Chic Eleanor nodded and sipped her gin
I told her I had stalked my ex husbands’s wedding on social media last weekend
And she smiled
I think we all would have done that she said kindly
And I think she was right
So how did it feel ? She asked carefully
And do you know that it felt ok I told her
I saw an in law family I once loved posing the same poses they did at my own wedding
And I saw my ex husband looking older and heavier and balder and happy as he danced with his husband
And in that very moment I let him go
After a long five years, I let him go …….
Eleanor listened to my words and smiled her benign smile again
And she reached forward and held my hands firmly on the table top
As we sat silently in the chatter of the pub,
Holding hands
And the tears that followed were the relief
❤️
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ReplyDeleteYou never explained the process of last weekend just the outcome that you wished them well
It now makes more sense
Keith
Xx
Johno?
DeleteLol
I’m fine x
Oh how lovely
ReplyDeleteJo
If that's what it took to let him go I'm really glad you did that! Mary
ReplyDeleteChic Eleanor is so very lovely, inside & out, and I'm so very glad you have her in your life. I hope you feel lighter and peaceful. Be well, John dear.
ReplyDeleteHugs - I am glad you have found your peace x Pattypanxx
ReplyDeleteYou have people all around you who really truly love you and wish you all the very best there is.
ReplyDeleteThank u
DeleteSo flad Chic Eleanor was there to listen and hold yur hands. We all need good friends when momentous trasitins are happening. Peace abd tranquility be with you.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
Thanks babs
DeleteCutting ties is cathartic. Eleanor is a good friend and her support beams with compassion and understanding. It is a new day and opportunity awaits.
ReplyDeleteShe’s a good egg
DeleteSounds like you have gotten closure on that chapter of your life, I am glad.
ReplyDeleteA door closes
DeleteYou have taken a huge step forward, John. Gigi
ReplyDeleteA few more stumbling steps
DeleteI was only wondering how Chic Eleanor was yesterday - Wouldn't it be lovely to find her in male form x
ReplyDeleteThat wouldn’t happen ever
DeleteI'm glad you let go and have closure now. A very good development.
ReplyDeleteIt’s been a long fucking time
DeleteThat is indeed momentous John. It must've taken huge courage to watch that ceremony. I'm glad Chic Eleanor was there for you - being able to weep openly and then move on is huge. You have a large team 'rooting for you'. I have learned lots from you, above all the importance of being honest.
ReplyDeleteNot courage …but need
DeleteOf course, you don't know how the new wedding will end!
ReplyDeleteAnd for the most part of it, I don’t
DeleteAm really happy to read that. xx
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteIt's been five years you say? By my math that's 2018. So you survived both your breakup AND covid. You can survive anything, John.
ReplyDeleteI value that comment Kirk thank u
DeleteI suppose it is similar to the grieving process. At some point the weight will lift, and it seems like it has for you.
ReplyDeleteThe grief has been as real as anything related to a death
DeleteIt takes time to heal. The reality of seeing on social media how time has changed for him too has probably helped with the letting go. Eleanor is such a good friend.
ReplyDeleteIndeed
DeleteThank u
DeleteAnd finally that door closes. Looking into a world that is no longer yours always has a cathartic effect, a detached and more ritical view time and distance allows; and I do remember that you also had the moral courage to go quietly, all alone and a long way across country, to a funeral in Chris's family.
ReplyDeleteYou now inhabit a newer and better world. And to have friends like Eleanor is a treasure beyond price. Good on you, old friend.
This entry moved me so
DeleteThank you for acknowledging it
Eleanor's right, I think we all would have done that. I'm glad for you that it helped heal that wound and lightened your heart. What a wonderful friend Eleanor is. Glad she's part of your world. xx
ReplyDeleteI’m surrounded by good friends, it’s Nu tomorrow
DeleteGood to see people you cared for being happy..and then go on with your own life xx
ReplyDeleteYes gz, nice you get that
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ReplyDeleteWell done, JayGee! Even though for your own good doing it was a necessity you've come through with flying colours.
DeleteWell not flying colours but better that I could
DeleteFew people understand, that it takes years to heal, to forgive, others and ourselves.
ReplyDeleteAnd to get over the shame
DeleteIt's lovely to have your Eleanor; she really does get you, John. Still have a slight pang in my heart for a love I lost 30 years ago, so don't feel as if you have to buck up. You don't. Healing takes time. Hugs from Illinois.
ReplyDeleteWhen I looked at the photos I realised that it was time to say goodbye to someone who had said goodbye to me years ago
DeleteNot only did you describe a profound and meaningful moment, you did it with such poetic brevity and beauty.
ReplyDeleteThank youx
DeleteOver it today but then there's tomorrow. You're far from over him and you know it.
ReplyDeleteChapter closed tears of relief. You deserve nothing but the best and you have that in a friend like Eleanor.
ReplyDeleteIrene
It’s been a long journey
DeleteIn some ways, five years probably feels like a long time -- and in some ways I'm sure it feels like yesterday.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Steve… covid didn’t help much
DeleteGood job! Jackie
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DeleteWell done for being so bloody fabulous! x
ReplyDeleteI’m so happy to be fabulous thank u x
DeleteI would have stalked, too. Good to have a friend like Chic Eleanor in times like those.
ReplyDeleteI’m glad others would have too
DeleteBravo you! (And you are lucky to have a friend like Eleanor.)
ReplyDeleteIndeed xx
DeleteWell done you,❤️
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ReplyDeleteI'm pleased for you John. x
ReplyDeleteI totally understand. From my own experience I can tell you that it was also an event like this when I let go of a relationship that I secretly and fiercely held onto for too many years. It was a bittersweet and emotional moment and so many other things. But it's still part of my soul. I think it will always be.
ReplyDeleteAnd can I confess, that I also stalked your ex-'s wedding on social media?
Why x
DeleteThere's a lucky man out there searching for you John x
ReplyDeleteNo , it’s not. Going to happen xx
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