I read 2 newspapers and people watched.
I shared my table with a chatty new age father with his baby and then an old couple from Frodsham
Later I overheard a slightly abusive conversation between a lesbian couple where one was berating the other's dress sense stating that she hadn't made an effort for her
When they left I mouthed at the woman on the receiving end of the insult that she looked " mighty fine ".
She didn't see
People watching is simply one of my favourite passtimes. The other day I went swimming with a friend and we were chatting While I was taking the mick out of a deep sea diver they'd called in to repair the pool and she turned to me and said "oh my god you're as mean as your wife". I felt really proud.
ReplyDeleteLol that made me titter kev
DeleteSounds like a hetero married couple.
ReplyDeleteOh no it was all rather barbed
DeleteAre you saying that hetero couples don't make barbed remarks? I know some who do and it always makes me glad I am not married to the male half (however, he probably thinks the same about me)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely not pat.. it was just dysfunctional couple speak
DeleteDid she not see or did she choose not to see? Perhaps it's her way to be blind.
ReplyDeleteWe just didn't catch each other's eye
DeleteThat was sweet of you. She probably would have appreciated it had she seen you.
ReplyDeleteI wish she had... I tried hard to catch her eye
DeleteI only criticize my lesbian partner's outfit before we leave the house!
ReplyDeleteAHA! So you finally admit it! I loved your daughter's reaction when you said that you were not a lesbian. Talk about stunned incredulity.
DeleteWell well
DeleteGood for YOU!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure she would have appreciated your efforts if she had seen you. I love people watching too.
ReplyDeleteI would have liked to have said something to the woman spitting out the bile
DeleteI always figure if someone is berating their partner in public, it must be even worse in private. Hope that's not so.
ReplyDeleteSue, I think the same
DeleteIt is worse in private.... Or at least more frequent
DeleteDon't they have cafes in Frodsham? It see,s a long way to travel for flat whites and sausage rolls.
ReplyDeleteChester ?
DeleteOh. I thought your favourite cafe was at Prestatyn.
DeletePerhaps the poor woman who endured the slings and arrows from her partner felt the caring vibes from you even if your eyes didn't meet. Hope she also has the strength to leave that situation.
ReplyDeleteI live about 2 miles from Chester, Virginia.
Hugs!
Speaking of being able to say something ''when I was early married to my husband, we would go to tea in the afternoons sometimes with his friend Richard. Richard was an authentic hilarious kind and generous drag queen ... and the ¨Fairy¨Godmother to my son.He took his job seriously. We were in a well known cafe in NYC one day and chatting and relaxing and we noticed the woman at another table staring and giggling at Richard. Then she said , too loudly , Look , a Fairy.
ReplyDeleteAnd Richard slowly put down his cup and said, in his best Opera voice ... Madame, If I were a fairy, I would whip out my and and give you a better nose job.
She was embarrassed and red faced, I almost fell out of my chair giggling ...
whip out my wand
DeleteI love this!
DeleteI applaud your effort to reach the lady being berated, even if she didn't end up catching it. I always want to say something in such situations (or if parents are being unfair or unpleasant to their little ones) but I never have the nerve. Also, I have heard it said that sometimes the abuse gets worse at home if a stranger intervenes. I don't know what the answer is.
ReplyDeleteYou direct your comment to the victim "are you OK?"
DeleteThey will say they are but it doesn't upset the fragile ego of the abuser so they won't escalate later and it usually acts as a circuit breaker
Thank you, kylie - I'd have thought even this would anger the abuser. It makes me feel helpless; the last thing I want to do is make things worse.
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DeletePeople watching should be an olympic sport. And it's sweet you tried to reach out to the lady who was being berated. Shame on her partner!
ReplyDeleteXOXO
I'm rather loathe to intervene these days after an strange incident in Weston Supermare some years ago. A girl with two young men who was screaming her lungs out, my then partner felt that his intervening who cause further problems (he was 6'5 and weighed about 20 stones) so I marched over and asked her to walk away with me, but she said that she was ok and looked at me like I was something she had trodden in. I said that perhaps she should stop screaming in that case, but I think more carefully now before I do anything.
ReplyDeleteBetter to make an attempt and be sent away than to ignore a real problem. Also remember that victims are often too afraid to walk away but it's important to let them know you notice
DeleteWorst 'domestic' argument in public I've ever witnessed happened thirty years ago, while working in Covent Garden.
ReplyDeleteI worked night shifts in a very small specialist hospital just on the edge of Covent Garden.
On hearing a racket out side, we looked out of the window to the night club opposite.
There was a man in drag being hit on the head by another man in drag by a very pointed high heeled stiletto heel. The argument went along the lines of 'You beast, you beast. I've a good mind to let you walk home' At this point they were sprawled across the bonnet of a car.
The sight of a Police man walking across ended the row abruptly.
They both seemed to be satisfied as they got up, straightened their skirts. Linked arms and wandered off.
People watching is one of my favourite past-times. I love my local Booths restaurant that has tables for two overlooking the shopping aisles. I never like to clog up a table for four when I'm on my own.
ReplyDeleteThose coffee shops are quite the places to people watch, and listen. It's amazing what goes on in public.
ReplyDeleteWaitrose cafe is our go to place 2 or 3 times a week, we sit and read the papers and people watch just like you. we love it.
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Having endured being pulled to bits for years by a surreptitiously abusive husband I applaud you for trying to help. I finally escaped but not without feeling worthless.
ReplyDeleteQuite astounding just how many of us have suffered from abusive relationships.
ReplyDeleteIt is.
DeleteHopefully she somehow got the message anyway. Or knows it inwardly.
ReplyDeleteLOVE 'people watching'!
ReplyDeleteI think people watching is my very favorite thing to do. People listening...not so much. I try to tell funny stories to my table partners when I know someone is sitting so close that they can hear every word. Sometimes it is all they can do not to laugh along with us!
ReplyDeleteShe hadn't made an effort "for her"?!? How kind. I wish she had seen you.
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