On Saturday it will be the six year anniversary of the day I got married
Of all the dates I need to forget , this one is the one I always seem to remember.
The morning of March 6th 2015 was very much like the one we experienced today. It was springlike and warm and sunny.
Like this morning I was alone in the cottage, drinking coffee at the kitchen table.
Unlike this morning, I had been up and down like a fiddler’s elbow receiving cards and gifts from villagers and friends.
I remember the table being filled with bottles of champagne and boxes with bows and flowers in vases.
Around 11am I spied Auntie Gladys walking carefully down the lane.
She wore a red woollen coat and looked frail at 95
I met her at the garden wall and she held my hand in greeting
“ I have a wedding gift for you both” she said handing me a hand written card
I started my usual you shouldn’t have type reply which she waved away with a hand
“ Buy yourself something you need but would never usually buy yourself “ she said her watery blue eyes twinkling and I was suddenly moved that this old stalwart of the Church and of traditional values had just embraced her first gay marriage
“ Thank you for being so kind , Your support means a great deal” I told her and she laughed her usual laugh and pushed her hands into her coat pockets to find a hankie
“ It’s the law ! “ she said simply and I watched her walk back up the lane, her head to one side as though she was thinking hard.
I felt moved and humbled , as though my grandmother had just visited.
Auntie Glad’s card was traditional and addressed to us both. Inside was several crisp ten pound notes which I rolled up and placed in the tea caddy on the mantle.
I forgot the money until weeks later, when it was almost summer.
Back then I was planning for my beloved new kitchen and so fantasised about things I wanted to make it the best of all I had owned. Having my own baking cupboard was on my to do list.
And so, with the help of Auntie Glad’s money, I prepared for one.
I bought loaf tins and flan dishes and an old fashioned black bird with its mouth open to sit inside a steaming pie so that the pastry would not get soggy.
I bought cake tins and a flour shaker and storage tins full of grease roof paper, food colouring and vintage Christmas cake decorations alongside vintage wooden spoons and a mixing bowl with blue embossed sides like the one my mother used to have.
Any I hid all of the bits and bobs away until the IKEA workmen had put in the kitchen, only bringing them out from their hiding place to fill my baking cupboard . The one nearest to the lane window , where the light is best to roll pastry and to kneed dough.
Today after night shift I was in my baking cupboard yet again, retrieving the ingredients to make sourdough bread and as I kneeded the dough I remembered the day Auntie Gladys brought me a wedding present .......and continued to be a bit of a hero .
Although things have changed you have some wonderful memories and you'll always remember Auntie Gladys when you bake too. You should bake yourself a wonderful cake to celebrate the good memories on the 6th. x
ReplyDeleteThis memory was about Gladys, always happy memories
ReplyDeleteThe dates you want to forget are always the ones you remember...why is that. Auntie Gladys was a lovely and gracious lady...she would be happy to know you still use 'her' tins, and would probably have been amused to hear about your battle with ravioli!
ReplyDeleteI am not sure she would know who I was charlotte
DeleteI hope the only tears shed were for Auntie Gladys and her wise words. "It's the law!".
ReplyDeleteIndeed.. she was the one I was remembering today x
DeleteWhat a wonderful way to have spent the money that Auntie Gladys gave you .... a fitting tribute to her. I’m just wondering if your scones are as good as hers were ? XXXX
ReplyDeleteNever lol .....never
DeleteBake a cake on the 6th to remember Auntie Gladys, and raise a glass to her, too. A wise and remarkable woman. xx
ReplyDeleteJohn, is Auntie Glad still alive? I don't remember reading about her passing....What a great lady.
ReplyDeleteYes she’s living in a new nursing home outside flint which is fourteen miles away or so .she is 100
DeleteI was wondering that myself, jen.
DeleteAnd same here. WOW, 100??? Awesome!!!
DeleteI was wondering that myself. It's good to know she's still with us.
DeleteHugs!
You should bake Auntie Glad a cupcake on the 6th!
DeleteI should
DeleteA very beautiful story. You have created a meaningful and lovely life for yourself. I am in awe of you and your village.
ReplyDeleteShe is part of the folklore of my journey here
DeleteWhat a lovely memory of the remarkable and twinkling Auntie Gladys and how kind of her to give money toward whatever you chose to buy. Her scones were outstanding and the baking items you bought were the best possible use of her gift. I think of her often.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
She would like to know that babs x
DeleteI wish I'd had an Auntie Glad. She sounds lovely.
ReplyDeleteEveryone should have at least one auntie Glad
Deletemy ex and my wedding date is june 26, 1982. fuck him.
ReplyDeletemy baking cupboard is over the oven. I am currently waiting for a pan of brownies to finish baking. I never use a box mix, always from scratch baking, like my grandmother taught me.
Lol your chutzpah always makes mr smile deArheart x
DeleteSMOOCHES, dear john! and thanks for the update on auntie glad. I do miss her.
DeleteI think you should bake some scones on the 6th, and, as Hooker says, raise a glass to Auntie Gladys. My Nan always said the secret to good scones was to keep everything cold - the ingredients, hands and kitchen. They are the only food I can cook well... I always have cold hands xx
ReplyDeleteI have warm hands
DeleteThat is one neat cupboard! You should see by baking drawer. God bless Aunty Gladys - I hope she is keeping well.
ReplyDeleteI hope so too
DeleteYou shouldn't have to forget the day. You should honor it for being the special day it was. Bake a pie, have a drink and think of the special days in your future.
ReplyDeletePoppy so easily done but so right
DeleteShe is a remarkable woman, John. I have a blackbird pie vent and a Tala measure just like yours. They’re both very useful. I love the pretty china above the cupboard too. Remember Aunt Gladys when you make those scones, keep them cold, and don’t overwork them!
ReplyDeleteIf you would say when I was 40 , that one day one of my dear friends would have been an elderly lady in thei 90 s , I would never have believed them
Deletesweet memories!
ReplyDeleteThey are , lovely ones to revisit
DeleteI remember that story of Auntie Gladys coming by I was so pleased that a lady her age was going with the times and I felt hopeful that there were better days ahead. A baking cupboard in honor of her is so fitting John.
ReplyDeleteI thought so ....
Deletewhat a perfect thing to do with the scone baker's money. i miss aunt gladie and am glad to hear she is still alive. do you ever hear anything about her. would she be well enough to receive a card?
ReplyDeleteI believe she has little memory of things recently passed
DeleteMaybe you will get to visit her once COVID is more under control. I got my first jab today - a random, unused dose was available when I went to the pharmacy to pick up my meds and the pharmacist offered it to me!
ReplyDeleteGood memories of Gladys!
I’d like to think we could meet one more time
DeleteWhat an amazing lady! She must be past 100 years now? I hope you can meet again sometime.
ReplyDeleteI love you baking cupboard, I hope it has brought you joy.
lizzy
Yes she is over 100
DeleteYou’ve already made the best of it with that beautifully written vignette x
ReplyDeleteThank ux
DeleteEveryone needs an Auntie Glad...
ReplyDeleteLucky man you are..and you made good use of her gift
We all need one like her just once in our lives
DeleteI remember that. And all of us will always remember Auntie Glad.
ReplyDeleteSo many of you have walked alongside me for so many years. I need to remember that x
DeleteI think you need a photo of her on the shelf. She will love to be a part of your baking.
ReplyDeleteBonnie in Minneapolis
She will always be a part of me bonnie
DeleteI realize today that I have been reading your blog for much longer than I had imagined.......I well remember many Auntie Glad stories! What a lovely thing to have your baking cupboard and Auntie Glad filling your heart as you enjoy your cooking
ReplyDeleteSusan M
Yeah ....lol I’ve been banging on for years x
DeleteAnother lovely story about Auny Gladys John - she will always be in your heart - but do remember you were always in her heart too.
ReplyDeleteIt’s strange who touches you
DeleteMaybe March the 6th could become The Annual Aunty Gladys Scone bake and picnic gathering of friends !
ReplyDeleteLol good idea
DeleteThe oldest member of our church sat serenely watching her grandson marry his fellow. How things have changed in her lifetime! She gracefully grew and changed right along with them.
ReplyDeleteAs it should always be
DeleteI enjoyed this post. You certainly have a way with words John.
ReplyDeleteCheers mick x
DeleteWe should all be so lucky to have an Aunty Gladys.
ReplyDeleteDebbie
Inagree
DeleteStill neat and beautiful, dear man. How you loved Aunt Gladys.
ReplyDeleteIndeed I do
DeleteI also remember the post you are referring to. Aunty Glad was a treasure. I don't bake these days unless the other half moans that I don't ever make him something nice lol. Then he might get a lemon cake. It was great that you could use the money to furnish your baking cupboard with such treasures; I bet you still have them when you are 90.
ReplyDeleteJo in Auckland
I forget so many of you have been with me fir many years
DeleteWhat a lovely post !
ReplyDeleteThank u
DeleteAnother lovely, touching story, John!
ReplyDeleteThank u x
DeleteI love the beautiful connection between Auntie Gladys and your special baking cupboard! I also love that you said you bought a mixing bowl like the one your mother used to have. I've done things like that many times trying to bring back a memory of my mother or grandmother. xx
ReplyDeleteI think people set design things that they remember
DeleteThat brought a tear to my eye, sweet John.
ReplyDeleteThank you x
DeleteAunt Gladys is/was special as are you for sharing her with your world.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe you have been separated from the Prof for what half that time since the wedding. We are coming up to 50 years but hanging, health wise by a thread. Nevertheless we cling to it.
Love in so many ways and so many directions. Thank you for sharing this.
Time moves on
DeleteThat was a nice gesture. And, it is so good to be able to buy items with gift money.
ReplyDeleteI didn’t want the money to disappear
DeleteHow lovely to have a dedicated baking cupboard (mine is strewn about in our new house as less storage space), and everything in it reminding you of Aunty Gladys' kindness and acceptance.
ReplyDeleteI had wanted a baking cupboard for years
DeleteI remember that day so well. You were so full of happiness and joy that I felt its warmth all the way up here in Middlesbrough.
ReplyDeleteYes ......I was ..
DeleteA wonderful memory of Auntie Glad. I hope they gave her a lovely party for her 100th birthday in her nursing home x
ReplyDeleteI’m sure they did x
DeleteSuch an original gift. I miss Auntie Gladys being on your blog and stories of her tying bags of scones to your door handle and of her soaking up the sun on her doorstep...........x
ReplyDeleteShe’s still here ...albeit occasionally
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad I got to meet her, she really was a proper, somehow regal granny-like little figure. And it's so appropriate that the Queen of the Scones should have part furnished your baking cupboard. 💗
ReplyDeleteHaha ... copying my Facebook comment on here as I thought I had put it on here. And I've noticed we have quite a few similar things in our baking supplies, although I should follow your lead in my new place and have a definitive Baking Cupboard ... it will save picking things from each cupboard.
I loved it when u met.
DeleteI felt vindicated in my writing when someone I valued realised what I write is true
Aww ... that's a nice thing to say. xx
DeleteHow curious are coincidences. I never make pies but yesterday, I made a pie for my partner's 80th using my mother's pie funnel. Her apple pies were superb. Good memories
ReplyDeleteI guess visiting Auntie Gladys with some baking is quite impossible just now. So sad
DeleteShe was such a sweetie, I can see you becoming Uncle John to the next generation
ReplyDeleteLol as if
DeleteHow sweet and such a great memory.
ReplyDeleteOne of many
DeleteTwo thoughts, John. "When I walk into my kitchen today, I am not alone. Whether we know it or not, none of us is. We bring fathers & mothers & kitchen tables & every meal we have ever eaten." Molly Wizenberg - from A Homemade Life. Secondly, in regards to exes and special days, if they could only be completely bad, I think it would be easier to reconcile with them. There always seems to be something good that keeps that connection going.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely
DeleteIt's great that you have those reminders of Auntie Glad and her remarkable spirit and openness and sense of community.
ReplyDeleteI miss her
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