No, I am not referring to the Sally Field tv star vehicle here but to those relationships that usually last much longer than any other we experience in our lives
I have been thinking about sibling relationships as a result of the little indie film I went to see at Theatre Clwyd last night, which was entitled confusingly Cold Weather
This strange ambling little movie tells the story of Doug (Cris Lankenau) a shambolic but likable young man who gives up his University forensic studies to move in with his sister in Portland. His slightly aimless existence which centres around reading Sherlock Holmes novels, is changed somewhat when his ex girlfriend goes missing and helped by his friend Carlos (Raúl Castillo) and his lonely sister Gail (Trieste Kelly Dunn ) he sets out to work out what happened to her.
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| Cris Lankenhau and Trieste Kelly Dunn |
Several scenes had a resonance with me and when I was driving home I came to the rather shocking conclusion that for us that have siblings, we will experience a relationship that may well last for the majority of our life on this planet!
I have been with chris over eleven years now.....my best friend Nuala and I have known each other for over 22 years...and yet my relationship with my brother and sisters has now lasted for 49......
49 years that seems more like 10 in the great scheme of things
How time gallops by.......
Cold Weather captures those quieter moments between siblings that don't need words to explain what is going on. For some that wanted to enjoy a pacy mystery flick, I am sure would have been disappointed... but for me, I loved and recognised the gentle silent interplay between people with a shared past and an ongoing present.
The relationship between siblings is the one that is taken for granted even more that the one that we have with our parents, it is overlooked more often than not because it can be overshadowed by the shit we all have with our own mum and dad.....but you know what it shouldn't be....by nature of time lines....they are going to be the constant in your life long, long after you all are left as orphans!
ps Gummy Meg is doing alright after her facial injuries inflicted by the somewhat unforgiving bulldog.
Tuesday night she spent all night curled up pathetically in the crook of my arm periodically showing her painful gums to me as she moaned all night and today she somewhat theatrically managed to eat several pork loin steaks only after I chewed them first ( the things I do)......
