I mentioned in the previous blog that Gill , the patient mentioned had made me an embroidered scene which I had framed and which I still keep ever since 1988. Jackie asked to see it.
So here it is.
I’m a little saddened with some activity on blogland recently too …I’m not talking about trolls….their activity is absolutely of no consequence to me but I’ve seen Silly one sided fallings out by old friends on line that to me seem petty and pointless .
Blogland , for some , is the bubble , certain people find themselves in when driving their car.
Road rage and comments are safe to throw out, nasty insults and fall outs can be verbalised on line where they would never be voiced in a month of Sundays to someone’s face.
I’m having an aperol spritzer tonight, the fire is lit, and I’m mellow watching Northern Soul at the Proms
Thank you. It is a beautiful treasure. I have been traveling and not kept up with my blog friends so I do not know what has happened but I did notice a few things seem "off" and it saddens me. I agree with your words here and hope it will help others to turn a light on themselves. Whatever is going on a little introspection is most likely needed. Jackie
ReplyDeleteJackie…perhaps just a deep breath
DeleteKeanu Reeves popped up on my FB yesterday: ""I'm at that stage in life where I stay out of discussions. Even if you say 1+1=5, you're right - have fun."
ReplyDeleteI understand thank but I disagree , not every discussion should be a disagreement
DeleteAs usual I've no idea what's been happening in Blogland or who has fallen out with who and why.
ReplyDeleteI just keep writing
Of course you don’t, it’s a localised event ..Just keep swimming
DeleteThen I'll just keep swimming too. Clueless.
ReplyDeleteBest place to be my friend
DeleteI haven't been aware of discord out of the usual either. Surely it's safer and kinder to just not comment than to force a point.
ReplyDeleteI guess it depends on how strongly you feel,.if you are passionate m then still disagree , but don’t fall out
DeleteI haven't seen anything either. Perhaps I follow the wrong blogs...
ReplyDeleteIt’s a niche complaint lol
DeleteI love that you've kept that embroidery all these years. Another little treasure in your life!
ReplyDeleteAs for the blogland falling outs - just play nicely, folks, or learn to say sorry! xx
I am an emotional hoarder
DeleteMe too! xx
DeleteMy home is full of emotional baggage
Delete'Things' in your home that you enjoy or use with delight aren't baggage, my friend. They make your house a home that suits you. As they should. :)
DeleteHugs!
That embroidery is like a painting.
ReplyDeleteShe was a difficult patient, but one day she asked me if I;would like something she made
DeleteI said I did and in a few days she made it for me, she was always touched that I had it framed
Not just blogland, but farcebook too..two people, mutual friends on there and other places, being rude and hurtful to each other. I know both are hurting with their own problems...but it saddens all their mutual friends to see it happen
ReplyDeleteThe anonymity of the whole process ..people forget others are watching
DeleteAnd they are always watching ……
DeleteI've been victim of some back biting by blog readers in my inner circle. When it flares up I archive my posts and go dark for a bit. It "pi--es" me off big time.
ReplyDeleteHow sad x
DeleteYes, online interaction definitely leads to exchanges that we might not have in the real world. My approach is, when in doubt about someone's tone or intent, assume the best -- that they don't mean to be hurtful or harmful, but are just making a point firmly (for example). Fortunately the arguing mostly seems to steer clear of me.
ReplyDeleteSo the embroidery is the small framed picture below the Flintshire map, correct?
Yes Steve xx
DeleteI try to be nice, John. xx
ReplyDeleteI do too, it doesn’t always work out like I intended
DeleteI don't understand the anger. I will never understand why people get so mad.
ReplyDeleteI do
DeleteAnger is the easiest emotion to mobilise when people are hurting
That is a beautiful embroidery. Give things a few days and they'll probably blow over.
ReplyDeleteI’ve said my piece
DeleteI don't really know what you or who you are talking about. But I miss reading Rachel's blog. It was so fun and interesting to read about her intellectual pursuits. Kaye
ReplyDeleteTry again, she is back.
DeleteAh the troublemaker trolls circle
DeleteYou do kaye
DeleteI have recently been attacked for being repetitive; but my life IS repetitive. Yes, I do different things and go to different places, but I can almost predict what I'll be doing in each of the months ahead. I suspect that many are the same.
ReplyDeleteThat was rude and an example of something she’d never say to your face
DeleteShe never used to be like this, I wonder what happened.
DeleteLovely embroidery and am glad to know its history. Ta!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
Xx
DeleteWhen nasty and hurtful comments are made online then they are probably much worse than road rage. As you point out not only is there a larger audience but also, unless deleted, they sit there online for everyone to see for longer. I am only a visitor to blogland but cannot understand why anyone wants to vent anger or a bad mood on others there. Especially when it appears to just come out of nowhere suddenly. I enjoy the blogs I read and like the authors very much.
ReplyDeleteMy life is very repetitive too as Cro says, like many others, and I get so much pleasure from glimpses into the lives of others.
How special to be made something like that by your patient, which you can keep as a reminder of the good in life.
That embroidery. Can you tell me what exactly it's a picture of?
ReplyDeleteIt’s a lakeside
DeleteTo avoid a falling out myself, I'm not asking because there's anything wrong with it, just that it's too small to make out even if I go to full screen.
ReplyDeleteKirk, try this. On your mouse, do a right click. Select 'Open Image in new tab'. Go to that new tab, which will give you small picture, then enlarge it by pressing the Control button and the + sign together, repeat several times. My screen will go up to 500%.
Deletehttps://disasterfilm.blogspot.com/search?q=Embroidery+
DeleteI read blogs and have been surprised by some comments from people who are normally easy going. It's like a switch has been flicked and all rationality has gone out of the window. I try to avoid confrontation on my blog, so I delete a lot.
ReplyDeleteKeep going John, it's in your best interest to understand what is going on. Good training for your new career.
I will continue my friend , the good ( you) always outweigh the bad
DeletePlease do not be offended by what is about to follow. Could we get the terminology right in relation to blogging? I am writing this comment at the end of a "blogpost" - not a "blog". "Going Gently " is a blog and a fine one to boot - it is made up of many blogposts.
ReplyDeleteU bugger x
DeleteI meant to watch that Prom John but forgot until it was over. Hope you enjoyed it/
ReplyDeleteNot my type of music but on balance I did enjoy it
DeleteA huge and scary friend of mine says that you should only call someone a wanker to their face.
ReplyDeleteWith a smile
DeleteBe kind to one another, be gentle.
ReplyDeleteNot always appropriate xx
DeleteIf only everyone would follow that advice Travel.
DeleteWhen would it not be appropriate to be kind and gentle John? Bearing in mind the opposites are unkind and brutal.
When psychopaths and people with personality disorders try to cause blog trouble anon
DeleteHi. I follow a small number of blogs and interact on even a smaller number, so I don't see that behavior here. I saw it often on FB and before that, forums. Which is why I don't do go there anymore. It's easy to be a jerk while sitting at a keyboard.
ReplyDeleteThere are lots of keyboard warriors
DeleteI have not commented here much before, but I adore you, You are a gentle soul.
ReplyDeleteWith a name like this PLEASE comment again x
DeleteBeware John, Agnes's profile says she married for money and security and has a lousy in bed husband!
ReplyDeleteIf only we were all so honest!
DeleteI don't drop by as often as I would like to (worse luck!) but when I do I get the added bonus of reading all the comments of good folks in your life.
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