I'm on holiday
My first since September.
I caught up with ordinary jobs today
Shampooed Bluebell
Paid the fuel bill
Paid the fuel bill
Got spare door keys cut
Shopping
Pick up dog medicine
Haircut
There was a new girl working in the barbers today.
She chewed gum and looked bored
As usual I asked about her and her life
I find that's the best approach with bored hairdressers.
"I don't talk about politics " the girl explained when I asked her about what customers chat to her about. " My father always told me not to open my mouth about things I don't understand...if you do, " he said,"you look like a tit!"
"Good advice!" I agreed
What is the best bit of advice your father ever gave you?
I'd be interested to know
LOVED her reply! My Dad said this often: "If you can afford to eat out, you can afford to tip." I didn't know, really, what he meant deeply - I do now. The men and women who serve us are worth tipping well. Sure, there are some who, um, have issues. He also told us to try and get it worked out during the meal, rather than stiffing them at the end of the meal. Wise man.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your vaca!!!!
Thank you Karla ...I'm not doing much... but am going to London on Saturday to see my friend nu
DeleteIt was quite simple:
ReplyDelete"Be happy."
Because that's all you really get in life.
Sometimes the hardest to achieve
Delete"If you know how to read, you can find out how to do anything."
ReplyDeleteNowadays he may say google it
DeleteTreat all other road users as idiots.
ReplyDeleteThat was my dads
DeleteIt was not so much what he said, as all the things he taught me. He was a very handy guy and great with tools. As he didn't have any sons until later on, he taught me how to do a lot around the house and farm. It has all come in very useful in my life.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your time off.
Barb
Practical skills much better than words eh?
DeleteAgreed.
DeleteMy father told me never to trust a man who drove a white Jag', or anyone who had a double-barrelled name ending in Smith. The former I probably agree with, the latter I've ignored.
ReplyDeleteNow that needs explaining x
DeleteMy Dad always said "if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all." Good advice. But then when I was in 3rd or 4th grade he saw me scrutinizing my unflattering school pictures and said "you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!" Both those sayings stuck with me, the first one has always served me well - the second one affected my life more than I can describe here. Words can be so very hurtful and life changing.
ReplyDeleteMy mother always said this but when she was old she was a badmouthing cow
Delete" don't do as I do, do as I say". More like
Like Mother,like son.
DeleteRuth's reply above says a lot - and is true. All fathers( and mothers) should read it and take heed.
ReplyDeleteMy Dad was not one to hand out advice but what he did is to walk with me in the fields and lanes and point out (and name) the flowers and the birds and where they nested. These things have stayed with me throughout my life and still make it a happy one.
How lovely
DeleteYes nicely remembered x
DeleteDidn't have a dad around long enough to ever give me any advice. Probably for the best.
ReplyDeleteUnrelated- it's curious to me that in GB y'all say "Look like a tit" as a derogatory expression while we never do over here in the US. We say "Look like a dick."
Boobs over penises
DeleteHis advice - "It doesn't matter how many other people act like it is alright, if it's wrong, don't do it."
ReplyDeleteEvery time I took that advice, it helped me avoid serious problems. The times I didn't,sooner or later,I wished that I had. -Mary
Mary that first one is a cracker
DeleteMy father's advice was always moderation in all things. He usually shared this with my brother and I when he was tipsy! He was a kind man who also instilled in me not to judge others and to always remember that all human kind is on this earth to be respected and that is the piece of advice I value most from him.He taught me so much about tolerance maybe he should have been in politics!Missing you Dad x wish we could still sit up late to watch the Hammer horror films and drink the lukewarm tea I made which you always said was delicious xxxxx
ReplyDeleteAnother one nicely remembered
DeleteAlways go home with the one you came with. Ranee (MN) USA
ReplyDeleteWise
Deletemy Dad never could have said that one...he met my mom at a New Year's Eve party in 1947 ...he and my mom both ditched their dates and road home with friends..they were married 6 months later and lived pretty happily ever after...
DeleteMy father was a village schoolmaster and I became a teacher too. He advised me that the best way to engage non-academic boys was to get them doing practical things with their hands. (Preferably not "self abuse" as that would make them go blind!)
ReplyDeletePragmatic I like that
DeleteHmmm. I'd have to think about that one. My father wasn't big on advice!
ReplyDeleteMine wasn't big on chatting
DeleteProbably lots but one that comes to mind is 'don't walk the same route everyday'. He was referring to the fact that I could be followed so I shouldn't be predictable in where I am going.
ReplyDeleteThink outside the box... I like that
DeleteMy father taught me (nonverbally) that a good sense of humor can help you cope with a multitude of abuses. It works for me. I can be a tad *cough* obnoxious, but I cope.
ReplyDeleteI think my mother taught me the same thing
Delete‘It’s not what you look like that’s important, it’s who you are ‘ I can hear his voice now ( he died some years ago ) xx
ReplyDeleteIf only people all people believed that one
DeleteGrew up without a dad. Had a stepfather who was in and out of our lives wrecking havoc until mom got rid of him, but the absence of a dad and the chaotic times stepdad was around did act as advice. That advice being a woman can make it on her own and sometimes it works out better that way.
ReplyDeleteThat sounds identicle to my upbringing. I thought that not having a dad around I couldn't comment but reading your comment that is exactly it.
DeleteIdentical! Doh!
DeleteEveryone can comment.. advice comes from moms and grans too
Delete"Everyone can comment" ... Are you sure?
DeleteI don't think he ever bothered...
ReplyDeleteMany didn't
DeleteMy father once told me, during a rough time, that one must press on, no matter. I tell myself that quite often.
ReplyDeleteYes, good advice too
DeleteGet a good education...it is something no one can take away from you.
ReplyDeleteMost dads will say that one ...well hopefully
DeleteI don't think my father ever gave me any advice. But through watching him I learned the dangers of abusing alcohol.
ReplyDeletesame here.
DeleteSadly that has featured as a common theme in my comments sections
DeleteYou don't own things they own you. All those goodies require attention and space. Have what you need
ReplyDeleteI like the saying about antiques
Delete" you don't own them, you just look after them for a while"
As a father myself I'd say one good piece of advice would be: "Never try to engage your stylist in small talk. They should be concentrating on making you look awesome."
ReplyDeleteHe never said that
Delete"Never bet unless you know you are going to win".
ReplyDeleteI have never placed a bet.
Less advice more a riddle
DeleteWork hard, do your best, do not be afraid of failing, but learn from your mistakes. Always strive for fine craftsmanship. [he made beautiful furniture, built houses, etc]
ReplyDeletelizzy
PS I never chat w haircutters, not my job. Esp gum chewers, eeew.
Never run with scissors
DeleteNever stand up in a canoe
Okay his advice was trite but not that trite. And my children have taken it to heart, which impressed me.I did fall out of sailboat once tho, so the canoe bit might have helped.
DeleteSuch a timely question as we buried my dad one year ago today. Ben had one wife and four daughters. When people lamented that he never had a son he always said..."What are you talking about? I'm the luckiest man in the world". Dad taught us all to be brave, stand tall, jitterbug, sing in harmony, change our own flat tire, and not take any crap off anybody. I'm not a wealthy woman, but I hit the dad lottery. Missing him a lot today. X
ReplyDeleteNicely written dearheart
DeleteI was moaning to my dad that someone hadn’t bothered to come and see me for ages, he said Debbie darling ( when I was young I thought my name was Debbie darling ) it’s the same distance from your front door to theirs as theirs to yours, in other ways words stop whinging and you go and see them
ReplyDelete'Have an unreadable signature. If no one can read it, no one can copy it.'
ReplyDeleteWhen we all wrote cheques
DeleteMy dad taught by example rather than words. He was a dedicated medic who went the extra mile for his patients. All that I know and have practiced in life, of service and consideration of others, came from this modest, caring gentle man. A guiding light, much missed.
ReplyDeleteI think the ideal dad would be Atticus Finch ..who did both
DeleteHe never gave me any that I remember.
ReplyDeleteXx
DeleteMy dad once told me 'one of the best friends you can ever have is a good hobby'. It has proved to be true.
ReplyDeleteDo nothing to harm a child.
ReplyDeleteProfound and simple
DeleteMy Dad told me to pedal like mad and never look back. At the time he was teaching me to ride my first large bicycle … but thinking about it it's advice that's served me well all my life. Work hard and never return to or regret what's been or happened before.
ReplyDeleteAdvice I should take
DeleteWhen I was a young child I was helping my Dad build a stone masonry wall along our driveway. He told me that when I pick up a stone not put it down until it had a place in the wall. Something I’ve generalized to many endeavors as I go through life. Have an idea of what you’re about, execute your tasks as best as possible and complete what you started.
ReplyDeleteYou made your own advice there
DeleteMy dad said "If you don't need it, being at a great sale price doesn't matter."
ReplyDeleteand "Be kind - always."
Interesting advice here!!
Hugs!
The first one is sooootrueoh so true
DeleteAny landing you can walk away from, was a good landing.
ReplyDeleteOptimistic
DeleteNot to give advise, it's seldom appreciated.
ReplyDeleteThe best yet
DeleteI can't remember my Dad ever giving me advice.. if he did I certainly wasn't paying attention. But my mother dished it out in spades.. wanted or unwanted... one bit that stays with me to this day is "there are plenty more fish in the sea" when I was moaning about of a rotter of a boyfriend one time.
ReplyDeleteJo in Auckland
Mine never really did
DeleteOh I think he always reminded me to anticipate bad behaviour from other road users
i left home at 18 to live with my then boyfriend, my dad said to me 'if you realise you have made a mistake, don't be too proud to admit it, just come home' i did just that 18 months later xx
ReplyDelete" always leave the door open" that's a good lesson for us all
DeleteThe best advice my Dad gave me, and continues to do so at 102, was/is through his example of being a kind, generous to a fault, and humble man/
ReplyDeleteI always get how much you respect him when you wrote about him on the blog jimbo x
DeleteDON'T GAMBLE, my father was a Bookmaker and always said only one winner, that's the Bookie!
ReplyDeleteI have passed this onto my children as good advice and it has worked okay for us.
Dad has been dead for over 50 years now, l still think of him everyday, some tribute eh?
Tess xx
Advice half a century and still remembered
DeleteWhen I wasn't confident of doing something right, my father would say that if thousands of people less intelligent than me could do it, then I should have no trouble at all.
ReplyDeleteA Quiet vindication of u
DeleteWhen I left for college my father told me to stay away from sweet pretty cocktails with no alcohol taste which you can drink too many of and become drunk and vulnerable to men! His advice was to drink whiskey neat which doesn't taste good. Worked for awhile.
ReplyDeleteSo so !
DeleteDon't react, just show them you can do it!
ReplyDeleteSimple and effective
DeleteAfter a phone run-in with a confrontational colleague (in which I was in the wrong), Dad advised me to greet the other person next morning with a cheery, "Good morning, how are you?" After all, the argument was done, no reason to chew on old fat, right?
ReplyDeleteAs Dad predicted, this approach short circuited much awkwardness--much to my nasty colleague's surprise, and probably disappointment. He responded in kind, after performing the best double-take I've ever witnessed!
Some good advice, I'd of liked your dad
DeleteNever buy the cheapest, buy the best you can afford. That said, I realized when I was growing up that he had to settle for the cheapest more often than not, as money was tight.
ReplyDeleteI'm enjoying these
Delete‘Smile, nod and agree. Then do it your way.’
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteFractious children can nearly always be calmed by bathing them.
ReplyDeleteMost things are easier to handle if you sleep on it
Don't bother arguing with mum cis I'll never get anywhere
Really? The child thing is interesting
DeleteIt's a bit of an over simplification but yes, water is soothing and the one on one attention is always something they crave
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DeleteI loved the magic of baths for my littles...
My Dad didn't offer advice, but he was a wonderful parent who realised that we needed to make our own mistakes, he never criticised us and was so supportive. My Mum's best advice has to be 'collect all the evidence you can' this was in relation to a difficult work situation and be friendly to the domestic staff, both have paid dividends many times over.
ReplyDeletehe always said...wish in one hand and shit in the other. the man was a true poet.
ReplyDeleteMy Dad couldn't be bothered. My mother told me often to be kind, ironic as she was viciously unkind to me. Regardless I choose to be kind (most of the time, we all have our off days or misread a situation). My paternal grandfather and his wonderful sisters were Quakers, I am so thankful for their example. One part of their message is to treat people equally, a bit of a simplification but it has served me well.
ReplyDeleteAs long as you had a mentor xx
DeleteNever run after a streetcar, or a woman, there will be another one along in a minute.
ReplyDeleteWe both haven't done that with either lol
DeleteMine - I struggled to remember any advice, but he did teach me to drive by 12 and to be able to shoot a semi automatic rifle, reload the magazine and how to track and set traps.
ReplyDeleteMy father taught me to drive.... that was his biggest achievement with me
DeleteNever sneeze with your eyes open.
ReplyDeleteOr they will pop out!!!!
DeleteHey Jaz@octoberfarm--did we have the same dad?? My dad said that so often i can still hear his voice-sorta set the tone for the future, dont you think?The other "words of wisdom" was "You dont need a man to have a great life" Well, I've had the same "man" since 1959 so I cant say he was right about that !!
ReplyDeleteSnapshots echo in your head eh?
DeleteI can’t remember my dad giving advice but he always showed us about love by the way he treated and adored my mom.
ReplyDeleteAlways check the backseat before you get in the car. Enjoy your break!
ReplyDeleteNever get married because you're pregnant, stood me in good stead, surprisingly!
ReplyDeleteDarn.
ReplyDeleteI don’t really remember anything deep or salient he ever said. I’m gonna have to think about this one...
XoXo
Never borrow things from other people
ReplyDeleteDriving past a bar/strip club he told me that if he ever found out I was in a place like that he would break both my legs. He didn't like me much but I never went in a place like that!
ReplyDeleteDon't judge a book by its cover....or a bottle of wine by its label. Gosh..i loved my dad & miss him every day.
ReplyDeleteI remember two main valuable pieces of advice: (1) finish the task you're doing before starting another, and (2) always put things back where they belong as soon as you're done using them.
ReplyDeleteDon't get pregnant. Yeah, that worked out well.
ReplyDeleteMy Dad said to always eat dessert first-life is short! He was right.
ReplyDelete"Never lose touch with old friends"
ReplyDeleteDad died 59 years ago, but I remember him saying,"Don't take any wooden nickels." As a result I have avoided Bitcoin and all decentralized digital currency.
ReplyDeleteNever put anything in your mouth unless it's been boiled first.
ReplyDeleteerrr....always twist the blade when you pull it out...he was a very odd sort of dad
ReplyDeleteMy brother and I could count on one hand between the amount of advice given to us by our parents. I wish I could remember something of import, but only jokes Dad told come to mind.
ReplyDeleteDon't take any wooden nickels.
Don't eat any yellow snow.
Fight only for your life...chop someone in the throat, poke an eye out, break a knee...with 3 daughters he couldn't keep an eye on us forever...so we learned some Marine Corps moves...my favorite was drive a pencil into an ear...thank God I've never had to use these...but did elbow a friend pretty hard in the gut...he ran up behind me as I was getting into my car at night...my cars were in my hand as I turned to maybe take an eye out...
ReplyDeleteMy dad was not a wise man, but he was a good one. I learned practical skills from him, too. His best advice was probably his frequent bellowing, "This place looks like a bloody Christmas Tree!" as he turned almost every light off in the house. To this day I hear his voice and turn lights off as I leave a room!
ReplyDeleteLong before Nike, my Dad always said don't talk about it do it. Wish I'd taken his advice.
ReplyDeleteMy parents were very young parents but they managed fairly well with me and my little brother.
ReplyDeleteI did ok and baby brother is involved with nuclear energy.
My dads advice was usually some kind of caution...
He still gives me advice if I ask for it💕
But so does my baby brother :)
A man with a short pencil can remember a lot more than a man with a long memory.
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