The Waiting Room


Do you remember Tom Hank's character in The Green Mile? 
He was the one plagued by recurrent urine infections that were eventually cured by the saintly John Coffey 
My John Coffee is a box of trimethoprim antibiotics.
And after a second dose my abdominal pain and nausea has started to subside.
I can't tell you just how ill these infections leave a a person.

Yesterday I could only walk Mary for twenty minutes or so before a toilet visit was in a order, so bumping into Jenny the old post mistress proved to be a bit of trial of cross leggedness so to speak.
She was anxiously waiting outside the house of her daughter in law waiting to hear if her grandchild had been born.
" The birthing pool has been delivered " she said excitedly
I haven't been quite well enough today to check on what happened ....a baby born in the village....how wonderful is that ?

I missed choir practise last night which was a real shame,, but I knew I needed antibiotics so a visit to the GP out of hours had to be organised.
Now in our neck of the woods you talk to a nurse on the phone who completes her algorithm of information you provide. If she thinks it necessary, then you are given an appointment with a doctor based at the local hospital's ER department . You sit with all of the other people waiting their long turn in casualty but you are seen at the time of your appointment .
It's a good system.

I almost passed out sat in the waiting room. I was hot and it was hot and I'd just peed ground glass in the the loo. I must have looked rough because the receptionist mouthed " are you ok?" From inside her booth....
I mouthed back " I'm ok" and crossed my legs.

I only had to wait a further few minutes before I was called . In that time I watched a couple in front of me as they waited for the triage nurse. He was the attentive one, going to the desk, collecting a cup of water, helping his wife to stand up on her swollen fat feet,
And I found myself envying that attention as I sat there by myself .
Being alone and unwell
Isn't nice.

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  1. I do hope you are feeling like your old self soon. As one who knows, UTIs are decidedly unpleasant! (Try stirring a teaspoon of baking soda in water and drinking it to help alleviate some of the pain. Don't know the science behind it, but I know it works for me). Take care. -Jenn

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    1. I've just tried this, thank you..I am feeling better generally

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  2. I hophope you're beginning to feel better now and that your animals are behaving themselves. Thankfully, I don't suffer from UTI's but I like to be left alone when I'm ill, I am not a good patient and I know it.
    A bit of you time today, for you I think.
    Take care.

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    1. The animals are not behaving thelselves
      Winnie actually climbed onto the kitchen table in order to lick my breakfast plate. She knocked over a jug of flowers

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    2. I am so sorry to say that I couldn't help laughing at Winnie. Animals, much as love them, can be so badly behaved. Hope you are feeling better soon.

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  3. Anonymous11:29 am

    For all sorts of reasons, today I had the support of my partner and I later thanked him for it. Not sure what I did, was his reply. Just to have that person there is so helpful. I understand what you are saying.

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  4. Anonymous11:32 am

    It is a very difficult time for you. I know how you are feeling. One day you will find someone who loves you so much that he will stay with you till the end. You have to believe you deserve this and never give up hope.
    PS
    I watched a movie that you recommended and enjoyed
    it very much.The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society. I look forward to another recommendation.
    Take care

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  5. Anonymous11:35 am

    Same here but include a chest infection, the high dose of antibiotics leaves me nauseous with a horrible stomach, I’m taking probiotics but there not helping much it’s just yuck, Hope you days get better, Jo

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  6. Yes, there is something a bit scary about being alone and ill. Take care and I hope the meds have kicked in. All the best John.

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  7. We're all with you in spirit, but it's not quite the same as us being there to hold your hand, is it? (Think the hospital would have been a bit crowded if we were!).

    Naughty Winnie!

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  8. I do hope you feel better soon John

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  9. I am guessing the dogs - especially dear Winnie know you are out of sorts, so are feeling out of sorts too.
    I do hope it won't be too long before you are 100% again.
    {{hugs}}

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  10. So sorry to know you are having such a difficult time,John. I hope you can at least rest and sleep comfortably and soon feel some real relief.-Mary

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  11. I hope you get rid of the infection and can get back to your normal hectic routine asap!

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  12. Used to have constant UTI problems till OH came accross an article about sodium lauryl sulphate while waiting for me at the uroligists. This stuff is in almost everything toothpaste shampoo even some medications. I cut it out and no more UTI and no more mouth ulcers either. Just saying, hope you are feeling better.

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  13. Thinking of you, hope this day is so much better for you !

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  14. I would have taken you to your appointment and sat with you but I'm too far away. Get better soon. I expect all your defences are down at the moment.

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  15. You are a champ at keeping yourself occupied, so it's no surprise that a moment of enforced idleness at such a difficult time makes for a low point. If empathy provides any solace, I offer you mine. If it's a bootstraps lecture you need, just let me know!

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  16. It's grim - I was lucky enough to have a close friend who took me to A&E on occasion but she's moved away, and other friends are generally too busy or have family obligations.

    I keep a stock of anti-cystitis sachets so as soon as it starts, you can drink some to relieve the pain, although bicarbonate will do it as well these taste slightly better. Tip: Tesco sell an own-brand version that's much cheaper than the branded ones!

    One of the hardest things about being ill on your own is deciding if it's bad enough to see a doctor. Sometimes you need someone else to say 'you need to get that checked out', rather than struggling on. Well done for looking after yourself.

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  17. I am pleased you are feeling somewhat better and I hope fully recovered by the time you finish the course of pills. Good luck being cross with your inconsiderate menagerie - I suspect the love they give back to you will heal the irritations of "wiping their arses"

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  18. I'm no stranger to the UTI, so I really feel for you. Going through some other health issues at the moment and have lived alone for 35 years. My kids are lovely but live a long way away. Being ill and alone is so awful - the long nights are the worst. Having said that, because I am quite used to having to get on with it, I find I really value when nurses and doctors are kind and understanding. One nurse even held my hand all the way through a cataract operation.

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  19. MaggieB1:08 pm

    No, it’s not nice. Chin up! Hopefully the worst is over with now.

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  20. There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said here but I will add my own wishes for things to be better all the way around.

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  21. Do hope that you are soon feeling better!

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  22. We don’t appreciate feeling good until we feel bad. I hope the medicine makes you feel well quickly.

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  23. John, you might try DMannose. It’s a type of sugar that attaches to the bad and is flushed out. It works really well for me as I can’t tolerate antibiotics. Should find it at a health food store or on the Internet.

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  24. Glad you have that in hand. I've had a few and they are truly awful.

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  25. In the past I had the odd urine infection. Until treated I would feel very lethargic, my energy blunted. Fingers crossed I haven't had one in quite a while. Thank God for antibiotics.

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  26. Hope everything you are taking has kicked in by now John - this is one of those infections that is waiting on the sidelines to attack when you are feeling low anyway.

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  27. No, it isn't nice, and I'm sorry you're dealing with it by yourself. But I'm glad to hear you're getting better.

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  28. I know it's a cliche, but get well soon.

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  29. had one of those once; thought I was gonna die! get better soon; the doggies need you!

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  30. Barbara Anne3:22 pm

    Am glad you have the proper antibiotics to cure you sooner rather than later and also some really good tried and true suggestions to help in the meantime. It's good to read that you're already feeling better.

    When we had dogs, we had to keep our kitchen chairs pushed under the table so they dogs wouldn't get up there. Tsk, tsk, Winnie!

    Hope William is improving, too.

    Hugs!

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  31. I’m sending you the biggest, most tightly squozed, squeeziest hug. Really hope you feel better very soon. Is William much better by now? I do hope so xxx

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  32. Hope you are feeling better John. I've been feeling a bit weird lately - I know I grind my teeth but "uncomfortable" feelings in my jaw and down to my chest on occasion. I know the symptoms of heart attack of course but couldn't decide if I just needed a better bra!! Ha! It's probably that. I've made an appointment with a cardiologist in any case. You know for me, I was better off being ill alone because I didn't feel I had to get up and feed his Lordship or have him wake me with the loudest TV anyone ever heard. I'd rather do it on my own to be honest - I was more alone in my marriage than I am now, but I know that wasn't your case! Chin(s) up (that goes for me too by the way). Anna

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  33. Sometimes even when you do have a 'better half', you can end up without the support you need. Try giving birth (twice) all on your own, for instance. You have friends and family who I'm sure would offer the help that you require next time you're feeling like a crock of shit.

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  34. I'm a bit late with comments as I have already read your next one, being on your own in the waiting room is hard not the best place to start a conversation.
    Glad that you got in so quickly and glad that the antibiotics kicked in John.

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  35. I’m glad you have your antibiotic. Being alone while sick isn’t fun. My poor cats have to hear my bellowing aches and pains. Hope your over this soon! Gabs

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  36. Your out of hours medical system sounds like a huge improvement on ours.
    Glad that you have the antibiotics.
    And hugs.

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  37. Been there, done that. It was my second dose of AN that worked, thank GodGod. Hope you are soon 100%. 😱

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    1. For the sake of clarity, I hate predictive text. My second dose of antibiotics, and no, I didn't type God twice!!

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  38. Happy the antibiotics are working . . .
    It is that feeling of lonely, alone . . .
    that I wish I could help . . .

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  39. John do get the Ural or equivalent sachets, the effervescent drink it makes tastes meh but much better than bicarb and really helps to dissolve the glass. Also, cranberry juice really works.
    Your experience reminds me of a time twenty years ago when I was single and had terrible stomach pains in hte night. Eventually I had to get up and go to the after hours clinic, because being by myself my brain was just churning it all over and it was horrible. They couldn't find anything wrong and it cost me a fortune but I was able to fix their printer in reception before I went home. It felt good to be useful. I think the pain was just wind.

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  40. Can certainly empathize with what you're experiencing and hope the worst is over soon, if not by now. Also, interesting to read what your system is there for seeking urgent care -- also, when I consider what sort of health care system changes are needed in our U.S. system.
    Likewise, was quite an adjustment when I became a widow and the first time (even subsequent ones) when I became ill and was alone. Can be challenging. FWIW I proposed a local group set up through our city Senior Services to address those choosing to "Age in Place" or "Live In Place". My ideas were welcomed and a group called "Thriving In Place" had been setup -- basically a networking/conversational/support group -- will include some who live alone as I do -- composed of those 55 years and up in age, but wouldn't have to be age restricted. We have our first gathering later this month. Could be set up for any ages. Your community sounds like it could be prime for such a group and though I don't know you, you sound like you could be a perfect facilitator.

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  41. Hoping things have 'turned a corner' for you, John. Do take care.

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  42. John I know the feeling not long after my break up I had to go to hospital and that damn next of kin box had me undone. Its the most vulnerable of feelings being alone when you are unwell. Hope you are feeling better now and one day at a time brother. Its a slow process of falling down and dragging yourself up again hey. You can do it. Hugs x

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