An Atticus Finch Moment

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I've always thought that Harper Lee's " To Kill A Mockingbird" was an adult book for children. I say this because I have a feeling that although like many other people , I have re read the novel many times during my lifetime, I will never really forget reading it at school when I was a child of 12.
Mockingbird is essentially an exploration of childhood innocence and the moral nature of people. The children, Scout and Jem have to face the dark side of racism, bullying and the unfairness of small town life but do so under the wing of a father who is sympathetic to all. Atticus Finch is the father all children wish they had when they were twelve.
From what I can gather the theme of Harper Lee's second novel " Go Set A Watchman" is one of disillusionment, namely Scout's disillusionment in her father, who turns out to be as bigoted as most of the other inhabitants of Maycombe and although the " falling from grace" of a parent through the eyes of an adoring child is something that most people experience sometime in their lives, the toppling of Atticus from his pedestal seems a step too far.
I grew up with parents that disappointed me. It's seems a terrible thing to say but it was true. When I was twelve I ached for a father or mother like Atticus.


My parents were too wrapped up in their own issues to really be bothered with the moral dilemmas in side their kids' heads.
Having said this I do remember one Atticus moment amid a brown 1970s childhood.
I had gone to bed , but had got up to listen to a family discussion from the safety of the top of the stairs. The discussion was centred around someone known to the family who had been caught in a gay clinch so to speak and it is important to remember here that in the 1970s, this sort of thing was deemed rather shocking to say the least.
Amid the head shaking and the " shame" comments one voice proved to be the voice of reason and balance and that was the voice of my mother.
Like Henry Fonda's juror number 8, in Twelve Angry Men , she calmly stuck up for the person involved, patiently giving a human face to the whole situation and pouring oil on a very stormy sea.
Even at twelve , I remember being rather proud of her individual stand against a tide of small mindedness...and even at twelve I knew that she was right and they were wrong.

What was your Atticus Finch moment?
I'd be interested to Know!



Out Of Context

I felt compelled to blog again today after a chance encounter outside Halfords
I had just spent a bewildering half hour looking at lino at the carpet warehouse and was walking back to the berlingo when two teenage boys walked out of  the bike shop.
One of them looked vaguely familiar, though I couldn't place him, and as I passed , he said  " Hello" somewhat awkwardly and added " I'm sorry about your little dog"
Now although this completely flummoxed me, I smiled and politely said "  Thank you" before sort of doing that little dancing shuffle people do as they pass someone else on the pavement. He and his friend then edged away rather an embarrassed way and so did I, and I found myself wracking  my brains to remember exactly who he was .
Was he someone's son from work? Or a blog reader? I doubted it  but
It came to me as I got into the car.
He had been in the vet's office when I took Meg in to be put to sleep and I had been rude to him.
I didn't mean to be rude, I was just upset, but I was rude.
When I entered the examination room, the boy was standing to one side behind the rosy faced vet. He wore an ill fitting shirt and tie and looked uncomfortable. I immediately thought he was on some school placement .( we used to call them job creation places in my day) The vet didnt introduce him and I was more preoccupied with what was going to happen to be bothered to ask.
We discussed Meg and when it was time to give her the anaesthetic, the vet hurried Meg out to cannulate her in another room.
I knew the format for  I had done it already with Mabel, so I knew that both would return for the deed to be done, so I steeled myself for what was about to happen.
The boy just stood there. Too young to say something. Too awkward and unprepared to leave. The vet should have taken him with her, but she didn't and I couldn't bear him, a stranger, being in the same room with me and my tears so I turned to him and said a little too firmly " Can You please leave?" .
Bless  him, he shot out of that examination room like a rat up a drainpipe.

At the berlingo, I looked around to,see where he had gone to, but he had disappeared .
and I felt like crying all over again.


Trolls and Flowers

Going Gently has had it's fair share of internet " trolls" over the years. I tend to ignore them as their faceless, anonymous presence  brings the worst out in me. I have just seen the work of a troll on Cro's gently paced French country blog and I found myself responding to his/her stupidity by posting a rather satisfying but hollow threat of " if you say anything to me , I'll bitch slap you so hard that your tits will fall off"
Yes very articulate....
Anyhow, I have just collected 8 nominations for the " Best Garden In Trelawnyd " award for the Flower Show., and it's taken some flannel,to get people to enter.......unfortunately I could not persuade our neighbours Viv and Mike to enter, for their labour of love would win the competition every single year.
Yesterday, I took these photos .......I am going to enter a couple in the Flower Show's photo competition " spring/summer"









And finally a few more novelty veg entries








Ginger

I've made The Prof a ginger cake
and I was Watched VERY very closely 

I am now writing this in the living room 35 minutes after the photo was taken
Winnie is still sat looking at the cake


International Trelawnyd ( aka A Carrot With A Big Cock)

The "Unthanks" came to Trelawnyd Memorial Hall last night. Apparently they are one of the Uk's top folk bands with an international reputation, so the village was filled with lots of people in hand knitted jumpers drinking cider.

It's a pity I was working at the hospital for what I saw of the Friday night  concert was impressive. I took the dogs out for their late walk and the village seemed alive with hairy social worker types chatting amicably  on the village green. There I bumped into an old school friend who was a little worse for wear, she told me that the folk concerts were " well worth a bloody visit" and so I promised  to go to the next one with her and her husband.
I don't think the Prof would go....he hates folk music with a passion.
And so the " International " reputation of the village grows......
Balancing the musical side of this reputation is, of course " THE INTERNATIONAL NOVELTY VEGETABLE  CLASS" in the Flower Show which has taken off again this year big style.......Only yesterday I received several entries from across the Atlantic, and in a hopeful " me, me " way I have contacted the papers with the story.
Apparently the papers  love a photo of a carrot with a big cock!
Or so I have been told............
Here are some of the latest entries

I knif of like this one



Keep em coming!

We have had a good number for North America and Australia 


But where are the British entries?
And come on Europe!
I need a good few more
Send to jgsheffield@hotmail.com

Anyhow tomorrow we are having dinner out!
Yes! How exciting is that?
I managed to book a table at Bryn William's new cafe Porth Eirias
in Colwyn Bay
He has a very successful sister restaurant in Primrose Hill in London
so the opening up of a new venue here is a wonderful coup!



Well I Never


25  fascinating facts about me
1. I learnt to swim with my best friend mike  when I was 41.
2. When I was sixteen I wrote to Olivia De Havilland in Paris and she sent me a signed Polaroid of herself.
3. I was bought my first dog in 2002
4. In 1984 I did a parachute jump from 2,500 feet
5. My porn name is Kimmy Fry
6. I have a very strong dislike of donuts
7. I was once offered sex by a girl in a hospital lift when we were both in patients ( I declined)
8. I had a relationship with a guy who, as it turned out, was engaged to a woman
9. The only bit of jewelry that I have EVER, or WILL ever wear is my wedding ring.
10. I am colourblind
11. I have been mugged just the once.
12. I was once so ill drinking tequila slammers in 1989 that I have never drank it since
13. I have only ever punched one person in anger
14. I cannot dance...not one step...and I married a ex professional dancer!
15. I have been writing a blog, more or less , everyday since 2006
16. I once poisoned 14 koi carp with a bottle of peppermint essence
17. I have walked a bride to be  down the aisle at a wedding!
18. I have already chosen my funeral music
19. If I watch The Poseidon Adventure on DVD, I can act out every line of every character for the entire movie!
20. I was 53 when I got married!
21. I once passionately kissed a policeman whilst he was on duty!
22. I can place the exciting RMN , RGN letters after my name
23. I once danced ( badly) on the roof of the cancer hospital, Weston Park in sheffield with a group of friends
24. I am an avid fan of the quiz show " only connect"
25. I have cried buckets over 3 human deaths ..........and  5 animal deaths

Pass it on..........

Burnt To Buggery


I have always had a high colour. 
When I was born, I burst forth into the world sporting big red rosy cheeks and looked rather like a miniature Santa Claus with a serious case of alopecia.......
Yes, even at the age of one, I looked like W.C. Fields with hypertension
Today I look more like Jeff Chandler from the film " Cochise"...for three hours of raffle ticket selling in the burning sun has left me with a serious case of sunburn.
My last victims of raffle ticket selling was Gay Gordon and Big Mary.......Gay Gordon who is just getting over  a recent heart attack , must have thought I was on my last legs , for he quickly sat me down in his chair by the window in an effort to bring down my colour. 



Lazy Post



But an exciting one!
Well it was until it was withdrawn
Hey ho
I'll try again