Birthday Garden

 The removal and subject of masks in Wales has ruffled a few feathers since yesterday and last night I received a few messages ( mainly from nurse friends who are totally opposed to the legislation) I’ve reflected on it and feel ok with the decision , especially from a hospice’s perspective.

If I was a nurse in the acute sector, I would keep my mask on

Throughout the pandemic our hospice was the only healthcare facility I know, that remained open to visitors. We had to maintain a strict policy, regarding numbers and track and trace and PPE but every patient who was at the end of their life, could have their loved ones with them to say their goodbyes. 

I visited many family homes when working on the community , where a house was packed with grieving relatives and I had to balance my own safety with the fact that syringe drivers needed changing and patients needed turning.

The taking off of our masks yesterday was almost symbolic. 

The nurses, the doctors, our physio, social worker, community nurses and support workers as well as the admin staff and housekeeper all looked at each other….properly ….and collectively we saw each other smile with our whole faces again…..


Anyhow today is dull…weather wise ….I’m meeting Chic Eleanor for lunch which will brighten the proceedings then I need to catch up with Gorgeous Dave in order to discuss Italy .

It’s choir tonight too.

While I was at work my sister has been beavering away planting the garden borders out, as a birthday gift.

It seems that hundreds of shrubs and flowers have suddenly appeared, including a lovely Japanese acer in a pot. My cousin Karen left me a beautiful yellow rose to incorporate into the design ,






Thank you to people who have sent me cards and unlabelled gifts . I will open them tomorrow before I go to work . My friend Ruth who is in Scotland and Ben in South Korea will be zooming together at 6.30 am over breakfast.



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  1. Anonymous7:43 am

    How many gifts and cards do you send to bloggers?

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    1. Anonymous9:20 am

      Simply a question.

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    2. Anonymous1:04 pm

      I will conclude that you would rather not say.

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    3. Conclude what u like

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  2. Anonymous7:53 am

    A family member was in a hospice in England for seven weeks before he died and only one visitor was allowed in at any given time. His family were travelling from Wales having to stand outside an open window. Totally bloody heartless rules.

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    1. The rules were not heartless. Covid was heartless.

      We had one relative that was a “ super spreader” and a score of nurses were infected because of him.

      Non of the rules seemed fair , but vulnerable people were protected as a result


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    2. John, a virus can't be "heartless" because a virus doesn't have a heart or feelings. A virus does what a virus does. Spread. It's its purpose.

      The rules for the dying WERE heartless. Shameful. "Vulnerable people were protected as a result"? How much more vulnerable can you be than when at death's door? To deny someone entry who wants to hold that dying hand one last time is cruel, inhumane beyond measure.

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    3. You are wrong Ursula
      Totally wrong.
      we DIDNT deny holding hands of loved ones we ENCOURAGED it …did you not read my post which made it clear that our hospice has been open to visitors throughout the pandemic? Yes we restricted numbers and ppe had to be worn but visiting at the end of life was always maintained.
      The vulnerable people we needed to protect were staff members and the visitors themselves

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    4. "You are WRONG, Ursula". Even "totally wrong". My dear John, when I am NOT wrong in your eyes? I could do a pirouette and you'd tell me I wasn't dancing the Salsa. Which is fair enough.

      YOUR hospice may have been an exception in allowing end-of-life visitors in. Which is great. But please don't make a song and dance about the RULES, as observed by many hospitals, having been RIGHT. They weren't. In the Angel's words: If his mother had been hospitalized and he'd been denied access he'd scaled the walls and climbed through the window. Risk? What risk? And to whom? Ask the underwriter.

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    5. In this case you are wrong, but as always you know better ,and good for the Angel, he sounds a darling

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  3. veg artist7:56 am

    What luck to have such a sister! No wonder the neighbours stroll past to see what's flowering. Enjoy your day!

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  4. My husband is 70 tomorrow it seems lots of good people have the same birthday.

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  5. I find that anons comments are upsetting -and that is their aim - they are only doing it to drag you down- a typical bullying tactic -x

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    1. Don’t worry and there’s no need to react flis. I can deal with them myself

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  6. Your sister has been "beavering away"? Has she got large, protruding front teeth? And does she perchance live in a lodge?

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  7. Your garden looks beautiful. I especially like the gravelled area. x

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    1. Janet had upped the planting so tge gravel off sets the &lowers

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  8. I love that line about seeing everyone smile with their whole faces. It's been a long time coming! Your garden is looking wonderful and lush. A real little oasis of calm and beauty. xx

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  9. Oh, that garden goddess sister of yours. Since it’s your Birthday Garden, will you be out there in your Birthday Suit tomorrow?

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    1. That would keep the rabbits off my lawn

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  10. Enjoy the garden and 60, is kind of a fun time in life

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  11. Your garden is so charming!
    Wishing you the best years of your life as you celebrate #60.

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  12. Happy birthday, dear John. May this day be delightful, may you have years of delight and joy ahead of you.

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    1. I may have given the impression it’s today, no it’s tomorrow but thank you so much x

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  13. That's a wonderful birthday treat from your sister - the garden looks lovely and you get so much joy out of it.

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    1. I do and I love that I’m getting more compliments about it since Janet took it over

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  14. Your garden looks very inviting and interesting John-I love gardens that are full of shrubs and perenials rather than too many annuals-I'm trying to remove the lawn bit by bit-plus I'm growing vegetables-hopefully - but the cheeky ones like to poo and wee and scratch there x

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  15. Going mask-less feels sooooo good. I'm happy for you and your coworkers. One less burden is welcomed. Janet's work in the garden is always wonderful. The new Japanese Acer and yellow rose are very nice gifts. The big day is near!

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    1. I know I’ve wrung the most out of it all lol

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    2. I know I’ve wrung the most out of it all lol

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  16. Your garden is looking lovely... A haven to balance the stress of work.
    Have a good day tomorrow x

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    1. We have only three patients so I hope we remain quiet..the physio is giving me acupuncture too

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  17. Beautiful photo of the foxgloves, one of my favourites :)

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  18. Gigi hawaii2:40 pm

    Sounds like a great way to celebrate your birthday. Love the garden. Gigi hawaii

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    1. My birthday is tomorrow but I’ve got my cards to open before work

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  19. Your sister is an artist in flowers and shrubbery!

    And FYI Snide Anon, John once sent a beautiful rainbow lanyard to me in Canada simply because I had admired the one he was wearing in a photo on his blog. I'm sure I'm not the only reader of his who has benefitted from his spontaneous generosity.

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  20. I'm glad your hospice kept allowing visitors through it all. In the US, most were shut off totally, closed window visits only, 1 visitor per day, etc. I bet there were lots of smiles all day seeing coworkers entire faces after so long of being masked up.
    I'm a bit envious of your birthday gift garden help, I'd love to find help with my weeding, but none to be found even for pay. So I plug away best I can, and ponder giving it up. Or at least cutting way back. Planting new is much more fun than the drudgery of incessant weeding.
    I hope your birthday tomorrow is a good one!

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    1. I love the fact I can come home and poof the garden is sorted and neat and healthy

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  21. Happy Birthday for tomorrow. Your garden looks lovely

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    1. Thank you sue, my sister has transformed it

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  22. Barbara Anne3:58 pm

    How wonderful to see full face smiles once more! May all be safe as we venture forth.
    Cheers for wonder-worker Janet! The garden is glorious.
    Happy, happy birthday to you, John, and may the year ahead be a delight in every way!

    Hugs!

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  23. Your garden is perfect John. Shall be thinking of you tomorrow John and will raise my glass to you in the evening. x

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    1. Thank you pat, I’d love to share a drink with you in person one day

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  24. Your borders are looking amazing! Happy birthday, John.

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    1. I feel I’m living at chatsworth house, so neat she’s made them

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  25. Happy Birthday Eve! I will be thinking of you tomorrow!

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    1. Thank you Bonnie ….I’m loving the attention

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  26. Traveller7:11 pm

    The garden looks lovely. I think you mind set at passing 60 is great. Loved the comment about people shouldn’t hate getting old - you are right.

    BTW a virus is heartless …the definition is “displaying a complete lack of feeling or consideration”

    Happy b’day eve

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  27. Wendy7:20 pm

    Happy birthday John.
    Your garden borders look wonderful.

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  28. Garden is a picture....Janet has more than green fingers... the attention to design is delightful. How lucky for you that you keep a fab house and she keeps your garden fab. Just lovely.

    Jo in Auckland

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  29. Happy birthday eve, dear John! More love will be sent your way tomorrow. Time for bed here!

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  30. Happy birthday John.

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  31. Happy birthday, John!! Your garden is gorgeous!

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  32. Hats off to all of you fantastic hospice teams for working two years masked off to protect us. Enjoy your freedom. Happy birthday sweet man.

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