Bloody awful injection in my eye yesterday and repeat appointment this afternoon.
I’m eye phobic and only coping because a support worker at the eye hospital was so sweet….
“ I can’t “ I told her
“ well go to mine” …she said
“where’s that?” I asked clutching at straws
“Greggs * “ she said with a smile ….
I loved her
*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greggs
I had a text from a dear friend this morning. It was the dreaded I have Cancer message. I didn’t ring back immediately, these type on conversations need preparation and calm. So I took the Welsh to McDonalds and bought them a cheesy flatbread and myself a large coffee and a porridge.
I walked the dogs on the beach and we returned to Bluebell where I rang my friend.
I listened and heard and I told my friend that I loved them as the Welsh curled up into balls to sleep and the sea breeze slipped through the open windows.
Oh, John. I have been there, and on both sides of that conversation. And as you will know only too well, even saying "I don't know what to say" is better than saying nothing. Because if nothing else it is still contact and empathy, and it does allow the other person to set the mood and tone of the conversation.
ReplyDeleteAll a matter of processing. And a reminder that the odds of survival get stronger every day - and I am proof of that! All you can do is be there. And you are. You are such a special friend. All love to your friend; and there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if it may not yet seem like it.
Firstly, I don't envy you those eye injections. I feel anxious just thinking about it.
ReplyDeleteI hope your friend's cancer is treatable. Still a hard road to travel, but with friends like you to travel with them, it should be slightly easier. Life's a real bitch sometimes, isn't it? xx
Sometimes, no news really is good news, but then you fall out of contact, and that's not good.
ReplyDeletei think i, too, am eye-phobic...... not sure i'd cope very well with that kind of thing either. Sorry to hear about your friend.... i am sure they'll benefit greatly from your support though.
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