feature, either. Four years ago seems like a lifetime in some ways. There's been a lot of water that has crossed under the bridge, no?
ReplyDeleteAnd you are still fabulous, John the dogs. xxx
Useful to know it's possible to disable that on Facebook. I prefer to remember things myself rather than be reminded by the internet.
ReplyDeleteI hate that Facebook sometimes turns up memories I would rather forget and didn't know you could switch it off. I will have to do a for and against analysis before I do as most of my memories are really good ones. Thankfully.
ReplyDeleteI dont like being reminded by a computer. If I want to remember, I will.
ReplyDeleteI'm not on face book but I love the photo of the handsome man in the back with the city beyond.
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