Life is a fickle beast.
One minute you are battling the small brickbats of shite that make things literally crap
The next you are swinging your hips to a fun bit of music and sad videos on tiktok suddenly do not have the power to make you weep when you don’t want to.
I finished my assignment last night.
I just need to type it up today.
Bluebell is back on the road, ( albeit a totally iced up one this morning) but won’t be taking me out until lunchtime as the - 5 temps last night have re- iced the lane and effectively rendered the incline to the main road impassable.
I’m taking a neighbour to a hospital appointment
From having nothing in my calendar last week, I have found things filling up gently.
Gorgeous Dave has asked me to go and attend a Meat Loaf By Candlelight evening which sounds a somewhat unlikely pairing, I must admit.
Tomorrow, I’m bunking off college to go to the Choir’s annual pub singalong and next week I’ve arranged supper out with Chic Eleanor .In between, I’m meeting another friend for brunch at Bryn Williams and there’s the village Christmas Fayre to help with next Saturday.
Tomorrow I’m going to the funeral of a dear friend’s husband . Eirlys has featured on many of the early Going Gently blogs as she was my chicken guru , and fountain of all knowledge when it came to hens.
I’ve just come off the phone to her after reading her all of the tributes that were written in memory of her husband on the village Facebook page.
Not a FBer , herself , she gave me permission to pass on the news that her husband John had died.
This morning I slowly read out each comment in turn and moved dreadfully, she listened to each one, silently as the tears fell.
“I didn’t know , that We knew so many people” she quietly added when I was finished
A funeral tomorrow lunchtime ….singing in the pub, tomorrow evening
So Scarlet was right
After all tomorrow IS another day
I'm not one for songs and lyrics normally, but this morning I found myself thinking of the Everybody hurts, sometimes tune. It is so true.
ReplyDeleteSuch a melancholic song
DeleteThat was such a lovely thing to do - reading out the Facebook comments to Eirlys during her time of sorrow. Somehow bitter winter weather fits funerals better than summer splendour.
ReplyDeleteGrief is such a horrid emotion
DeleteThe pub singalong will be a wonderful antidote to your woes. We thought we had a clear week but it has filled with medical appointments and meeting up with people. Tiring, mentally exhausting even, but as the saying goes, you are a long time dead. PS, it was a nice memory of Winnie.
ReplyDeleteThank you Andrew, it was always worth repeating
DeleteCondolences to Eirlys. After the week you've had, belting out some songs at the pub sounds good. xx
ReplyDeleteI’ve missed choir so very much
DeleteYou've got a good mix of activities: Good, bad and everything in between. Loss of a loved one is hard, especially around the holidays. Reaching out to Eirlys with FB messages certainly eased a hard day. Great to have Bluebell back. We have a light snow cover in Massachusetts too. Less than an inch and no ice makes a pretty white blanket covering all surfaces.
ReplyDeleteIt’s -3 in trelawnyd tonight…Dorothy absolutely refused her walk
DeleteMeatloaf by Candlelight…..is that as in ground beef or Marvin Lee Aday?
ReplyDeleteI will let you know
DeleteA really lovely thoughtful gesture reading the Facebook entries that would have been appreciated on so many levels. A shared moment that helped, it is the connections in life that keep us going. I agree with you re the ups and downs of life. I heard someone ask on the radio ‘what made you smile today’ and tho I usually try and keep positive, I’d just been on the receiving end of screaming rage. Fate intervened with a request to FaceTime with a grand child that brought me back to who I am.
ReplyDeleteFunnily enough I’ve arranged for two FaceTime meet ups with friends towards Christmas , Christmas jumper and hat mandatory
DeleteSounds like all those tributes to her husband brought some comfort to Eirlys. A difficult time, especially so near Christmas.
ReplyDeleteMy sister took her some flowers which moved her greatly
DeleteNice plans for the coming week and hope there is a thaw so Bluebell can make it up the incline to the main road.
ReplyDeleteHow kind of you to read the FB tributes to Eirlys. My sympathy to her.
Methinks your wise to go to the choir sing-along rather than college!
Hugs!
Me thinks you are right
DeleteAll who say , life goes on ...these are the things they are talking about. Life , living and moving on step by step.
ReplyDeleteLife isn't all big events , it is the smaller everyday things that make up life. Peace to you sir . Peace and tranquility, people you love and who love you. Each piece of your life makes it what it is. Love.
Nicely put , food for thought xx
DeleteI was gonna write some smart arse comment re Meatloaf and Candlelight with Hyacinth B. But thought better of it, as l think it would be a bit disrepectful to Eirlys. Berevement is always horrible but it seems so much worse in the melancholy winter monthes, my condolences to the dear lady on her sad loss. Tess
ReplyDeleteShe does read the blog , but also has a cracking sense of humour ….thank you tess
DeleteYour evening with Gorgeous Dave I think would be quite emotional x
ReplyDeleteNot really
DeleteTake care of yourself, as you care for others. Glad to hear the car is back, I had one in the mid 1980's that had shift linkage problems, I got to the point that I could slide under it with two wrenches and put it back together in 3 minutes, back when I was thin enough to slide under a Renault.
ReplyDeleteI couldn’t slide under an elephant
DeleteEveryday something new and different happens. Death during the winter months and Holidays are especially hard. Baby Nicole died before Christmas it is sad at anytime. One day your buying presents next day your planning a church service. Hope she will be well.
ReplyDeletePainful thoughts dear Gayle ….big hugs
DeleteTomorrow is another day, and who knows what next year will hold for us.
ReplyDeleteFingers crossed eh, fingers crossed xx
DeleteI hope Eirlys, too, will be singing again soon. Meat Loaf by Candlelight? Is that the meal they’re serving or is it music by Meat Loaf? “I’d do anything for love. (But I won’t do that.)”
ReplyDeleteI’m presuming it’s the music of meat loaf…..candlelight doesn’t quite suit his image
DeleteI don 't think I could skip college for a singalong, the college commitment is so important to your future, the pub is just for fun. You never said if classes are in person, and where or if it's all zoom.
ReplyDeleteThere's a saying that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.... apt don't you think. Missing one session isn't going to sink the boat.
DeleteJo in Auckland
I’m a dull boy. (Lizzy d)
DeleteIt’s all about balance I guess…I’ve worked hard on the essay, spent another four hours in the library writing it up and tomorrow I’m going to a funeral . Wednesday and Thursday I’m working in the hospice
DeleteI think a night off singing with a pint ,,,,,,
Is a good choice
Ps I’m now going to college , choir changed to next week , ( which is more Christmasy I guess)
DeleteGood plan!
DeleteI’m still contemplating a bunk
DeleteYou have a gift for understanding the needs of your family, friends, neighbors, and patients, and you kindly and lovingly meet (if not exceed) those needs. Sharing with Eirlys the tributes to her husband is only the most recent instance. Take good care of yourself, John dear.
ReplyDeleteIt was a simple enough thing to do , I was just glad I thought of it
DeleteI understand that the candlelight concerts are a scam, but I do hope this one is for real as that would be cool. Do report back!
ReplyDeleteI went to one in the palm house in Liverpool’s Sefton park
DeleteIt was the music of john williams by a string quartet ..their Jurassic park was a bit limp
DeleteAlways worth remembering that tomorrow is another day. x
ReplyDeleteMargaret Mitchell had the right idea
DeleteYou are such a strong part of your community.
ReplyDeleteI can name at least a dozen than do more than i
DeleteMake that the Fickle Fates - the three of them. They seem to be quite busy this season yanking the threads.
ReplyDeleteIndeed they do my friend x
DeleteScarlett knew all.
ReplyDeleteDidn’t she just
DeleteA village pulling together. In sad and happy times.
ReplyDeleteAs it should be.
Wishing you safe driving...as tis said, Stay between the hedges and rubber side down!!
People only open their hearts once you're gone. I think we should all change that.
ReplyDeleteYou are right. I was speaking to some whose husband had recently died. She said people had told her such nice things about her husband “pity we have to wait until someone is dead” she said.
DeleteSometimes I am so grateful that "Tomorrow is another day". Other times I am grateful for the day I have had.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear that your friend has lost her husband.
Or, as Little Orphan Annie sang, tomorrow is always a day away.
ReplyDeleteSo good of you to read the comments to Eirlys, the thought that so many folk had taken time to leave them and that her husband meant so much to so many people must have helped her just the tiniest bit.
ReplyDeleteMeatloaf by candlelight ... it doesn't compute!!