Kitchen table
Coffee.
The bantam cockerel is noisy next door which is strange as it’s 10.30.
I’m planning my cooking for the weekend as I’m working both days
Katsu curry, sushi and mushroom noodles.
Tonight I’m out to dinner for a colleagues leaving do .
The 1970s Italian in Conwy, Alfredo’s
More coffee, me thinks, then I need to post some birthday cards.
Amongst others it’s Nu’s birthday tomorrow.
My nephew texted me yesterday
The message was simple and to the point.
“ Julie and I had our first kiss today”
I was touched he had shared the milestone with me and managed a exuberant reply of “ OMG !”
“ Yep “ came the economical and proud response.
I told him to keep on practicing if he liked it
And he sent me lots of laughing emojis
😆🤣
Now my first kiss with a girl was a somewhat overblown and unpleasant affair, Her name was Eirian and the kiss was wet and sloppy and passionless. She had a bosom that acted as though it had a brain of its own and I felt somewhat hemmed in by it and Eirian’s lips as I lay prostrate on her parents couch.
I was sixteen and disappointed
I was 18 when I was kissed by a man.
It felt like a one off as it was by the brother of my then girlfriend and although it felt right in so many ways, it totally felt wrong in others.
It was six years later when I was more grown up when I had my second , proper snog with a man.
Now this too was a strange affair which happened after midnight in the back entrance doorway of Bootham Park Hospital’s psychiatric wing.
He was a policeman with a thick black beard who had stopped for a cuppa at our mother and baby unit
I was showing him out when he unexpectedly pushed me against the door and kissed me.
If there was more to the moment, like the build up of flirting or any furtive blushing , I can’t recall it.
I always remember him as being tall and cheerful, and full of manly smiles.
I wonder now if he was just a security guard.
But his kiss was a million miles away from the ones I had experienced before.
And one or two since.
OMG
ReplyDeleteThe first time a man kissed me I was fifteen and I felt butterflies. He was my best friend. Yay for your nephew!
And I love Heartstopper! I've read all the books and have watched the series twice now.
XOXO
It’s sweet isn’t it….it’s being lauded by many gay men who wish they’d experience first love like the love shon on the series
DeleteMy first proper kiss was with Susan Dean on the back seat of the hire bus that had taken us to Whitby on our annual school trip. I was ten years old and she was eleven. It felt good. We kind of got lost in it. Later that summer I kissed Gillian Hartley inside a haystack. Her lips were smooth and slippery like the inside of a shellfish and again we got kind of lost. KIssing can be like a sort of miniature dance in which we express ourselves without words before coming up for air.
ReplyDeleteYou got all giddy there for a moment YP
DeleteOh that's so sweet. Is Julie on the Spectrum too? My eldest son is Autistic and I think he was about the same age as your nephew when he got his first girlfriend but he never shared the details with me, its his sisters who filled me in on all the details of fumblings in the bushes on the park lol. This prompted the discussion of contraception etc which he visibly cringed throughout but better safe than sorry has always been my attitude
ReplyDeleteI’m very touched he’s shared the kiss
DeleteJulie is a pseudonym btw
How lovely that your nephew feels secure in his relationship with you to share that magical moment. I can't recall my first kiss, so it was obviously nothing to write home about! xx
ReplyDeleteYou can always share a story of one that you do remember
DeleteOK. My now husband, before we got together. We were friends, walking to the station from college. He kissed me, and I remember thinking I shouldn't be doing this as I had a boyfriend already, but I enjoyed it so much. I still love kissing him, after nearly 47 years of marriage. xx
DeleteSweet x
DeleteHH-I am so happy for you - You are a lovely lady xx
DeleteThank you. xx
DeleteA Policeman in uniform -Lucky You John-My mum when she was in her 50s had a young Policeman x
ReplyDeleteI’m wondering now if he was a security guard
DeleteOk err-Were there handcuffs involved John -if you don't mind the intrusion?
DeleteToo many questions
DeleteThere are always too many questions from flis, the smutty boy.
DeleteI attended a girls school and wore a straw boater and pure white gloves-No Boys allowed at any time x
DeleteI was going out with a gorgeous blonde young man-after a while I was taken aback when snogging that his breathe stunk of rotten eggs x
ReplyDeleteSo lovely that your nephew just had to tell you his lovely news. A first kiss is so special ... I can just imagine his grin when he got your 'OMG'.
ReplyDeleteMy first kiss was with Duncan Kettle under a street light, half way up a set of steps leading to the main road above a train line. It would have been magical except that he had done EXACTLY the same thing in the same place with my best friend just two weeks before and she had told me all about it ... and it was too sloppy to put up with more than once, no wonder she had dumped him after two days!!
Funny what we remember isn’t it?
DeleteI cannot remember my first kiss. I guess I should have been blogging back then and recorded everything.
ReplyDeleteTell us about a nice subsequent one then !
DeleteI miss snogging....wonder if I'll ever be kissed again? x
ReplyDeleteWith your looks ? I have no doubt that you will !
DeleteI miss snogging too Libby, and hugs - oh how I miss hugs.
DeleteJan
Now you having me reaching back to my early memories but for the life of me, I cannot remember my first kiss.
ReplyDeleteThat's sad.
Like I said to others let’s hear of a subsequent snog then
DeleteI do remember "making out" with a boy in high school who was trying to slip his tongue in (we called it french kissing) and I would have nothing to do with that! Good Catholic girl that I was then had learned that was a terrible sin and kept my teeth tightly locked! Luckily, I got over that by the time I was in College! :)
DeleteSteady on !,,
DeleteYour cop/guard kiss sounds so erotic. I do remember such one off passions and they could be mind blowing. I remember them so vividly.
ReplyDeleteI think I remember this one because it was somewhat surreal
DeleteFunny- I've been thinking lately about my first kiss. Lucky for me it was with someone that I did indeed feel quite attracted to and he was sweet and so was the kiss.
ReplyDeleteLovely post!
ReplyDeleteMy first kiss was from Dave, a work=mate who was my age and it as a sloppy, not-so-pleasant kiss. I was aslo kissed by two bold doctors after I was married. Those kises weren't welcome.
Hugs!
Hummm another story and subject ..
DeleteMy first kiss (with a guy) was with someone I wasn't very attracted to but it wasn't unpleasant. I just remember noticing how different it was from kissing a girl. Whiskers!
ReplyDeleteYes, I like kissing a man with a bushy beard.
DeleteI did recently and enjoyed it
I can't really remember but I think it was with my best friend's brother -think there was a bit of fumbling too but it is about 75 years ago so forgive for being vague.
ReplyDeleteYou fast cat pat xx
DeleteWell done your nephew...I love your comment and advice!
ReplyDeleteFirst kiss? A bit fumbly but not bad, at 14...yes it did need practice!!
It’s difficult to gage a response that sounds supportive celebratory and not patronising
DeleteFirst kisses are memorable. Subsequent kisses get better and better over time! Cheers to kissing every day...
ReplyDeleteYes…I’m not good at many things but I’m a good kisser
DeleteI'm happy for your nephew -- first date, now first kiss!
ReplyDeleteI know ….I love the fact that he tells me
DeleteNothing better than that dizzy feeling you can get from a good kiss.
ReplyDeleteIndeed …….I had one last week
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DeleteMy first kiss was when I was about eight or nine from a boy I was very fond of; sadly he was killed in a climbing accident on Skye several years later, My best kiss was from an out of work Argentinian boxer on the steps of the Sacre Coeur, followed by a marriage proposal. I often wonder what my life would have been like if I'd said yes!
ReplyDeleteThat was the BEST reply EVER x
DeleteFirst kiss was with a university student while I was waiting for a taxi home and he seemed more nervous than I was. Not great for either of us I think. I remember hoping that it could be better than that.
ReplyDeleteHow great for your nephew and sweet that he told you. I don’t remember my first kiss with a girl. I remember my first serious makeout session, however -- when I was 15 on my girlfriend’s parents’ plastic-slipcovered-sofa. It was squeaky and sticky. My first man-on-man kiss, I was 27. My first thought: I’ve never kissed a mustache before. This is hot!
ReplyDeleteIt is x
DeleteMy first kiss was beautiful, soft and gentle, with someone I thought would be the love of my life. It was in the 60's and with no mobiles or house telephones and living some miles away from each other we lost touch. I can't remember his last name now so there's no way in finding out how he fared in life. But I do hope he's had a happy life with someone who adored him
ReplyDeleteAs I'm now in my 70's and haven't kissed anyone for a long time I do sometimes wonder if I'd even know how to do it - can someone tell me how people kiss these days? In my youth it was with closed lips, no tongues or french kissing as we called it - much too racy for "good girls"
Sara
Nicely written , gratefully shared x
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