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| My sister in law Jayne ( centre) amid family and friends |
This morning a motley collection of my brother's family and friends met up on the hillside overlooking the small seaside town of Prestatyn. There was no fuss. There was no ceremony of sorts.
There was just a quiet and good natured appreciation of a view that my brother grew up with as a boy and a slightly surreal realization of why we're had all gathered there.
We raised schooners of whiskey in a toast (It was Andrew's favorite tipple ) then each one of us scattered small scoops of his ashes into the gentle breeze from the sea.
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| The view over the coastal plain |
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| Chris with his schooner |
Dearest John, by fate, your dear Brother died one day after my dear Son. Yesterday was our second year as well. This grieving process has been unbearable at times. My best wishes are with you and yours. May we each honor the life lost with compassion for those who remain.
ReplyDeleteA delicate time well handled.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful ceremony; I suspect your brother was sharing the view with you and will always. :)
ReplyDeleteHe must feel so loved. Well done!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful way to honor your dear brother....
ReplyDeleteWhat a touching post. Sounds like a beautiful tribute and remembrance.
ReplyDeleteRaising a glass to love and the life....bless you all
ReplyDeleteMay he fly high.
ReplyDeleteLove that.
DeleteWhat a beautiful thing to do and what a lovely place to scatter his ashes. Very poignant. Take care friend.
ReplyDeleteDignified and respectful. This is lovely, John. Thanks for sharing this moment.
ReplyDeletePeace, to you all!
ReplyDeleteTime drags as it whizzes along on such occasions. Nice send off.
ReplyDeleteA perfect way of accomplishing the final (physical, of sorts) 'letting-go'.
ReplyDeleteVery nice way to honor your brother. Take care John.
ReplyDeleteI have never visited you before but that was so lovely. I planted a rose after my father dad and throw a whisky on it every year.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't see the programme about baby kangaroos last night did you?
ReplyDeleteWant one.
Lovely way to always remember your brother.
ReplyDeleteI said goodbye to my daughter ashes in the ocean. In her very short life she was not able to move so I thought it fitting she should be able to float and swim about in the ocean where I lived. I was able to lookout at the point from my home. I think of Nicole everyday and take some comfort in that.
gayle
That has flown by. Sending you and your family lots of love. I think of you all often and chit chat with Janet on Facebook often xxxxx
ReplyDeleteA lovely peaceful and fitting end John after some years of such a tough illness your brother had to endure. I am sure he would be with you in spirit (and I mean this both ways.)
ReplyDeleteThis lovely account has reminded me I need to let go of my Mum's ashes. It's nice to get together to do it. I'll arrange something.
ReplyDeleteA poignant moment. Love to all your family, John.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful tribute...Thinking of you all...
ReplyDeleteI think ash scattering is so much better than burial. You must miss him terribly John. Thinking of you. x
ReplyDeleteLovely!
ReplyDeleteA very poignant moment for you and your family John and a lovely way to say goodbye. It's very difficult to decide where and when to scatter the ashes isn't it ?
ReplyDeleteOur Dad died in 2008 and his ashes are still in his filing cabinet !!!! He did love filing { he was an Organisation and Method's Officer } and I think that's why we have left them there ! XXXX
As it should be. x
ReplyDeleteEchoing Nana Go-Go and rusty duck.
ReplyDeleteThe best way I can imagine.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a good way to see him off. My thoughts are with you, it must be hard. x
ReplyDeleteFrom what you've told us about Andrew,he would have loved that.
ReplyDeleteJane x
Today is the 12th anniversary of my sister's passing and I miss her beyond belief. May God bless my sister and may God bless your brother. Sleep gently.
ReplyDeleteI should go the same way. But leave the whisky alone, It is bad for you
ReplyDeleteA fitting tribute. What a beautiful view.
ReplyDeleteI, myself am going in the river dart, past the castle, where the sea meets the river.
Big hug John xx
I'd be honored to be sent off with such a gathering. I hope it felt healing for you all.
ReplyDeleteThat's nice that you could be together in his honor.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
what a wonderful way to say goodbye.
ReplyDeleteA lovely way to honor and respect his life.
ReplyDeleteWhat a nice place for goodbyes.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sendoff. With love and honor.
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ReplyDeleteWell done guys; perfect.
ReplyDeleteI scattered my mothers ashes from the back of my horse while I rode around the farm she loved. Almost fell off through the tears and then the laughter knowing how hard she would have laughed. if I'd fallen on my arse. I do not believe we ever get OVER the pain John, but we do learn to get AROUND it. Thank you for sharing such a personal moment.
ReplyDeleteA very moving post, John. I hope it helped Janet realise that she's not alone in her grief. It makes me think that I would like this, to be scattered in my beloved Cornwall if only to bring my 3 sons together again. :(
ReplyDeleteSorry!!! 'Jayne', not Janet.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful way to honour your brother and a fitting time scale to have kept and then dispersed his ashes. Time for some happy memories to have returned to mellow the sadness.
ReplyDeleteYou've reminded me to go and dig up my Dad's ashes, carefully wrapped in their box and living in the Veggie Patch, it's time for him to come to Wales to see where his daughter's ending up.
Beautiful location for what must have been a very moving ceremony.
ReplyDeleteNice sendoff. Those quiet, heartfelt gatherings do a world of good.
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