Fuck off 2025

 With the exception of Madrid and Qualifying as a counsellor (strangely on the same day !) 2025 has been an awful year.
It’s not been my worst but it ranks highly as a real pisser and is one that I now know I’ve almost survived 
The threat of redundancy has made me view charities as businesses rather than just special places to work, and I never want to venture back to those sleepless nights where every following day may bring you the news that your job has gone alongside the way of paying for a roof over your head.
This threat brought the best and worst out in co workers
I’m so glad it’s over.

Losing the sight in my right eye is a wrench too
I’m clumsier than normal which is saying something
And that fall on the underground brought me up short too……but at least I no longer have to suffer the eye injections which were unpleasant to say the least

I feel I’m walking towards 2026 with a more sober head on 
Where self care is vital
A trip to Florence, and a return to Madrid are planned
A proper return to the choir, and a judicious increase in counselling clients are on the cards

I’m making soup this afternoon.
Chorizo and bean and the fire is lit and the cottage is warm 
Hey ho

48 comments:

  1. Barbara Anne4:15 pm

    You have endured and overcome so many annoying bothers that cropped up so should be proud of yourself for making it with the end of 2025 in sight. Snazzy new clothes, too!
    For 2026 you've planned worthy goals for work, play, and your book (?) and your soup and warm cottage are a lovely place to start.
    We're with you!

    Hugs!

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    1. Babs your loyalty and good humour has always lifted my spirits x

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  2. Some years just seem to go from bad to worse. 2025 is nearly over and you survived it all, the good, the bad and the downright ugly. If nothing else, you have realised where your priorities lie, self care, health and, if not happiness, at least contentment. xx

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  3. I didn't realize you had lost the sight in that eye. That's scary. Layoffs and the threat of layoffs are horrible at any age, even more so at our age. Who would hire us?
    I'm glad you have plans to look forward to. We're planning a trip to Vancouver Island and we're going to see the Inside Passage, as well as Bella Coola and the Great Bear Rainforest. We're also taking Jack which will be interesting.
    Take care John and tits up:)

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    1. Anonymous8:13 pm

      I think he’s losing the sight not lost it completely but I could be wrong. It’s the way I read it ..John it has been an awful year indeed peppered with nuggets of high notes….literally high notes as you went to see your beloved Spanish choir.
      Make 2026 your own John,
      You have , since 2018 ( the date I started following you) pulled yourself through those bad times, and this year is no different .
      You give me hope that my quiet corner of rural America will become a nicer place to live

      Keith

      Xx

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    2. Thank you Keith , you are right,
      My eyesight is deteriorating much quicker than expected. Driving at night is a challenge

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  4. In full agreement - 2025 has been a fucked year- all around the globe! Finding innner peace has been challenging. I am so sorry you lost vision in one eye- I am getting injections still in my one eye and it is getting to be traumatic. Better than a glass eye perhaps but not fun. 2026 has got to be better for you. If wishes were horses...Carry on- with your big heart and humor! Best to you.

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  5. You are a good man John. You give out a lot of kindness because that is your nature. For these reasons, a year from now, I hope you feel no need to tell 2026 to eff off.

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    1. That’s kind …..the one thing I have learned this year YP is that I’ve admitted to everyone that things were shite

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  6. I wish you a much happier and healthier 2026 Mr Gray.
    Florence is something wonderful to look forward to. Can I come with you?

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    1. Diabetes and it’s ramifications has been more of a rollercoaster ride than I envisioned

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  7. I'm hoping for a much better year for you, John. This one was one damn thing after another. Happy New Year. Really!

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    1. The uncertainty of my financial world was the biggest stressor…..work has settled down and a new mortgage has helped too

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  8. John, I hope 2026 is much kinder to you

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  9. Your change of employment will make a big difference in your day to day life. A positive difference! 2025 has been a terrible year all over the world.
    Wishing you, and All of us, a better year to come...

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    1. Yes, e
      Several of my friends are going through very hard times , which doesn’t help anything

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  10. 2025 has not been the greatest. That's for sure.
    Working as a counselor should prove rewarding and secure. The need is there for counselors, and I do believe you bring something very special to the table and your clients will benefit greatly.
    Happy 2026.

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    1. I’ve negotiated a better rate each client which has helped this winter

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  11. Traveller7:21 pm

    May 2026 be kinder to you.

    Florence! Please, please visit The Medici Palace
    https://www.palazzomediciriccardi.it/en/the-palace/

    It is where The Adoration of the Magi is…absolutely sublime. Need to book in advance.

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    1. Oh it’s on my list my dear friend, it’s on my list

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  12. Yorkshire Liz7:24 pm

    Is there a single person in the world who has not had a bad 2025? Something about planets not aligning apparently: here's hoping 2026 is better and brighter for us all. Yes, work is a worry, and I am glad a new perspective has brought calm. So sorry to hear you have lost vision in one eye, but at least you know that now, and not expecting injections in the eye with trepidation. Glass half empty or glass half full? Go for glass half full - optimism over depression every time (voice of experience!!) We will march into 2026 with you and keep going forward. You deserve it, and you inspire us all, so think you are stuck with it! God bless, mate.

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    1. Anonymous8:05 pm

      Yorkshire Liz is my hero on Going gently ,
      A voice of reason , she’s my Mrs Hall ( creatures Great and small)

      Lee

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    2. lol I’m sure she will be touched you said that

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    3. It’s not lost completely Liz but it’s heading that way rather quickly 😩. Thank you for pointing out that everyone’s year seemed to have been a rum one , that helps a little

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  13. Here's to a much, much better 2026. And Florence! I loved visiting there and would do so again if I could!

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    1. Yes, it’s finally back to Italy …🤪❤️🍸

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  14. Most years are mixed bags, John.

    2025? Let's just say it tested my mettle of which I have plenty. Still, one shouldn't wish time away. Does it all come out in the wash? Depends on the powder/one's disposition. What's a speck here or there?

    Wishing you a 2026 which doesn't amount to an obstacle course - more than usual.

    U

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    1. Yes, I expect ups and downs such is life…this year has been somewhat trying
      I’m glad we are on friendly terms again

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  15. When I look back over my last eight years it has been one damn thing after another. I'm tired of rising to the challenge, putting on a brave face and so on. It would be hypocritical of me to tell you to put your best foot forward as I'm about ready to acquiesce to my tiny, circumscribed life.

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    1. Susan,
      I get you
      I get you completely
      I’m tired of fighting things alone
      That’s my moan lol
      Jx

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  16. All I can say about this year is that we've all stayed relatively healthy here in my own little family bubble. Physically, that is. But mentally, I think we are all suffering from this horrible time in our country wherein every day brings another horror, another unbelievable low bar crossed. It is very difficult to keep any sort of sanity amidst it all.
    I wish for us and all the world that somehow, the end will come into focus.
    And I wish for you a smoother, sweeter year.

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    1. And dear ms moon I hope your country soon sees sense xxx

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  17. I hear the very real pain and challenges – – but I also think how brilliant you were a few years ago to have chosen to begin studying counseling,
    so that now there is that amazing bright light in this year,
    shining on into the years ahead.

    Bravo, John of the Past,
    for taking care of John of the Future! ❤️

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  18. There was the presence of someone hanging over the world that did no one's mental health any good.

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  19. Oh John, Gentle John, so sorry about your health problems. But joy at your counselor status. I wish I could remember the name of the restaurant in Florence or even what I ate but I still remember that a large group of teens came in and wanted to push tables together. The restauranter said no, no, no, until the group's adult...a priest...came in and convinced him in a quiet conversation. It was amazing and contributed to our dinner fun. But Florence was cold and windy and we moved on to San Remo after only two days. That was in April. It's a great city, John, enjoy yourself!

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    1. If you remember the place please let me know and I will book a table just on your story xx

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  20. It has been a rollercoaster of a year.
    Here's to better times and less needless stress xx

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  21. It's been a rough year for me too. Wishing all of us a 2026 filled with peace and joy!

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  22. Jo in Auckland10:51 pm

    I concur, 2025 has definitely been a challenge all round. Working as a support worker has it's own special challenges in that it is not totally secure work; only takes an extended hospital visit for a client or one passes away and there goes my income. Not like completely losing a job but almost seeing my wages halve overnight is unsettling to say the least.
    I didn't realise your eyesight in your right eye was losing vision is this because of the diabetes diagnosis or does that just make another condition worse? I think you have weathered many a storm over the past year with great courage and qualifying in your counsellor course was the icing on a very messy couple of years. The fact that all of your hard work has given you an ongoing income in another field is just brilliant. I don't think I could have taken on a new career at our age (we are the same age) I am older by a few months! I hope for you that 2026 starts of in a prosperous vein and continues; your booked trips will give you wonderful things to look forward too. I might have to take a leaf out of your book!

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    1. Jo , beautifully put my dear friend x

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  23. Wishing all the good people in the world a better 2026. I won’t say what I wish on the others.

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