There is something quite wonderful in knowing you can just about pay your own bills.
Things are a struggle.
My solicitor merely farts and there is a cost.
Mary is going to be spayed very soon and Ive only just paid off George's bills last month but at least Dorothy will not need any health checks and my overtime at the shite nursing home has paid for my present jaunt abroad and so I'm almost Square
But this first time in many years I have not got an overdraft too!!
I've not had to ask for the help of my family since my separation.
I've done it on my own and I'm proud of the fact.
I am smiling to myself as I type this and a loud American Queen at the next breakfast table has just shot me a " he looks a bit mad!" look.
I don't care....and I've let out a little chuckle..but I resist the urge to blow him a raspberry
I'm also feeling rejuvenated from my room's state of the art shower tower which pummels my naked torso with waterjets from at least five "nipples" dotted up and down its length
I pride myself at being able to work most intensive care ventilators but this shower tower has me beat.
I have no idea how or why it works
I just turn it on
Brace myself
And hope for the best
Very much like sex in your fifties I guess...
And with that thought dearhearts I will leave for another day.
I hear you on the finances. I get paid, pay the bills same day and exist on fumes for the next fortnight. It's draining.
ReplyDeleteThe distraction of a shower tower and a good time must be most welcome
But we are getting by...how fa
DeleteBlow that raspberry. Preferably from your arse.
ReplyDeleteL o v e l y
DeleteJohn it's so lovely to read so many upbeat post, may they keep coming. Looking after ourselves is a basic need, not always are we able to do it.
ReplyDeleteOh i am sure i will go down with a bump
Deletelively positive post. Keep going my boy, you are doing great things,😘
ReplyDeleteGetting by xx
DeleteAmusing concluding paras. Just wait for sex when you are in your sixties.
ReplyDeleteIll be dead before then
DeleteSniggering away here! I thought sex was what posh people had their coal delivered in, the old ones are the best hehe x
ReplyDeleteKerching
DeleteI am so nicking that line.. It made me splurt my tea
DeleteI just turn it on
ReplyDeleteBrace myself
And hope for the best
Wait this isn’t the way sex ALWAYS is? Who knew?
XoXo
Wonderful to hear, and the punchline at the end is nothing short of brilliant!
ReplyDeleteI maintain that self-confidence is the strongest attractant.You're in the midst of quite a makeover!
ReplyDeleteJust the gut to get rid of
DeleteAs long as the nozzles don't plug up.
ReplyDeleteWhat are you saying?
DeleteAS LONG AS THE NOZZLES DON'T PLUG UP. ARE YOU DEAF?
DeleteIt is hell if something blocks the flow
DeleteEnjoy yourself!
ReplyDeleteIm haviNg a lovely time AN
DeleteIt sounds like a shower I might like ?
ReplyDeleteIt cleans all the nooks out
DeleteI don’t understand this post at all. For the first time in many years you weren’t in overdraft and didn’t have to ask your family for money. But you and your other half were DINKS for years on good incomes and you were retiring from nursing. I can only assume someone was a spendthrift and I don’t not think that was you.
ReplyDeleteXx Marigold
I meant I DO NOT think that was you
DeleteTyping too fast , bloody hell what a difference a typo makes Marigold
The family quote read wrong. Ive never ever gone to my family for money.
DeleteIt was a celebration of coveting my own bills
DeleteCovering
DeleteInteresting that the state of the art shower sound very like a Victorian design!
ReplyDeleteDid victorians have nipples?
DeleteProbably not..... officially..😎
DeleteSex in the 50s sounds like sex in the 60s the way you describe it. And you are so clever in the way you describe it. What a mind you have! Huge congratulations on the finances.
ReplyDeleteThank you old bean
DeleteLook how incredibly far you've come in a year!
ReplyDeleteImagine what will have happened by next. Why- you might have figured out that shower by then! And a few other things as well...
That shower would still be an enigma
DeleteThat title gave me a fright! Thought your two days of talking therapy had morphed into a holiday romance.
ReplyDeleteBut the exhilaration of a more bracing shower than you're used to must come pretty close.
No romance but another great friend
DeleteThat loud American Queen was ME! LOL
ReplyDeleteNo you steve...no Camera
Deleteyep, after 50 your only sexy friend is your showerhead (ask me how I know this). AND the showerhead is better than a human being!
ReplyDeleteThis is taking a whole new direction
DeleteI wonder if you need to swipe your hand in front of the "nipples" as in some public loo wash basins x
ReplyDeleteIll try
DeleteWhat a delightful upbeat post! It had me chuckling at your wonderful turn of phrases - but then you are a superb writer.
ReplyDeleteWell done in supporting yourself in high style!
Oh, and Dotty arrives tomorrow, yes?
Huts ... Mugs ...Hugs!!
Dotty arrives saturday
ReplyDeleteYou did good. We knew you could get there even when you didn't. I don't know you from Adam but I knew you were a strong person who wouldn't go down without a fight. Fight over, you win!! xx
ReplyDeleteIt's been a long run
Deletei'm so glad you took a short trip. some might think it luxury but i think it a necessity! take care of yourself first!
ReplyDeleteIt's not luxury.. you could see my bed room
DeleteOh John, there is never a dull moment reading your blog - this did make me laugh. You are definitely on the up.
ReplyDeleteI rather liked my last few lines too weave
DeleteChortling away quietly here :) :)
ReplyDeleteFat belly laughs here
DeleteA shower tower? I've never come across one of those. I wouldn't mind a few spurting nipples myself.
ReplyDeleteDirty beast!!!
DeleteYep supported myself and two kids. Had no parents to ask for help. But managed to earn an MBA in finance to live high on the hog while kids ready to fly the coop. Now retired and living happily and supporting self.
ReplyDeleteHappy for you John. Enjoy your trip!
ReplyDeleteCali G
So, John, have you scored? (Not wanting to beat about the bush...ooer!)
ReplyDeleteIt's a good feeling when you come out the other end able to spin all the plates solo that you need to. I am glad you have managed a break away,i am also glad that your ceaseless ability to lend that wise ear has inadvertantly won another friend. Enjoy the sunbeams. I too have a plan x hwyl Suz.
ReplyDeleteLovely to be on vacation and time to reflect on all you have achieved, so many good things in your future to look forward to enjoy this much deserved break.
ReplyDeleteGads Man, i hope you are getting some!
ReplyDeleteI've always been almost vainly proud of my self-sufficcency (I do believe I just made up that word).
ReplyDeleteWell you made up the spelling of it 🤣🤣
DeleteI don't usually comment but after reading this post .....
ReplyDeleteYou say "things are a struggle" yet you're on a holiday abroad. Another holiday abroad!
I think you mustn't be really aware of what a "struggle" is. A struggle is when you haven't the most basic of food items to put on the table for your family - have you ever experienced that?
A struggle is when you get the gas and electric cut off because you haven't paid the bills, not paid because your other half has drunk the money and peed it away. Yet again.
A struggle is when you haven't the money to buy your kids shoes from the charity shops.
I could go on but I think I've made my point.
Count your blessings, you're on holiday, you have a comfortable life, you can go on holidays, go to the theatre, cinema, eat out etc. Is it really such a struggle?
Having already passed your judgement why bother asking that last question?
DeleteI believe it was a rhetorical question Mavis - a device used to make a point. Maybe it succeeded, maybe it didn't. My old English teacher told us rhetorical questions can be used "like a slap in the face with a wet flannel", perhaps to try to re-connect someone with reality.
Delete"Jill"
DeleteYou can struggle with many things
Can't you?
I 've had an emotional journey the last 18 months
I have never compared it to the struggles of the abused or the skint or the more unfortunate
Nevertheless it was a struggle in itself
It's my story.....and of course I will see it from my perspective
That doesn't detract from the fact that my struggles don't seem important or valid to you
And you have had your say....
I hope you feel better doing so
And I hope you have a lovely day
Ps to answer " jills" last point
DeleteAnd I've made my own luck and earned my money to do so
John, your post was in the vein of "life is a struggle financially" as the paragraph was regarding money, solicitors bill, vets bill overdraft, paying bills, getting paid etc. It didn't mention anything to do with the emotional year you've had.
DeleteIf I've touched on a sore nerve I'm sorry but I thought a reminder of how lucky you are was appropriate due to the content of the post.
Margaret - thank you, you answered Mavis's question for me.
DeleteIt has been a struggle financially
DeleteNot as bad as some but a lot worse than others
If you think it is wrong of me to mention the fact because you deem it inappropriate
So be it.
But then Going Gently is my story isn't it?
The last lines made me spit out my G&T laughing!
ReplyDeleteI think we all have "struggles" in our lives,all different, but they can be very difficult for us to deal with and get through each day.John has had his share of upset in his life,please be happy for him to have a few treats and recharge his batteries x
ReplyDelete(Reply to Jill)
DeleteI'll send you a cork for your solicitors arse ... that should keep the bills down to manageable levels 😉
ReplyDeleteYou sound relaxed and happy!
ReplyDeleteI did have to ask for help from my family for the lawyer retainer when my ex left with all the money. It was necessary and I don't feel shame in having asked for help, just that one time.
lizzy
Is that what they're about!
ReplyDeleteBrace yourself indeed:)
ReplyDeleteGlad you are on the up and up... it has been a long time coming. You deserve all the joy that you can get.
ReplyDeleteI love the Happy John Gray... I hope you have a fab time on your break... and many more to come.
Jo in Auckland
missed this one, well done you for being independent financially it must feel great. I so want to see you go on a shopping spree and treat yourself to fun things; when your budget allows?
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