Monday, 28 September 2020

A Stream Of Thoughts

 Only 48 hours or so after I publicly announced that I am happy being single 
I have been propositioned by two men. One, I haven’t heard from in a long time ,texted me hoping for a quick roll around in the sheets 
The other had more obscure needs and wanted a Sort of date. 
I’ve politely refused both.
Being asexual is en trend so they say.

So does this mean that I am finally grown up ? or is it as Rachel Philips perfectly explained that us singleton’s  living main benefit is
“.....being answerable only to myself is doing what I like, when I like, how I like and at whatever time of the day I like.”

Yesterday around 4 pm I found that I couldn’t sleep and so I got up, donned my fourth favourite Walking Dead T shirt And pants ! and took Winnie and Albert for a short walk into the churchyard.( I had gotten up a few hours earlier and had dropped off the younger girls at Trendy Carol’s )
Winnie is incredibly slow now and Albert seemed to chivvy her along with morale boosting slides under her chin with his entire body but it still took a good seven minutes to walk up the lane and through the lytchgate .
It was warm and sunny and from our bench we lazily  watched the lane as Mrs Trellis tottered down with Blue she left a carrier bag on the kitchen wall which later I found out contained a home made egg custard , three rustic napkins and somewhat strangely a set of pencils tied together with a piece of wool.
The day before my elder sister left bags containing jigsaws, a homemade cake, snowdrop bulbs and a book
That kitchen garden wall seems to possess great magical properties I thought.
A place for gifts!
It has been for years now.


As Mrs Trellis tottered down the lane I was listening to this piece of music. 
It’s Exsultate Justi from Empire of the Sun 
Somewhat oddly her steps fell in time with the beat of the music and it has sudden become her anthem. Music and Trellis as one as it were.
It seems to capture her nervous vitality quite wonderfully, especially as her Bobble hat “ bobbed “ Smartly as the sopranos trilled 

Days off ! four full days off 
What to do?....got tickets to see the indi coming of age movie Rocks. An “ in bubble” friend is coming for dinner and am meeting another friend for lunch 

I’m going to rebook a pottery class too

I will leave you with two beautiful  women





95 comments:

  1. My proposal would be a table near the beach at sunset w/ Scotch Eggs. How about it? Nice music and dancing in the moonlight.

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  2. Were I Mrs. Trellis, I would be honored by your choice of my theme music! Actually, I believe it's a penny-whistle version of "I think I can, I think I can...". And yours?

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  3. I am curious (but please no need to answer) if the asexual is something you feel is right or do you feel sexual but are abstaining from. Asexuality is a new notion for me.

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    1. I’m being somewhat facetious
      I’m referring to me not dating rather than me not having any sexual feelings x

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  4. If you have Netflix, give the standup comedian Katherine Ryan a watch.
    Barb

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    1. She is rather funny, I liked her in Taskmaster

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    2. She has fat ankles.

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    3. Now there’s an interesting fact

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  5. Whatever works for you.

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  6. I know you focus on the positive here on Going Gently but I still think you have a lovely life and well deserved

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    1. I try kylie but there are down times

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  7. What an eclectic collection of gifts that wall produces...the anticipation must be as exciting as the gifts.

    Being able to pick and choose your dates/sex encounters, or choose to refuse, is a nice position to be in. (So to speak!).

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  8. do what's best for you. sounds like you have some interesting events coming up. and a pottery class; wonder what you will create this time!

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  9. The pottery class sounds like a great idea. Clear some more space on the mantlepiece; I see a menagerie developing.

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  10. Barbara Anne6:03 am

    What a glorious piece of music Exsultate Justi is. I'd never heard it before so I thank you! My computer doesn't support the video format for the two women, but I thank you for that, too.
    Who would have thought that your kitchen wall would bring such wonderful gifts your way?!
    I'm glad to hear that Winnie is still able to go on walks with you, despite being slow. It's good Albert was there to help her along.
    More pottery and choir. Two delightful kinds of self expression. :)

    Hugs!

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    1. It’s an Adaptation for the film empire of the sun by john williams

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    2. It was a new one for me too. I saw 'Empire' when it first came out, though never since. The composer's name - da Viadani - was also unfamiliar to me; a contemporary of Shakespeare, I see.

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    3. It had some lovely choral pieces that film,
      Including a Welsh lullaby

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  11. Rocks is fabulous!

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  12. Totter? Mrs Trellis does not not totter! She glides gracefully like a debutante at a hunt ball. God Save The Trellis!

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  13. JacquieB8:40 am

    Being 'en trend' for twelve years unfortunately is not 'doing what I like when I like'.
    Short of fitting my car with a taxi cab sign turned on or changing the colour of the porch light bulb. I am not sure what I can do about it.

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    1. Weare all getting older, and more invisible

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  14. Thanks for leaving me in the company of "two beautiful women." I always like when that happens. Best wishes to you!

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    1. Both are quite stunning are they not

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  15. Loved those two videos!
    And hey, it's better to have the opportunity than the longing...

    XOXO

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  16. there is being happy single and needing a little companionship now and again ....just be happy

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  17. Yes John - I would give anything to have a well farmer back but it was his time and I miss him every day - but I do agree with Rachel - there are advantages to living alone. It is half past ten in the morning and I am sitting here in my dressing gown - I have had my breakfast and when I have read all my blogs I shall have a shower. No idea what I am having for lunch or what time I shall eat it.

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  18. Siebrie10:27 am

    I'd love a proposition to roll around in the sheets, especially from my husband... (our sex life has been lacking a bit, lately...).

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  19. Sounds joyful, it is nice being noticed, even if now is not the time, or the place, or the person. If they want to be welcomed in, they should sit on your kitchen wall.

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  20. the magic wall of gifts. i wish i had one of those.

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  21. I saw a dog yesterday that reminded me a lot of Winnie. Also moving rather slowly, LOL!

    It must be wonderful to have a magic wall.

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  22. Judging from the music tempo Mrs trellis has quite the stride !!

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  23. I think I need a kitchen wall!

    I hope you're not becoming devoutly celibate. It's good to keep an open mind (although I'm glad you're being choosey).

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    1. No I’m not pretending to be Audrey Hepburn in the nuns story
      I think I just need to be realistic about meeting someone special

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  24. I like your philosophy. Doing what you like, when you like. Best thing I got out of my divorce were the toys.
    Patty

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  25. I've been divorced almost 10 years and I agree with Rachel - I do what I like, when I like and how I like. Occasionally I miss the companionship of a partner, but not enough to actually get a full-time one. And when I listen to my neighbours screaming next door I thank the ever-lovin' gods that my ex buggered off when he did. Friends with benefits has a lot to be said for it!

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  26. i was thinking that you should add a magic tree that grows scotch eggs.

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  27. I still like rolling in the sheets for now but there is a certain amount of being single also. I am straddling the best of both worlds.

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    1. And I do too ( the sheets)
      But I think some awayntime is good

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  28. The choir--it looks like such a marvelous thing to sing in that large group.

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    1. I was very envious when I saw them singing
      I so miss my choir

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  29. You sound very centered, and ready to make the most of four days off. I feel like you'll spend some time--years, maybe--being happily single, before bumping elbows one day with a new friend who blossoms into more. There have got to be a few other mature gay men who are yet unattached, and happy to potter around the garden with a collection of pets and a comfortable, amusing companion. Especially one with a talent for homemade bread.

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    1. I think we all ( including me) have to be realistic when it comes to life Changes ....I doubt I will be properly romantic again

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    2. Well, being improperly romantic is always an option!

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  30. Your kitchen wall sounds very inviting John-a lovely varied selection of niceties.Perhaps it would be good to choose a man like a cake or fancy now-only choose one if the calories are worth it rather than gobble them all up x

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  31. Things that can be enjoyed should be enjoyed without any hesitation xx

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    1. I think you are right but I can’t be arsed for a roll in the sheets at the moment lol

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  32. How are you fixed for a blow job? I can convincingly commit for the duration.

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    1. I very recently had my chimney swept-all lovely again xx

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    2. and It Was the Biggest Rod I'd Ever seen x

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    3. Mave! Flis is off again

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  33. John may I suggest you replace the "never say never" philosophy to "it takes a mighty fine man to be better than no man at all"? It's a motto I have relied upon since being widowed 29 years ago.

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    1. Betty I’m only taking a sabbatical

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    2. Good for you, just be sure you hold out for A MIGHTY FINE MAN/MEN, you deserve nothing less!

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    3. Barbara Anne2:55 pm

      Betty, the motto I've enjoyed since hearing it about 4 decades ago is "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle!"
      I like your motto, too.

      Hugs!

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  34. Hi, John...I am replying to your comment on my blog here. I do not as yet sell my paintings but I would be honored to send you the painting you like as a gift. I have been following your blog for several years now and admire the things you do with friends and family and in your village. I hope your choir becomes an in person one again soon....If you email me your snail mail address at kjalics@rocketmail.com I will get the painting ready to send to you. It is by no means perfect. It is what it is. I am pleased that you like it.

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    1. I am so pleased ! It’s quite lovely
      I am very happy to make a donation to your favourite charity if that is acceptable
      It will be placed on my art wall next to work by Rachel and Gayle from the USA

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  35. Lovely Albert! What a good pal to slow his pace to Winnie's. The bouquet of pencils reminds me of a scene from the movie 'You've Got Mail'.

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  36. Living life, your way. All is good.

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  37. Four days of and already some well made plans, glad that Winnie still gets to enjoy her walks with Albert as her friend. Enjoy your time John, thanks for the music I loved Empire of the sun.

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  38. I love hearing about Albert x

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  39. Asexuality is very much on trend. You wouldn't think so though reading the media, which seem to think if we're not shagging away non-stop there's something horribly wrong with us.

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  40. Barbara Anne2:57 pm

    Remember choir tonight!

    Hugs!

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