King Filipe and Queen Letizia were pelted with mud by some of the frustrated and angry residents of Valencia today. I was saddened by the footage today, saddened for the people and saddened for the royal family, whose intentions were sincere.
As a nurse, and now a trainee therapist, I’ve always known that anger, is the easiest emotion to mobilise when things goes tits up
It’s the most irrational emotional and hardest to deal with, and from what I could tell Filipe and Letizia did their very best against incredible odds.
I remember as a staff nurse on intensive care being wing man to a consultant who was giving bad news to a family. I remember so clearly the Blind fury of the father as he raised his fist to strike the doctor as I stood between them and “ shushed” him as a mother would do to crying child.
The shushing worked, it diffused the anger, but not the pain
Thank goodness
I’m still feeling rough, and I write this in bed, with the kittens purring like aircraft
So much of the world is suffering and/or in turmoil. And you are right. The kneejerk response is always anger.
ReplyDeleteAnger feeds on anger and only a powerfully self aware character can stop it escalating
DeleteThat's something to consider right there, John. That's where I have a hard time. Dealing with the anger of others. I try not to respond in kind, but I can tell you that any response seems to be ineffective in my part of the world. I would love to have the power to de-escalate anger.
DeleteI do believe that a lot of anger comes from fear and frustration. It also seems to be the hardest emotion to deal with, both in oneself and others. Calm and quiet is the way, as you demonstrated.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are starting to feel a bit better day by day. It's certainly been a bugger of a bug! xx
Fear frustration , lack of information and lack of control
DeleteMy parents were a rarity , Jews from Milan Italy
ReplyDeleteLee
Guilt with emotion ?
DeleteWith hysteria
DeleteAnd pasta
Lee
My heart breaks for the folks in Spain, but I am so sad that they would be so unruly with the King and Queen. Clearly, the storm is not their fault.
ReplyDeleteI am also sorry that the unreasonable anger phenom has taken hold across the sea. Here in the US, I just made a grocery store run to ensure that I do not have to leave my house if the MAGAhats get unruly after the election Tuesday. Former Girl Scout, always be prepared...
Nina
I hope Trump doesn’t initiate riots again if he loses.
DeleteMy worry is that he won’t lose
Seriously? Joe Biden isn’t on the ticket because he has dementia. I can’t afford groceries or gas. But Donald Trump is the problem. I love this blog. You are an intelligent man. Don’t fall for the hysteria. Peace out. Hope you feel better.
DeleteWell the first thing he's gonna implement is deportation...so, that's most of the nation then, including his wife..sorry, I thought we were evolving...simplistic I know..I'll get me coat. Stay well x
DeleteAnger seems to be the easiest emotion to access and it always likes to hang around with fear.
ReplyDeleteAnd stupidity
DeleteI'm glad you posted today, was a bit concerned about you being so ill and alone.
ReplyDeleteI had lunch with a friend today but we were both on bad form , but thank you for saying
DeleteSupposedly the sound of a cat's purr is known to lower one's blood pressure. Does that make you feel any better?
ReplyDeleteI often play STORM SOUNDS on Google pebble thing overnight it’s similar to cat purrs
DeleteI have had a similar experience with a relative, I thought he was going to punch me on the side of the head, he lifted his fist to strike. Always had a wing man from then on. Completely dismaying a certain politician chooses to ferment anger in his country to get a win. Love his country he certainly does not.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that susan ……I’ve only experienced violence at work. Never at home
DeleteSorry, should have said relative of a patient.
DeleteKing Felipe stood tall, despite mud and cans being thrown at him.
ReplyDeleteHe is tall, and watching the video of him trying to support his people was heartbreaking . I have a lot of respect for the both of them
DeleteSuch awful times and misplaced anger.
ReplyDeleteI’m glad u are safe
DeleteAnger is pointless.
ReplyDeleteNo I disagree , it.mobilizes
DeleteThe king and Queen looked more concerned for their people than frightened by them
ReplyDeleteI respect them greatly , Trump would never have gone Kamila would have
Keith
Xx
I agree Keith , I felt so sorry for them
DeleteDo you mean Kamala or Camilia the Queen of England?
DeleteWho is Camilia? Do you mean Camilla Queen of England?
DeleteI'm just wondering who Kamila is really. I know Kamala gets very upset when her name is mispronounced
DeleteI share your fear that trump will regain power here...it's hard to believe with him revealing, day after day, the depth of his racism, misogyny, perversion and putrid parts of his personality. I despair for the US
ReplyDeleteI loved Valencia, it was a favorite city of mine. The Roman ruins there were amazing. I hope the people and the city can recover.
I'm sorry you're sick...do you know what virus it is? My youngest, Emily, has covid, her first time. She's on Paxlovid, and 3 days in is doing ok.
Take care, my friend.
Mike, it’s not covid , but it’s a nasty strain that lingers , a great deal of the staff have had it . The older staff it’s hit hard.
DeleteI have to realise I don’t bounce back as I used to
A lot of interest here in the US in epidemiological circles (a fun bunch!) in the uptick in "walking pneumonia" over the last few months, particularly right now. Evidently it doesn't respond to the normal pneumonia antibiotics.....anyway something to avoid. Hope you can start to put it in the rear view mirror soon! Ceci
DeleteAn ability to stay calm amidst strong anger is a real skill.
ReplyDeleteThe King and Queen are admirable people and outstanding role models.
This illness is holding on far too long. Hopefully the sweet purr of kitties provides some nice comfort.
Take care, let the cats watch over you.
ReplyDeleteYes anger can be a ugly thing. I sense it daily around these parts. More to come by Wednesday.
ReplyDeleteMisplaced anger is damaging and seldom helpful. I'm out of sorts this evening for no apparent reason but mayhap it's election concerns.
ReplyDeleteDid anyone see Kamala on Saturday Night Live last night? You can find it on YouTube.
Wishing you well, John.
Hugs!
Sigh.. I wish you good
ReplyDeletehealth and peace,-Mary
Encouraging you to write the book.
ReplyDeleteI felt the same when I saw the footage. I have no idea what those people thought The King could have done to prevent a natural disaster.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I read it was because of their slow response,but I don't know much about it. Regardless, I can understand these people went through a devastating experience and need to vent their anger.
DeleteLinda
I was more moved by many ordinary Spaniards who surrounded the royals and apologised to their royals
DeleteI also had the same reaction when I saw this. So sad.
ReplyDeletePoor Felipe. I wanted to give him a hug.
ReplyDeleteI do understand why the Spanish people were angry but I felt sorry for the King and Queen. It didn't seem right, the weather was not their fault.
ReplyDeleteWin or lose trump and his goons will surely cause problems in the U.S. I fear for the normal law abiding citizens. I can’t go through another four years seeing his ugly self every time I turn on the TV. I might just have to get fid of all the news channels for my sanity. I find myself getting more depressed every time I hear his rants, even though I don’t live in the U.S. Maybe the women will vote for Kamila stealthily. Keep those kittens close and feel better soon, John. Gigi
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sue and you. Getting angry at something over which you have zero control doesn’t do anyone any good. Getting angry and then doing something about it is productive.
ReplyDeleteI understand the anger. Here in the US many people are angry with the Biden administration for their response to recent hurricanes. $750 won't go far, and they are especially angry because money has been spent on illegal immigrants. My cousin from North Carolina had to abandon her home. In her car ride to safety she saw some horrible horrible things. It seems this happens with many of the administrations. I remember Bush being bashed for his response.
ReplyDeleteJust a note that FEMA emergency disaster money has never been spent on any immigration needs. It's not legal to do so. Also, the $750 is intended for emergency needs like food, water, etc. Your cousin can apply for other assistance. Please do your research before spreading disinformation.
DeleteOh please. You do understand the upset regarding money is going to illegal aliens that can be redirected elsewhere. No need to lecture me about doing my research.
DeleteThe above comment was by me, Linda. I don't know why it made me anonymous.
ReplyDeleteIt's really crossing a line when you pelt your own royal family with mud isn't it. Everyone seems to expect immediate reactions to all problems and trauma these days, although it's good when it can happen sometimes it just isn't possible.
ReplyDeleteI too, am not looking forward to the outcome of the US elections if they swing the wrong way. There will be a lot of violence.
If they swing the right way, there will violence. They are being set up for it as we speak.
DeleteConfusing anger for grief is something I did many years ago until a wise and kind counselor pointed this out. You will be one of those counselors, John.
ReplyDeleteHope you feel better soon, John. xxoo
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that you are still feeling rough. Sending a warm hug wrapped in a non-denominational prayer. :)
ReplyDeleteI’m still feeling rough , and haven’t the energy to fight some of the idiotic comments thrown out
ReplyDeleteI may have contributed here to the idiotic comments John although I mean them...but I sincerely feel that you just have to stop for a bit, it's like you have to continually fill your time..I know there's financial reasons...but where is your blank space? Where you literally do fuck all & not feel bad about it?
DeleteGet well soon John . Look at happier things . Things to make you smile ....water the happy seeds in your mind ! 🌱🌱🌱☀️
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