I think most mature women with any sense will have one gay man as a friend.
These women are not faghags ( the derogatory name for a woman who spends most of her time in the company of gay men) nor are they lacking female friends.
It’s just that I think that most mature women who have an emotional intelligence like the company of a gay man .
And visa versa of course.
Having a gay bestie means you are in the sex and the City Club !
You are either a Carrie or a Charlotte
( but most women I think identify more with Miranda as she is the most sorted of the quartet)
I don’t quite fit into the gay best mould mainly because I’m too scruffy
A gay best friend should be immaculately dressed and ideally look like Jonathan Bailey
I gain kudos points for being more emotionally intelligent than most and having a sense of humour
I’m not a stag hag either, which helps ( stag hags are gay men who just love the company of usually older gay men )
I’m eclectic in my friend choices but I do like women friends, they are special
I think, I like them because they are more tactile than most.
I can link arms and hug and kiss with my female friends with an ease
Now I must say here that I have gay and straight makes friends which I hug and even kiss but having a female friend is different in the heteronormative world .
I guess it’s easier all round.
Hey ho
I prefer your type of gay man, not the airy fairy ones. They are far too over the top for me. I like humour and genuine feelings too. My brother is the scruffy funny gay but his husband is a bit more fluffy, was an interior decorator. You just keep on being you, thats what I like about you. Gigi
ReplyDeleteIt’s too late being anyone else
DeleteSo so true!
ReplyDeleteOh yes xx
DeleteGay men make the bestest friend for a female ..... we don't have to worry about them fancying us and can just get on with having a great time ! I also prefer men { gay or otherwise } with a sense of humour ..... that's very important. They can look like the back of a bus and be as scruffy as they like but if they make me laugh we will be like 🤞. When I was at work, we had so many gay patients and they were the best.... such good company and so much fun. XXXX
ReplyDeleteAnd it is the same for me Jacqueline , a sense of humour is vital for me and sa true sense of self
DeleteHmm.. I am not sure I think too much about whether my friends are gay or straight. I either like them or I don't have them as friends. However, I really enjoy the company of my young gay friend - he is fun to be with.
ReplyDeleteA young gay friend , how delicious
DeleteThis ia a connection or relationship that has faded for me over the past few years. And thinking about it, I miss it.
ReplyDeleteCan you recharge it?
Deletegosh I wish I lived in North Wales instead of Pembrokeshire. I would definitely love to be a friend of yours. But I'm not sure I'm intellectual enough for you, I've lived in London for 30 years and are a bit rough around the edges.
ReplyDeleteMe intellectual ? Pah!
DeleteI love having gay male friends because they are fun and have personality!
ReplyDeleteDebra out of all my blog friends you are the MOST gay friendly
DeleteCan I count you as my gay bestie? I'm mature and scruffy, so I think we'd gel! xx
ReplyDeleteYou are on
DeleteHusband's Canadian cousin visited. I think he was Bi rather than gay, but I have fond memories of listening to Ella Fitzgerald songs and giggling a lot together.
ReplyDeleteGay
DeleteI am just happy to have friends and I don't care what their sexual preferences are.
ReplyDeleteGood, me too
DeleteI don't think of it either way. My friends and family are just that - my friends and my family. Having said that I do have several gay friends (male and female) and also trans family members. I just have never thought about it before. Interesting topic John!
ReplyDeleteIt makes for a good chat on a Saturday afternoon
DeleteMy best friend is gay, 77 and fabulous
ReplyDeleteHe worked off Broadway for years and sounds like Bette Davis
Leex
Did you have many theatre trip adventures with him?
DeleteWe still go out once a week, see a show, a comedy night, a late dinner after a good movie
DeleteThat was me Lee
DeleteSo true. In fact, my boyfriend from 1st grade (we planned to marry!) was gay. Of course, we didn't know the term at that age but I came to understand that about him later in life. And no, we lived in different states by then so had been out of touch for many years and didn't marry.
ReplyDeleteTa for the vocabulary lesson, too.
Hugs!
Do you keep in touch?
DeleteNo, but at one point over the years, we both lived in Louisville, Kentucky, me working as a nurse, the kids in elementary school, and DH in seminary. I found out a decade or so later, J was a stage manager at a local theater there.
DeleteHugs!
One of the deep sorrows of my life is that I do not have a gay male friend. I have many queer friends and relatives but no one special gay guy in my life. I have had, at certain points, and I miss that energy dearly.
ReplyDeleteIf I lived closer xx
DeleteSometimes when hugging a female friend smaller than me, I think Oh My! What a sweet little thing! No wonder men like to hold us in their arms!
ReplyDeleteNot sure if this is off topic -- kind of? -- but it's what came to mind after reading your post.
It’s called association and it’s very welcome xx
DeleteYou're either a Carrie or a Charlotte - remind us again how old are you? Sad really an old lonely man daydreaming about stuff like that.
ReplyDeleteYou wouldn’t be Carrie or charlotte , you would be Bunny , the nasty mouthed wart of Charlottes mother in law
DeleteThat told the old shrew
DeleteI am an equal opportunity flirt. I appreciate a good looking woman's looks as much as I appreciate a good looking man's looks. It is their heart that makes me attracted to someone.
ReplyDeleteI don't know about being a Carrie or Charlotte. I don't delineate between gay or straight, black or white. I just see the very few people I've let into my life/hang with, as people I like and trust.
ReplyDeleteIn my choice of friends, sexual preference has never been a factor.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who's in her 80's now but was in her early 60's when she became a widow. She never remarried. She told me, in a blend of truthfulness and cheekiness, that the ideal man for her at her age would be a gay handyman. He could take care of things that needed fixing around the house, and then leave her "the hell alone" (her words) in the bedroom. I had to chuckle at her honesty.
ReplyDeleteYour post made me think back to some of the best, most life--intensive conversations and great fun outings of my past (retired now) and it seems a common denominator was that they often took place with gay males. I travelled a lot for work and I had a few terrifically intelligent and very funny gay co-workers who sometimes ended up in the same place/time as me during trips/conferences. (It was the only time we saw one another as we didn't work in the same office/city.) Whenever this happened, we would find out what was playing during the evenings (i.e. theatre, classical music, ballet, museum exhibitions, etc.) and/or find good restaurants and arrange to go out together. So many great memories; so much shared laughter. Sadly, we've lost touch since retirement.
ReplyDeleteIt is good to have friends of all persuasions who haven't got an ulterior motive so to speak...that you can discuss anything in the world and just have a hug as fellow human beings x
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