I lost my temper with someone tonight
And I went up like a fucking firecracker
It was the first time I had done so for over 3 years
I hate losing my temper but all I can say that it was fucking justified .
I will say no more
Apart I was ugly
Arrrhhhhhhhhhhhh
Sometimes it is better to lose it, than to bottle it up.x
ReplyDeleteLet it out when you need to. Better out than in. So sorry for your loss of a hubby who decided to throw you aside for his own personal needs. You deserve a whole lot better.
ReplyDeleteHe was in his own place and needed to move on
DeleteSometimes, it just has to happen lest you implode. Good graphic, too.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs!
Heyho
DeleteWhen I lose my temper I go Grrrrhhhhhhhhh rather than Arrrrhhhhhhhhh.
ReplyDeleteBoth are good
DeleteDid the recipient think it was justified?
ReplyDeleteNo
DeleteI wish I could vent my anger directly at arrogant people but on the rare occasion it Has burst out-afterwards I have felt surprised but quite happy x
ReplyDeleteI guess it’s normal life flis , but it’s not nice
DeleteI envy you, I am too reserved to ever truly vent my anger like that. Luckily I rarely get that angry.
ReplyDeleteI rarely get angry too
DeleteEveryone has their ignition point - it's only human. I suspect you lost it in extremis.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right…I was embarrassed in public , something I will not allow
DeleteAch you do tease, and puzzle. I only get embarrassed when there is something I should be embarrassed about, so I am pondering your choice of the word embarrassed. Do you mean you lost your temper because someone made you feel embarrassed about something you felt you should be embarrassed about, or that you were embarrassed because you lost your temper. Although... of course, you can just ignore my nosy questioning and let me mind my own business. Either way I hope that the top of your head is no longer erupting like a volcano. When I lose my temper, which is not often nowadays, it always makes things worse, often much worse. Have a nice day, as they say.
DeleteI was put into a difficult situation in public that made me feel bullied and subsequently embarrassed
DeleteI lost my temper during a 1:1 meeting in private
Shame you didn't take a video to share with us all and compare with the animated cartoon version :) I sincerely hope you are feeling recovered and more calm about it all now. We don't need stress.
DeleteNo it’s left me with a bad taste
DeleteI know it can sound trite but just take a look around at the worries and regrets of many others around us and on the daily news of horrors and suddenly our troubles that loom so large as they are so close to us can seem very minor. I hope yours can do soon. If you have to continue encountering the object of your ire studied but steely calm often works. Apologies, I realise I may sound like a fool intruding into what I should leave alone. (But I will still click on "publish" :)
DeleteSometimes you just have to let it out.
ReplyDeleteAnd b r e a t h e.
xx
And shout fucking loudly
DeleteLike you, I rarely get angry; but when I do...It's much more effective when no-one expects it!
ReplyDeleteHope you feel better! xx
ReplyDeleteNot really
DeleteAs long as you felt better for it that's all that matters.
ReplyDeleteNo grass weaver what also matters is how he made the other person feel. Nobody should think it is okay to retaliate and trample somebody else into the ground without due consideration for their feelings too. Too many people with opinions like yours think it's fine to live in a dog eat dog world without due consideration for others.
DeleteAnon,,
DeleteYou don’t know, ,( and will never know) the facts of this case
Should I have lost my temper?
Shoulda coulda woulda
The fact is that I did
I wish I hadn’t
But I did
But I understood why I did
Good for you although I know conflicting emotions go through you later. Will you ever see the offender again or was it some random ass?
ReplyDeleteStand clear,
ReplyDeletelearning how to control anger is a tough task. but always a good thing and something to be proud of when you master it. so few do. outbursts are never good.
ReplyDeleteSome people push the limits and need to be put in their place.
ReplyDeleteCurious minds, man. Curious minds want to know.
ReplyDeleteI hope you weren't at work? Or driving...
ReplyDeleteIf this person knows you, then they know you don't go volcano very often, and then you must have gotten their full attention. GOOD!
ReplyDeleteI hate losing my temper and don't do so very often, but occasionally, something pushes me over the edge.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
I get waspish on occasion; people tell me I have a razor tongue. I rarely get angry over really big stuff, but boy the little stupid things get me ranting.
ReplyDeleteJo in Auckland
Letting off a bit of steam is good for the soul, and it also lets others know that you'll take no bullshit. Be proud of yourself!
ReplyDeleteWhoo-ooo. Did anything get broken? (Eardrums, crystal, fragile egos?) When the recipient thinks about it later, do you think he/she/whoever will agree you had a point? I hope you can either patch it up, or agree to a course of action for the future.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we need to make a stand and defend ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI hate when that happens. But it happens. And when it’s justified, it can be the right and healthy thing to do.
ReplyDeleteIt must have been something pretty big to provoke such a furious outburst. Tell us more!
ReplyDeleteBetter out than in....holding it in isn't good for us in the long run.
ReplyDeleteGood on you - we all get provoked over the limit sometimes. At least that way you set boundaries.
ReplyDeleteOne of our friends is being bullied..works in the NHS...we wish she would lose her rag and stand up for herself, but she has long covid,(well qualified podiatrist, placed as an orderly on a covid ward when her health wasn't 100% anyway) has had meningitis on top of that...now she is going to have her podiatry work internally overseen for two weeks to see if she can work fast enough . Overseen by the bully.....union rep not much help either...
ReplyDeleteIt's going to end up as constructive dismissal...
All that and she has the responsibility of helping her aged mum instead of her siblings, one who lives locally.....
She no longer has the ooomph to stand up for herself, but it has to be her who does it.
The NHS is not always a good place to work as other friends have found too.
Rant over! We want to help but feel powerless.
Citizens Advice maybe? And losing her rag!!
I am so sorry to read about your friend.
DeleteI think I might have heard it down here in Hertfordshire. :D
ReplyDeleteOh, we can all sympathize. Sometimes (and with some people) we just cannot keep our cool. Some people really try us.
ReplyDeleteBesides, stuffing everything in is not good. Nope.
XOXO
I work in a job where every day I have to work with people who continually do not do what they are supposed to do and I lose my cool quite often. Mostly because they know what they are supposed to do and don't care. It's part of my job to make sure they do what they are supposed to do mainly for safety reasons. I have 14 weeks left before retirement and I won't miss losing my cool at all.
ReplyDeleteOnce in a while, it's good to let rip, get it off your chest so that everyone knows where you stand. Good on yer!!
ReplyDeleteSometime you have to explode.
ReplyDeleteIt takes heckuva lot to make me explode but oh boy when I do I really do.
ReplyDeleteWere you embarrassed before or after? I don't understand. You are not usually slow in holding back, cheap shoes and supermarket queues stories on the blog spring to mind as but one example you have given here more than once.
ReplyDeleteI’m sad and angry at myself for blowing , there’s a big difference between that and a good one line put down
DeleteAs you haven't given any details one can only guess. Thank you.
DeleteI found the lack of detail frustrating, to read a post and realise at the end of it that one simple line would have covered it - "I lost my temper today"
DeleteThe rest of it was pointless.
Pointless?
DeleteNot to me , this is my journal ,
always has been
One of my favorite TV shows Justified, that is what the main characters says to his ex-wife about his latest killing in the first episode, "It was justified."
ReplyDeleteEveryone has their limit John, I have only done it twice in my life. Both were warranted but I didn’t feel as good as I thought I would.
ReplyDeleteIt happens to the best of us!
ReplyDeleteIn my case I have been very considerate and accommodating of others opinions,allowed things to just pass,tried to ignore whatever but eventually they are clearly not thinking of my feelings At all and enough is enough-something has to be said and Tough if they don't like it x
ReplyDeleteHappens to us all. And as the first time in three years, it had to be worth it. Don't beat yourself up!
ReplyDeleteI am but I’m not x
DeleteEveryone has those days.
ReplyDeleteThe Tipping Point. If you haven't blew up in 3 years, they probably deserved it.
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