I'm there enough to really appreciate your best wishes
( and also the offer of money which made me smile)
It's like having several hundred people gently supporting your bra straps
You feel lifted!
I'm ok....and I will be ok
I am sure
( and also the offer of money which made me smile)
It's like having several hundred people gently supporting your bra straps
You feel lifted!
I'm ok....and I will be ok
I am sure
In the darkest of times, I remind myself, that every sunrise is a new opportunity.
ReplyDeletePlease give me the address of the one who offered you money.
ReplyDeleteNo! I need all the help I can get x
DeleteTake care lovely John. xx
ReplyDeleteYour in our hearts and homes every day. Elle xx
ReplyDeleteI bore hundreds daily
DeleteYou delight hundreds daily!!
DeleteI know you will be alright, you have a strong, much loved support system who adore you. And you strong too.
ReplyDeleteAnd if that's doesn't do the trick, would it make you feel better if I sleep with you? lol!!!!! xoxox
Ok just the once...twice if you are good xx lol
Deleteoh she's GOOD...I have it on the highest authority!
DeleteFunny xx
DeletePic or it never happened! XO
DeletePS - you need to change your "about me" text on the right side. and remove another pix a bit farther down.
ReplyDeleteAll in good time.
DeleteYou are a kind and wonderful and loving person. You are a true friend. It's only natural that the same type of people are drawn to you and want to be your friend.
ReplyDeleteJohn Gray
It's true, most days you remind me of the sun.
You bring warmth and joy and radiate love.
But more importantly, I think of you as a star.
You're the light who keeps the darkness away, safely guiding lost souls home.
You give hope to all you gaze upon you, like sparkling diamond in a black velvet sky,
Giving us faith that things will get better.
You dazzle defiantly in pitch black night,
And light the way out of the dark.
And by your glowing, indefatigable caring nature, and passion for life and kindness,
You show us that we are stronger than we realize, more resilient than we believe, and can be greater, better, and happier than we can ever imagine.
You radiate love.
You are love.
So keep shining bright.
You make the world a more wonderful and amazing place to live.
What beautiful gentle words.
DeleteThis is just lovely!
DeleteI love your blog and am sending love and hope to you from Devon - another bra strap for you! Please don't stop blogging - I believe I would go into a decline! Much love xxx Alex
ReplyDeleteYou will be okay, but it will take time. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself.
ReplyDeleteOh course you'll be okay. Doesn't mean that this isn't insanely difficult and sad and horrible and life-changing and all of that other stuff. Some things you just have to go through to get through, feeling it all, as hard as that is.
ReplyDeleteAs someone who was sublimely happy and then woke up to the end of my world one morning , never thinking I would even be able to smile again, I am here to say that each day gets the tiniest bit better until one day you stop and realize that you didn’t cry once all day- that you actually laughed out loud- that you didn’t think about a particular person all day ...To me, that’s all it takes.
ReplyDeleteAnd sloppy puppy kisses and a cat wrapped around your leg when you try to walk around or waking up and not thinking of the sad stuff first.
All it takes is Time.
And all the love and good wishes from us.
Candice said what I feel SO much more eloquently. We're all here to hug, or take a big stick to someone if that's your wish.
DeleteTake care of yourself,treat yourself and love yourself as you would a friend.You know you are wonderful John-we all love you xx
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with Candice and Catrina. We got your back.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read this ... much love to you .
ReplyDeleteBe gentle with yourself XXX
You will be fine because you are just that sort. Strong, capable and funny as hell! At this point I feel a bit sorry for the Prof and his family, what a sad loss for them.
ReplyDeleteYou are such wonderful company John.
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I'm trying to remember what a bra strap is. Never mind. You have a lot of people at your back, John. Try not to get paranoid about it. More hugs, sir.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you've let it out, I think you will feel better now. Hiding heartbreak is exhausting, I know! I expect you will try to remain amicable during the break up but get yourself a good solicitor anyway. xxx
ReplyDeleteYou better believe you are OK - you are John Gray and you have a heck of a lot going for you! Life gives us ups and downs. We love, we learn, we mourn and we move on. One day at a time and when necessary one minute at a time. You are a survivor! xxx
ReplyDeleteYou are a beautiful man in every way. You will get through this.
ReplyDeleteThis too shall pass, and better times are ahead.
ReplyDeleteYou have 355 hugs on your last post. I think your covered in good wishes.
ReplyDeleteWinston and I are sending hugs.
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And you look just like the actor in Hitherland (?) with your new photo
DeleteI have been silent not really by choice but by the effect of a cerebral hemorrhage that mixes everything but allowed me at least to read in silence. Call it what you want but for a small while I sensed something missing here. Didn't think about it much or worried because to worry about something I was told when I was a child it is always like a prayer for something you don't want to happen. So worrying I didn't.
ReplyDeleteBut I thought about the silent side of yours posts, the babies were all alright, and so was your family but there was the silent of the room of two only in my book...There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better because there is no better in the land you are still in now. But, time as always has the remedy, a secret that unfortunately none of us have so far discovered the name or, the formula. But it works because time is the first and last step of our experiences.
You will be fine, not because here we all wish it, but because you have a spirit that freely reveals the needs of your own, and instead to use that knowledge to serve you alone, I have seen you used that to help others. The generosity of one's experience can and it does, make magic for others, and for us as well in time. You are very rich there and if you must give some time to sadness or melancholy, you must make sure that happiness and dare I say fun? can visit without regrets. You and the Professor had something special, often we humans fail to see that until is gone to speak about. May I say that I never read or seen anything from you to validate that? That is why I believe that you will be alright. Someone like you is hard to find, unfortunately. Let's hope this transit won't be later a regret but a memory here and there until you feel free to be whoever you want to be not alone, but not longer just a half either but a sole reason to spend your life there.
Whatever that may be I can only give you an old woman's suggestion: don't change. You are very fine the way you are.
❤️ Wise words!
DeleteLoved your thoughts, comment . . .
DeleteWise, beautiful . . .
and with gentle caring . . .
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ReplyDeleteThe very last thing you needed right now is a "What are you going to do?" question. Sorry!
DeleteJust read everything today, you are so loved by your blog community, we are all hurting for you.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to escape for a little while, my family welcomes you to come on out to the Yukon. Five minutes drive from my street and we are out in the wilderness, land of the Klondike Gold Rush. Steeped in history, bears,caribou, moose, salmon and eagles.....!
Now please refrain from singing ala Monty Python," I'm a Lumberjack",all you bloggers reading this!
So sorry..just read this, as I'm on holiday. I don't even know you, but can tell you have a big heart and a lot of love to give...you have tons of friends out here that you don't even know about. Lots of love.
ReplyDeleteYou are such a wonderful person,you will be OK.
ReplyDeleteProud to be a bra strap.
ReplyDeleteYou'll be fine - just not immediately.
Several hundred people to lift you by your bra straps? Humungous tits.
ReplyDeleteAnd hugs.
Our girl and 2 grandchildren who have lived with us for the last 4 years are living proof that tough times don’t last. She went home after a doctors appointment, her partner told her he no longer loves her and she and the children who were 4 and 10 months old need to leave. It was 3 days before Christmas and I can’t put into words the distress it caused our daughter she was inconsolable, as it turned out this was just the beginning, he was having an affair with a colleague but they keep that secret for a year while telling everyone our girl was unfaithful, he changed the locks on their house cancelled the private health for her and the children but keeping it for him, cancelled her phone so she had to get a new number doing this on her birthday so she couldn’t receive any birthday wishes, It’s impossible to write all the horrible things this man did to someone he promised to love and cherish above all others. She could no longer talk to him so communicated through emails but they were so abusive she had her lawyer deal with them and also the property settlement, because he told her she’d not contributed to any of the house payments so wasn’t entitled to any money, she was working all but 2 months. She would cry and cry saying no one will ever love her again, well let me tell you this brave courageous child of ours has just last week finished her uni degree for teaching and yesterday was accepted to do her masters, she her new partner and 2 children will be moving into the house she now owns but was locked out of. I have dithered about posting this because I know your pain is still raw and I don’t want to make it worse, Jo
ReplyDeleteSo glad this turned out well for your daughter and her children. It almost mirrors what my Bestie in NZ is going through with her daughter and small children right now.
DeleteYou've been a support for so many going through difficult times. I hope there are people nearby why can support you now. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteYou have many cheerleaders worldwide! We are here to raise you up! x
ReplyDeleteSo many virtual hugs from we Blog friends is wonderful x
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ReplyDeleteMost days you will be OK, some days you won't but you'll get through, that's what I'm finding anyway.
ReplyDeleteMore Hugs from Suffolk
Always look on the bright side of life, Dee dum, Dee dum, Dee dummdy dum Dee dum!xxxx
ReplyDeleteOf course you will be OK - you are a born survivor. In your jobs both as Samaritan and as a Nurse you have seen people thrive after adversity. And so will you - why you are already making bra strap jokes!
ReplyDeleteYou have to be John Gray, you have to be !! But I do send you my love xx
ReplyDeleteYou had kind words for me when my daughter's long term partner abandoned her a year ago. She still hurts but in another way she is stronger and more successful and fighting her way back to happiness. Stay strong.x
ReplyDeleteLove and hugs to you John.xxx
ReplyDeleteI believe what goes around comes around..and all the love, care kindness and compasion you have given and shown to your fellowmen and women will now come back to sustain you in the coming weeks and months.Just keep putting one foot in front of the other..and if you're going through hell? just keep going!!
ReplyDeleteIt must have been a difficult step for you to share the current situation in your life, but the old saying rings true "sharing a trouble is a trouble halved".
ReplyDeleteThere will obviously be ups and downs, but your positive response is heart warming to read........"I'm ok....and I will be ok"
I need my bra straps, would knickers elastic do? Sending good wishes John.
ReplyDeleteHi John, It's time to be kind to yourself and surround yourself with loved ones. I have been reading your blog for years and feel that I have come to know you through it. You are a wonderful, funny and kind person who has a huge heart.You will be okay, you will get through this it will just take time to heal. But know you are loved (just as you are) not just by friends and family but in the bloggy land as well :). Goldensunflower xxx
ReplyDeleteYou've been hoicked so far up it's a wonder you can still breathe 😉
ReplyDeleteIt will get better ... I promise ♥️
John, I am so sorry to read these posts. You WILL be fine, as you said. What hurts now will not always hurt. And who knows what will happen with all the people you know through the Prof -- only time will tell. Please take care of yourself.
ReplyDelete💖💖💖 Cathy xxx
ReplyDeleteI don't want to overwhelm you with platitudes but when you look back at the darkest moments of your life you often find that they happened for a reason and that good things eventually come from the bad.
ReplyDeleteSending you hugs xxx
So much love for you around the globe. We are International bra straps! I'm worried now that you will also still be leaving the home you love so much? I hope you are able to stay put (if that indeed is what you want?) whilst things are being discussed Xx
ReplyDeleteYou could always phone The Samaritans.
ReplyDeletegood crack..
DeleteYou think that's funny?
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I am sending you 2 wires from a bra to go with the straps. You will survive - lots of love from a fellow Nurse xxxx
ReplyDeleteYou will be ok. Just reading the support you are receiving from people who follow your blog must indeed be of help. Good luck as you navigate these new waters.
ReplyDeleteYou will be OK - more than OK, as you always have been, cross your heart (this is a lingerie joke, in case you didn’t know!)
ReplyDeletesgree, lets lighten the load.
DeleteAll the best,John.
ReplyDeleteHi John, checking up on my neighbour, as I described you a few weeks ago, commiserations to you from someone who is now 18 months down the track from where you are at the moment. I found you and other members of blogland at that time as I was looking for something to help get me through the day,as I live in Australia the time difference meant that I had something to look forward to of a morning, I always keep yours till last,as in my book you win the top blog and top bloke award.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing I did was go and get myself a job, picture me if you will, a five foot nothing, 66year old, white haired lady driving a black delivery van.
I know you still have your registration, brush up those old skills that we never lose, I was a nurse, and get yourself a couple of shifts a week, raises the self esteem enormously, you might not then even need all those bra straps.
The platitudes are true, time does heal and you don't die from a broken heart, all the best for happy times ahead for you, xx
Yes, that's true - going back to work after 9 years at home literally saved me after my sudden divorce. In fact, I'm recently "retired" now, but starting to feel isolated and lonely again, so I'm thinking of going back to work yet again! Volunteering and working a bit from home just isn't working for me - I have to have something I'm REQUIRED to do every day or I may just choose to stay in my pajamas and not get out...
DeleteJohn, there's nothing I can say to take away the hurt and the emptiness you must be feeling right now. I can tell you from personal experience that life will get better. You have so many blog friends that love and admire you, and I bet that's a lot more than the Prof has. Blessings
ReplyDeleteYou have that much support it will warrant a ‘full cup’!!! XX
ReplyDeleteFor once I am relieved you have "dependents" - nineteen or so legs, five heads and hearts between them, relying on you.
ReplyDeleteEverything will be fine, John (please do note future tense). It's one of my mantras. Most the time I believe it myself - even when one of my bras' hooks give up the will to live - never mind the straps you mention. By which time it needs to be replaced anyway.
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You WILL make it though this, John. Just get up in the mornings, take care of your animals, get out of the house, let your feelings be whatever they are, talk about it (a lot) with your family and friends, let people help and comfort you. And, finally, one day you will realize that you feel happy and at peace again.
ReplyDeleteAnd to help you along - I live just a couple of blocks from Rick and Lorie's family home in the Walking Dead, 817 Cherokee Ave here in Atlanta. https://atlanta.curbed.com/2016/6/29/12060022/sheriff-rick-house-the-walking-dead-for-sale You should think about coming for a visit; there may be a sighting of a cast member or two (I told you before that I sat right next to Maggie and Rosita at a restaurant one night!). Hugs, xx
You are rich in so many of the ways that matter in life, but, don't forget, you have £££ rights as well. Get advice!
ReplyDeleteYour virtual family will always be here to lift your bra straps. I just wish we could do more. Through the years you have given us so much of yourself. We have cried and laughed with you. You have also given us much food for thought. It's the very least we can do.
ReplyDeleteI just came here to see what my blog buddy John was up to and I am completely stunned, totally a deer in the headlights! Absolute silent hugs to you John, no questions, just a huge hug for you. :(
ReplyDeleteCatching up. I have been a reader of your blog for a number of years and have laughed at your posts, felt sad at your losses and have silently cheered you on along with so many others at life's ups and downs. That won't change. Many would be envious of the world wide fan club you have, and I am one of them. I am in a loveless relationship that will never change with no where to go, and no one to talk to. I could use some cheering on. But this isn't about me, it's about you, and about life taking a turn that you'd not expected. Scary, yes. Daunting, yes. Exciting, that too. Whatever it is, I know you will land on your feet like Albert would! You have your family and friends far and wide who won't let you land any other way.
ReplyDeleteHey ho
You do have people to talk to - we are here :) Drop me a line if you want to talk: liparifam@gmail.com
DeleteFour dogs and a cat - of course you are going to be okay! Bollocks to them that dont feel the need of you just now, the hurt will stop hurting soon enough darlin, keep on keeping on.
ReplyDeleteI don't know you very well John but as everyone else is saying I hope you realise how much you are appreciated, which may not ease the pain but might help just a little.
ReplyDeleteI know how much help you gave a blog friend of mine and I’m sure that was not an isolated case. Now it's your turn to lean.
Be kind to yourself for as long as it takes. Sue.
“So from now on it's me, a sex starved bulldog, A blind Welsh Terrier, a bad tempered Scottie , Mary the baby and a wide eyed cat called Albert...... against the world.”. Along with your sisters and Nu, sounds like a great pack to be in and take on whatever comes your way.
ReplyDeleteDo take care. Andreaxx
I did try and leave a message yesterday. I have no idea if it is there. But I am beaming your love and hugs through the internet ether. Sol xxx
ReplyDeleteOh John, sending love from across the pond.
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