I rang up about joining a local cinema discussion group the other day.
The man organising it was enthusiastic and chatty up to me mentioning that I was of retirement age and then he went all evasive .
You sounded younger he said backtracking on his initial excitement and there was an awkward silence before he told me that he’d be in touch, after he had received all applications.
I’m usually pretty assertive in these cases but soon after I felt deflated and judged and suddenly surplus to requirements .
How Yorkshire Pudding sees me
I really can't see what difference age makes when discussing cinema, but obviously he does! I somehow get the feeling that if he now rings you up begging, you'll politely turn him down. I know I would - patronising little squirt that he is! xx PS Love YP's drawing of you, although you do look a bit startled!
ReplyDeleteWe are "something different" to those younger than us, and I admit seeing my elders as different from me. It's so dumb and wrong.
ReplyDeleteAh, you may have experienced the post-menopause invisibility.
ReplyDeleteJudged yes, but surplus to requirements no. Stand up for yourself, you have much to offer. Gigi
ReplyDeleteTry as I might, I don't see what age has to do with it. His loss, he might well learn something from you and others of our age.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a jerk, doesn't he? Most of us already know enough jerks, so the group doesn't sound alluring. Their loss......
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Feeling judged - something a few of us I suspect have experienced many times. It is not a pleasant experience. If that is an example of their attutude, possibly not the sort of people you would like to spend time with?
ReplyDeleteVery hurtful I’m sorry this happened to you. Reminds me of the failed cooking class a few months ago people are so rude nowadays despite all the chatter about kindness and empathy
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Ah, you are starting to experience the perceived invisibility of the over Fifties! Welcome to the club. The attitude of that little twerp is saving you a lot of time in experiencing the group and finding it is not for you - if he is an example pf the attendees (or, worse, how he would lead the attendees!) Their loss, your gain. Mark it down to experience and forget about it.
ReplyDeleteAre you planning an upcoming exhibition "Fifty Shades Of Gray"? Contributions from all the blog followers? YP's sketch is pretty neat as a starter......
Love YP's view of you, but think you need a smile and some smile crinkles at the outer corners of your eyes.
ReplyDeleteWhat a tacky comment was made to you by the person you were talking to about the cinema discussion group. Hope you'll join up anyway as long as they don't meet on Tuesday night. Methinks choir would make you happier if there's a schedule conflict.
Fret not, you're perfectly fine as you are.
Hugs!
Their loss , in my opinion.
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ReplyDeleteHugs. I am sure you have forgotten more about cinema than he actually knows. I hope you find somewhere welcoming. Marjorie in wintry Canada
ReplyDeleteDid you draw that? if so, you're a pretty good cartoonist.
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