The daffodils on the field border which Trendy Carol planted seven years ago have flowered yesterday in the warm spring sun.
I love their resilience and their loyalty.
Daffodils seem to grow out of nothing and they multiply every year.
Like bills......
I've been saving money up since Christmas and this weekend paid off my half of the overdraft of my marriage joint account. It's another hurdle passed and sorted and I'm proud that I've juggled things enough to tick another box towards the goodbye of my marriage
I'm now waiting for the decree absolute to come through and that final tie will be severed.
I've asked my husband to be prudent with the absolute request
It needs to be over
You can heal then from the sadness John-and you shall be free to love again xx
ReplyDeleteYou have every right to be proud of how you have handled things. You've accomplished a lot. I hope the loose ends are looked after promptly and you can move forward.
ReplyDeleteDaffodils are SO much better than bills :)
What does this phrase mean, John? ''be prudent with the absolute request'' ? Prudent means--careful? expedient? prompt? be prudent with the absolute request. I'm baffled.
ReplyDeleteYou must feel wonderful to have paid off what is apparently a large debt. Good work!
Prompt ...I want the decree absolute requested quickly
DeleteDivorce in your country seems very complicated and arcane. Sad as it will be I imagine the final decree will lift a burden from your heart and your life. Best wishes.
DeleteOne more thing to be ticked off. Been through this also. Feels good to be free of any debt. I remember clearly the day I signed the papers.
ReplyDeleteparsnip xx
It does need to be over. There is absolutely no benefit in dragging things out any farther than they need to be.
ReplyDeleteI love your assessment of the daffodils.
ReplyDeleteAfter two long-term relationships, I don't know Id ever get married. If it ends, I want out.. then and now. It's amazing the damn hurdles one as to go through to get a divorce.
Hugs.
ReplyDeletehopefully it will be done before Easter
ReplyDeleteThe sooner it is behind you the better. And doesn't it feel good to get bills paid off! You've a lot to be proud of and you have come a long way!
ReplyDeleteThe least he can do is be prompt, the best of life awaits
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad time that it comes around in March that the marriage is talked of as over. Hopefully it will soon be finished completely and you really can move on. x
ReplyDeleteI'd no idea that ending a marriage could be even more onerous than entering one in the first place, and all exacerbated by one's mood being the converse of what it had been for the first, making it a really heavy plod. I trust that those cheerful daffs are helping to lift your spirits as much as they do for many of us.
ReplyDeleteWhen I divorced 20 years ago (in the UK) we managed to do it in a very civil fashion. No fault, two years' separation, 50/50 split of the proceeds of the house and I signed away any right to his pension. Husband paid the fees. (No children, no debts.) On the other hand, my sister-in-law had a very protracted divorce - it all depends on the co-operation of the other party.
ReplyDeleteRegarding daffs - throughout South Wales there seems to be a policy that whenever roads are re-routed, motorways built, roundabouts etc, thousands of daff bulbs are incorporated at the time. It makes for cheerful driving conditions in the spring!
Divorce appears to be a complicated affair. My parents legally separated years ago, it was an alternative back then, don't know if it is now. Neither wanted another partner, they just got on with their own lives, separately. They never divorced.
ReplyDeleteDid you know that The Romans were responsible for bringing daffodils to Britain? They are not native flowers.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely well done. It's hard to save money. xx
ReplyDeleteWell done John, it is everything I wished for you and more. Plus you have taken control of your own destiny and have re-birthed yourself, despite all the sadness and unhappiness. Disappointment never quite goes away but in time better things will come your way and new memories will be made and new things explored. Now you have your home, in the village you love together with your beloved animals everything else will be the icing on the cake or the cream in the bun. Well done for turning everything around so successfully. xx
ReplyDeleteLittle by little everything will be sorted out. Marriage is a tangled business, especially when it comes to money.
ReplyDeleteGlad one more step has been taken.
Love me some daffodils. To me, they signal that spring has indeed come.
XOXO
You’ve overcome a lot in recent years and have managed to thrive between the hardships. Congratulations on another milestone. And thanks for sharing the daffodils. I love and miss those... not enough to move back to that kind of climate. But SG planted a bed of 150 daffodils one year in Connecticut. Two years later I counted 750 before I gave up counting. Like bunnies!
ReplyDeleteDaffodils are rays of sunshine even when there are clouds on the horizon - and more return each year no matter the harshness of winter.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad they are brightening your days now and hope they are a harbinger of a lovely Spring for you John.
Daffodils are a sign of beginning, sunshine, warmth, and hope. I wish you, John, all those things.
ReplyDeleteI'm loving all the daffodils this year. The bloody squirrels dug up all our tulips but to quote you 'hey ho' … at least we have our daffs :-)
ReplyDeletei hope you celebrate when it's all over. you've been through so much that it seems like a good thing to celebrate.
ReplyDeleteYou are managing to thrive despite your world being spun out of your control.
ReplyDeleteThe Phoenix arises from the ashes once again like the daffodils.
That's the final nail in the divorce coffin. Pound that one in and bury it. Maybe a flower or two in honor of the good times and then walk away and into your new hopeful future. You're strong, so carry on, carry on. Best wishes, John!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful daffs. Ours have been blooming for a couple of weeks now. I never knew it took so long to bring a marriage to a close.
ReplyDeleteIt does indeed John. Until it is over you just can't move on.
ReplyDeleteWell done! I'll add my wishes and hopes that the decree absolute comes through promptly as there is no excuse for any further delay. The slow process is inexcusable.
ReplyDeleteThe daffodils are lovely.
Hugs!
Daffodils are so cheerful, I hope they made you smile x
ReplyDeleteNot too long before you can feel closure and move on, pleased for you x
ReplyDeleteGood on you John now if the final paper work gets a move on, so can you, spring is certainly showing it's colour in your neck of the woods.
ReplyDeleteMay there be many daffodils in your new life!
ReplyDeleteOnwards and upwards John, you are an example to many of decorum and deceny in dealing with your divorce.
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