Wednesday, 17 August 2022

People Day

 It’s a kind of I’m fed up of people day today

Someone I like and respect has taken something I’ve said in such the wrong way I’ve been rendered practically speechless. 
Of course I’m not speechless and I’ve replied with candour and surprise and have apologised even though I am 100% sure it’s a case of over sensitivity and misinterpretation .
I remain vaguely insulted by the whole situation.

My ghoster eventually replied too, with the sentence I just feel there is nothing on my side. He also asked if we could keep in touch. I’ve told him no but I wished him well.

Both situations have left a bad taste in my mouth.

I’ve just been out walking Roger too and got shouted at by a man on a bike who felt I was in his way 
I was but Roger was too frightened to move 



55 comments:

  1. A day for staying at home with the unconditional love of animals, methinks, and sod all human contact! xx

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  2. Well, that's the three things over and done with John, things can only get better now (hopefully). Some people are so oversensitive they take umbrage over entirely innocent statements, leaving us a bit dumbfounded and feeling wrong-footed. Oh, and by the way, my name's not Snooze, it's Sooze - don't worry, I'm not taking offence, you're not the first - nor will you be the last - to call me that haha ;-) xx

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  3. Yorkshire Liz11:58 am

    Well, there's the charm of three sorted and done wigh. You do what you can. Sounds to me as if the h intended offence taken is more to do with things going on in that person 's head rather than out of your mouth. That the booster wants life all ways, but mainly his (ghosts you but then wants to stay in touch? Live is too short and already complicated enough) and as for the bloke on the bike....well, that's what they do. Think water and ducks backs and move on. X

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  4. Oh dear, one of those days . . . tomorrow will be better, hopefully.

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  5. I hate it when that happens. I once had someone miss hear what I said. When I finally heard how mad he was, I was devastated, crying, etc. We cleared it up but I always felt it hanging over us .
    Good days, bad days...they eventually even out.

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  6. People seem to have forgotten their ability to be polite. It is a shame disagreements can result in such harsh consequences sometimes.

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  7. Some people are a total waste of oxygen aren't they

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  8. I'm sorry someone has said what they did John - I've had this quite a lot - When it's been from a troublemaker it's bad enough but when it was someone I trusted was kindly it hurts deeply - I wonder if one of those leads that say Dog in training would help people be more thoughtful x

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  9. Sometimes, people can be disappointing. Dismiss them and move on. You have better things to do. That's how I roll and it works well for me...might work for you too. There are lots of fish in the pond and you can be selective. Hold that thought and make it a good day.

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  10. Too much going on in the world, high anxiety everywhere, causing people to unconsciously tilt and act out. Wake me when it's over.

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    1. Anonymous1:43 pm

      Well said. I am going to use this when friends struggle. If you don't mind?

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    2. If it helps someone to stop and realize what they're doing and why, have at it.

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  11. So sorry to read that your day was spoiled through no fault of your own. Sometimes it isn't easy to just 'get over' such things and the hurt settles deep inside. Have a gentle (((((((HUG))))))) and concentrate on beautiful things as you sit in your lovely garden and listen to the bees and birdies. - Rosemary x

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  12. I tend to piss people off too. I understand that it's not usually about me, or just about me, but I take it personally. I had a day like that yesterday too. Sending hugs John.

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  13. Ugh. People.
    But you know what? It may be their problem. I've also said some things and people are left huffing and puffing. Well, dear....
    And as for the ghoster? Unforgivable. I can't.
    *hugs*

    XOXO

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  14. Anonymous2:48 pm

    There are days when the somewhat crass phrase ' I'm alright, it's everyone else ' fits the bill exactly.
    Poor Roger, what an idiot on the bike.
    Alison in Wales x

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  15. Anonymous3:02 pm

    Be a duck today John and let it all roll over your head. You know in your gut the right and wrong of the situations. Ignore them. All the best with Roger. Your dogs and Albert are lucky to have you x

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  16. Just been catching up on your latest posts and Roger is adorable and seems to be settling in beautifully.

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  17. Let's face it, at least 25% of Joe Public are idiots!
    Some days you get through and only encounter the rest of the population, but on other days, well, it's 'idiot's day out'!!!
    Today, we had a 'nice, sensible, friendly people' morning, but this afternoon was just one feckin' nutjob after another!
    Sitting down with my feet up and a bucket of coffee is calming me down nicely though! X

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  18. Margaret4:06 pm

    How about getting a t shirt printed up bearing the legend: Puppy in training. Please pass slowly. Thanks for your patience.

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    1. That's an excellent idea and I hope John looks into getting a t-shirt done up ... front and back!

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  19. I agree, It's more often whats going on with the other person. I hope your friend accepts you didn't mean offense.

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  20. Barbara Anne4:58 pm

    I like the tee shirt idea Margaret had. Perhaps it's time to circle the wagons and let the world go by as you, Albert, Mary, Dorothy, and Roger enjoy yoursselves in the house and in the garden.

    Hugs!

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  21. It’s okay to have days like this. Curl up with the kids and soak in the unconditional love 💗. And treat yourself kindly today knowing that there are plenty out here who wish you nothing but good things and value you as you are.

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  22. Sometimes, people just suck. It's a sad fact of life. Roger, however, will always be on your side.

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  23. This sort of thing always makes me realise l am right in my choice of animals over people anyday. As for the (probably) Lycra Wanker Cyclist, l have no repeatable words, good job l wasn't there to chase him down, is all l want to add. How dare he frighten Roger, give him a big kiss from his unknown Auntie Tess x

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  24. The Tshirt sounds a great idea. So sorry, I suspect many of us get days like that. Hugs to you and the animals; Roger sounds to have been an excellent choice. Jxx

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  25. I am sorry for the annoying human contact today! The blog seems fairly benign lately so I am guessing it was RL encounters. The bike guy tho! Poor Roger. Surely pedestrians have right of way? Mo and I had a terrible encounter during lockdown, with a speeding car who turned into a parking lot we were crossing in a crosswalk lane--- they never saw us, they never slowed down, I hauled Mo out of its path by his harness. Pugs never move fast unless they are escaping to freedom---the car missed us by inches. I am still traumatized and have rearranged our walks to avoid the area.

    I know Roger will learn from your confident demeanor tho.

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  26. Anonymous5:49 pm

    Love your blog John, makes me smile and keeps me happy. Too many people being over sensitive these days, mental health labels put on youngsters when they could help themselves by not constantly looking at screens. As an aside Chris Evans recently gave words of wisdom we should all ask ourselves when reaching for a phone. Ask yourself Why now? What for? What else?
    I know my what else would be looking at the world (tis still wondrous) all around.
    Roger is a welcome addition to your house and blog!
    Keep going!

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  27. Oh my mama told me
    There'll be days like this
    Oh my mama told me
    There'll be days like this.... Van Morrison

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  28. Animals are so much easier! I do think people have been more on edge since the pandemic got dug in. The stress has been there for too long now, and added to that is the division in thinking that has surfaced over how to handle it. It seems to have changed the world. Maybe I'm only more aware of it than I used to be.

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  29. There's a line in a country song - God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.

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  30. Our dogs probably understand us better than our people do.
    Look out couch , you are about to be put to good use.
    You may need an extension before long,on the couch and to the side.

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  31. Wishing you peace, John!

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  32. Maggie Smith as the Countess of Grantham in Downton Abbey said :
    " Life is a series of problems which we must try and solve, first one and then the next, until at last we die '
    I've always remembered that.
    I absolutely LOVE Roger. XXXX

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  33. I like the tee shirt idea too. John, every one has days when they behave badly. I can be an asshole. I never mean to. I always feel badly after the fact. Give your friend a chance to cool down.

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  34. Anonymous9:32 pm

    Love your blog John, have read it every day for a couple of year without comment, but young Roger makes me want to comment, he will add to your household joy and love
    Pam from Adelaide

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  35. I posted pictures of my staircase for you today, John.

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  36. Sounds like your friend was triggered about some past injury.
    I genuinely think a t-shirt about Roger is a waste of time, people who think an adorable puppy is in the way are way too self obsessed to be reading a shirt

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  37. Anonymous12:29 am

    Hubby I live in an area with a lot of shared walking and cycle trails, and have decided a plural of cyclists is a smug. They are quick enough to accuse car drivers of endangering them while also apparently feeling all walkers must leap out of their way at the 1st ding of a bell, or no bell and pure ESP! I guess a bell isn't manly enough, though apparently the lycra is!

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    1. Anonymous12:29 am

      Oops, Tina in west oz here!

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    2. lol, Tina - your comment made me laugh :)

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    3. I call them Lycrists. Round here, they refuse to use the cycle lanes and ride, often 2 or 3 abreast causing chaos. I like cycling, but not in Lycra (perish the thought) and not aggressively, before anyone jumps down my throat! xx

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  38. Oh dear. I suppose we all have the occasional day like that.

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  39. Other humans can complicate our lives sometimes, unfortunately.

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  40. People! I promise to always be nice to you.

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  41. Some days are just rubbish and do leave a bad taste. Time to curl up at home with the dogs for a cuddle.

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  42. First rule of the road: pedestrians always have right of way

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    1. Yes, but don't argue with that HGV heading your way! xx

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  43. Anonymous9:34 am

    Today will be better. Wishing you (and the clan) a good walk, great weather and an unexpected meeting which lightens the mood

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  44. Anonymous11:19 am

    John - you are fabulous
    Siobhan

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  45. Sometimes life gets too peoply. And some people need to think first!
    No need for the man on the bike to shout.. I am ashamed of him, as a cyclist myself. A dog will always stand broadside on. However small the dog. In order to protect you!

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  46. Some days we just need a little stone house on the edge of the village, and to be left alone with our pack and books. Maybe it is the moon or something, it has been a rough week.

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  47. Some days just go like that don't they, it's like when you go out in the car and everyone pulls out in front of you or cuts you up, you start to wonder if you and your whole bloody vehicle are just invisible!

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