I’ve never bothered too much about Valentine’s Day
And today I realise that I never will.
At 63 I’ve given up on the idea of romance in its most romantic of terms now.
And that’s fine
It’s also realistic, and positive
Concentrate on other things
On friends and family ,
Work and study,
Pastimes and new experiences
Hey ho
Taking the spousal unit out for Afternoon Tea next week. It's our Valentine's treat. will be a better afternoon without the would be influencers doing heir thing.
ReplyDeleteLove becomes different as we age. Love is friends, things we enjoy, animals that live with us.
After nearly 53 years and now sensible diets, we just plan on watching a Rom Com tonight and share some wine.
ReplyDeleteHey ho, indeed!
Hugs!
It's been a long, long time since I bought into the spend fest of Valentine's day. Family and friends last longer than flowers, chocolate and champagne! xx
ReplyDeleteComfortable companionship is more welcome at my age than romance - both can be difficult to achieve though!
ReplyDeleteCelebrate Palentines Day instead! Hugs to you!
ReplyDeleteThe love for our fellow men/women doesn't necessarily need to be romantic.
ReplyDeleteI've never been either. Although I do pass out little Valentine's to friends of mine just for shits and giggles. So reminds me of those little Valentine parties we used to have in school.
ReplyDeleteMy husband, second one, always brought me flowers, which I was not used to from first husband, so I really didn’t care. I was just very happy to be loved. I never told him not to get me flowers because he was pleased to remember them. Don’t give up on love John, it happens when you are not expecting anything . Happy Valentines 💘 Gigi
ReplyDeleteThere are so many different types of love that valentines day doesn't celebrate sadly. I love my grandson, my husband, my friends, my daughters, my dogs (the cat at times), my garden, the land, and even the people I have met online. Sending hugs and love John.
ReplyDeleteDid some day drinking today with one girlfriend, and a cup of tea just now with another...decided to have a 'galentine day' xx
ReplyDeleteI have given up on the traditional Valentine's day happiness. And yes, I love my dogs and my kids, but it's really not the same thing...Some holidays just wear thin.
ReplyDeleteDon't bother about it, John. Your style of love is pragmatic and sane rather than sentimental and mawkish, as most of the Valentine's Day BS has become. My best friend has her birthday today - and has always hated sharing it with Valentine's Day, as not only can she and her husband never go out and celebrate on the right day - he can never get her red roses either, as the whole identity has been hijacked. Moral of this story: love is what you make it, and whatever everyone else does is just not YOU!
ReplyDeleteTake a long look at your photos on your sidebar. Lots of love in your life me thinks xx
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day from all your reader friends here John xx
ReplyDeleteHey ho indeed. Happy Valentine's Day, John.
ReplyDeleteI was asked once by a very unlikely person "How's your love life?" I responded that romantic love was zero but my life was full of love. Like Pixie said, the kinds of love not recognized by Valentine's Day.
ReplyDeleteIt may yet unexpectedly happen for you.
ReplyDeleteBeing in love, being loved and loving in return is wonderful, just wonderful.
No surrender. As the last "Anonymous" said - "It may yet unexpectedly happen for you".
ReplyDeleteBut secretly you'd be thrilled [we all would] to fall in love again, right. It could happen! Euphoria, happiness---not that my ex ever bothered w Valentines Day either. But I wished he would, so very much.😢♥️
ReplyDeleteWe have never celebrated ValentineD. We love each other all the time and don’t need to enter into a commercial relationship to prove it . You had a wonderful relationship so treasure tohe good times . Anyway you have lots of love everyday from your fellow bloggers ♥️
ReplyDeleteLove comes from the most unexpected places. Mine was a lone laugh in the audience while I was singing, causing me to fluff the lyrics. Five years later we were married.
ReplyDeleteI will never give up on love. Call me a romantic. And a sucker! But I believe in love. We are never too old to love, fall in love nor cry over a lost love. Happy Valentine's Day to everyone. I love you!!!
ReplyDeleteTis better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. Can't remember who said that.
ReplyDeleteA good friend was married for almost 60 years and her husband bought her a red rose every week, that's pretty special 💖
ReplyDeleteI think love happens when we don't expect it. Looking for it is futile.
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day, John. xo
ReplyDeleteWe don't recognize it either, always felt that it was a "Hallmark Holiday". Seems better to me to show love every day, not just on February 14th.
ReplyDeletePirate was a romantic...I missed my homemade card.. I never bothered before him....
ReplyDeleteMy newly married daughter received Lego flowers from her husband so that 'her first valentine's flowers as Mrs W would last forever' ❤️
ReplyDeleteIt's a Hallmark holiday for sure. Don't show me love on one day, love me every day in your words and actions.
ReplyDeleteI love this comment. xx
DeleteYou are dearly loved by many.
ReplyDeleteValentine's Day (aka Singles Awareness Day) was always a little odd to me. It's fun to make a fuss about it occasionally though, and I was utterly surprised to get a valentine from and old, old friend yesterday. At 63, it is not necessary to give up on the idea of romance in its most romantic of terms, but giving up is necessary to allow it to happen. Don't ask me to explain why that is. In the meantime, love is love, and you are indeed loved by many (even though a good snog every now and then doesn't hurt either).
ReplyDeleteYou can give up on romance ... as long as you never give up on love. xx
ReplyDeleteI think......... Love finds you when you are busy living your life.... and not looking for it... IMHO..........Hugs! deb
ReplyDeleteRomance is overrated. Genuine love, however...X
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ReplyDeleteOne of those posts..... we all love you John, I love you John, you're loved by so many John.... bla bla bla.
ReplyDeletePerhaps less dependence on people worldwide who you have never met and never will would be more beneficial.
Just how many hours do you spend on trawling the internet for bits of music or sketches, dreaming up blog posts then writing them (your "journal") reading and writing comments? A huge mass of time that could be enriched by living in the real world.
Do delete after reading, the comment is for you and not your invisible readers.
Who the hell are you to pass any sort of judgement on anyone and tell me what real world you live in where you’re “anonymous “? Why are you even here commenting if you find it so distasteful?
DeleteHow many hours a day do you spend dreaming up spiteful comments? Your life would be enriched by getting one of your own.
Anon
DeleteHow many hours do you spend reading Going Gently and plotting to argue every point. .?
Exactly
You are the sad fuck here not I lol
anon is an asshole
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Plotting John? It's a comment on a blog for goodness sake!
DeleteUntil you die , you should be on the lookout for the love of your life...until then, live your life. You mustn't live anyone else's make your life your own...I see you doing that on a regular basis, making your life yours.
ReplyDeleteMy mum began the great love story of her life at 60. Never give up. Having said that, trust and companionship are what matters. A more lasting kind of romance.
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