Hugs to you, John. Carefully put it away? You're being more mature in such circumstances than I've ever been. I always throw rings from exes into the nearest river.
Tough. But so are you. Be well, as well as you can. Eleven years since my dh died from Alzheimer's. Only a few years since I put my wedding ring away, but I'm wearing a signet ring he had made for me on that finger. I believe good things lie ahead for you.
It sucks. That is all there is to it. Supporting you from afar. We all know you have to walk through the shit to get through it. At least you are moving forward through it.
Oh John ...... I’m worried that you are coping too well but you probably don’t give away everything here ..... we are all here for you, if only in a blogging way. XXXX
I feel more sorry for him since he is losing you than for you tonight. You have to do certain things that nobody should have to, like taking off a wedding band for instance. Unexpected and never really taught - that I am aware of - how to do it right to avoid more pain. But I honestly feel sorry for him, it would be a time when he would come to understand that fools do not come to wisdom until it is left far behind.
I think a visit to Nuala is called for ... she must know of a suitably positioned bridge that the ring can be thrown from and carried out to sea. Taking sad memories with it and with bracing sea air heading your way to blow in your new era.
A sad day I agree, but with old ends come new beginnings. 💕🌹Xx
Such a hard thing to do, and write about, but a sign of how strong you really are, even when you don't feel great. How's Mary? Is the ear improving? I'll bet she got more of the ham than the couple on front did!!
Another big step taken. Probably too soon to think about throwing it off the bridge. Everything takes time. Baby steps all the way. I agree with Sue about going to visit Nu, nobody knows you better than her. Take care.
i always found that using the old husband's wedding ring when marrying the new husband was such a naughty thing to do. but you really have to get married a lot, as i have, to have fun doing this.
Another positive step of acceptance and moving forward..painful as it is. Your future is yours to create with new adventures ..keep positive. Hugs Ellexx
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes. Five hundred twenty five thousand moments so dear. five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes. How do you measure, Measure a year?
In daylights? In sunsets? In midnights? In cups of coffee? In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife?
I don't know you except through your blog. I live in the U.S., but feel as if we are friends. My heart hurts for you and throughout my day I'll find myself wondering how you are. I know we're thousands of miles apart but I hope you can feel my hand on your shoulder, wishing you peace.
Wishing brighter days ahead for you, John. Tough love tells us "the only way out is the way through." You've come this far out of what must be an overwhelming sadness, and you're coming through - into the sunshine I hope!
You are a survivor John. It might not feel like that right now but I believe that in the end you will end up stronger, happier and more fulfilled than you can imagine. Work through the pain and just give yourself time and permission to do so. Take care of you.
I remember that day 3 years, 5 months, & 7 days ago. I was so happy for you and at the same time I wanted to say why ruin a good thing by getting married! Everyone wanted the rights to get married and now you have the adventure of divorce. I pray it isn't too messy! Breaks my heart that it didn't work out. I just don't understand. After so many years, did you grow apart? Been there...done that..and it was not fun! One day at a time...Onwards!❤️
John someday you’ll be ready to clasp that ring in the palm of your hand and remember the good times without the pain. You’ll be glad you’ve kept it. It’s still an symbol of everlasting love. Given in love and of a love you shared. Time marches on. Hold on to the good times, they validate your years. You have many years yet to come, enough to have great love again x Emma
Sending love from Galloway, now I've got a new keyboard and can type again. My ring came off in 2010 and lies deep at the bottom of the millpond at Lulworth Cove. Very different circumstances to yours, hope the happy memories and great times had that the ring symbolises give you comfort and pleasure somewhere down the line. x
How good was my marriage? I only started wearing my rings when he left and I wouldn't give them back because I designed them. I am an unsentimental bitch when it comes to the ex although I did do the "3 things" bit where you think of 3 positive and good things to stop being bitter. No. 1, he left. Still working on 2 and 3.
New beginnings John - Onwards and upwards. You've got a gorgeous home, wonderful animals, fantastic friends and if you take it one step at a time, things will improve. I am very sorry that it didn't work out for you and I sincerely wish you all the very best for your future.
Hugs to you. Very sad but also a necessary step in moving forward and if you can move a little bit further forward now and again then that's good progress. Xx
The ring represents the love you shared. Celebrate that and move on. I'm sure that there is more love in the future for you as you seem such a nice bloke.
I wouldn't dream of making any comments about your husband as only you two really know what has happened in your marriage; however, you are a truly lovely person and will feel happiness again. Take your time to readjust and be kind to yourself.
It's painful, but cathartic, a bit like a funeral, a final goodbye. It had to be done though, and now there'll be no catching a painful glimpse of the ring that meant so much, both good and bad. Eventually the mark where it sat will fade, as will the way you're feeling right now, and you'll truly realise that you're worth better than this John Gray. X
Today was the day...you made the step. A difficult time. Please remember you are loved by all of us...you are important to us. We are sad with you but we also know, tomorrow is a new day...may not be all cheery but it is new. Every day seems to improve. (I remember the day I removed my ring...a long time ago). Hugs Mardy 🇨🇦
I know it does not feel anything like it now, but sometimes fate or people push down a path we never would have taken on our own. That path could be the very one you should have been on all the time. I know what I am talking about as I was divorced while 3 months pregnant with our third child and in the middle of building a big house. My wedding ring was stolen and I did not miss it for a minute.Be looking for your new happy and fulfilling life, it's coming.
Can say nothing that will ease your pain but you know that you are being thought of with love by so many of your blog readers and friends, sweetie (((hugs))) xx
I know how difficult removing a ring can be. My hand felt naked when I removed my ring when my partner of 20 years and I split. Thankfully, we had a prenup so there was no messy divorce. A big hug for you from Denver.
Having been away from regular bogland visits for quite a while, it was quite sobering to choose today to see how you were getting on.
Definitely, I have missed quite a bit. Without revisiting past posts, I would just like to send you a hug and my very best wishes. Promise to be back for another visit before too long. xo
I've been checking on you quietly. That golden heart of yours is something else.Thanks for the reminder to remain kind,no matter what. While I know you'll find your way, I'd still fix all this in a heartbeat, if I could.
Hug x
ReplyDeleteOh John. I'm so sorry. A big hug from Holland.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry x
ReplyDeleteI don't really do hugs, but I think in this circumstance I can make an exception...
ReplyDeleteI took mine off 21 years ago next Friday. Whatever the circumstances it’s a moment you never forget.
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ReplyDeleteA feeling of strength in adverse circumstances maybe.
ReplyDeleteThat's a big, final moment. Hugs, John x
ReplyDeleteSooze is right. That is one hard moment. Damn but I'm sorry this has happened.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. xxx
ReplyDeleteFeeling sad xxxx
ReplyDeleteBig hugs.xxx
ReplyDeleteYou have 1,143 hands on your shoulder, John, who care about you, especially at this time.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry John x
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I am sorry for you. A big old hug from me. -Jenn
ReplyDeleteSo sorry ❤
ReplyDeleteSadness. Sending hugs from here. x0x0 N2
ReplyDeleteSo sorryx
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I took my rings off 12 years ago. The indent from my rings was there for years. Hugs,
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ReplyDeleteSorry, John.
ReplyDeleteStay strong X
ReplyDeleteHugs to you, John. Carefully put it away? You're being more mature in such circumstances than I've ever been. I always throw rings from exes into the nearest river.
ReplyDeleteI threw my wedding ring in a nearby lake. Wished the ex could follow it. But John has a nicer nature than me.
DeleteSurely nobody has ever had more people in his corner than John, and well deserved too.
Be brave John, hugs.
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ReplyDeleteTough. But so are you. Be well, as well as you can.
ReplyDeleteEleven years since my dh died from Alzheimer's. Only a few years since I put my wedding ring away, but I'm wearing a signet ring he had made for me on that finger. I believe good things lie ahead for you.
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ReplyDeleteThis is so sad and I sure am sorry.
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of love, my friend. xx
Theres another path you were meant to take John... keep your eyes and your heart open.......Hugs! deb
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of love.
ReplyDeleteIt sucks. That is all there is to it. Supporting you from afar. We all know you have to walk through the shit to get through it. At least you are moving forward through it.
ReplyDeleteI wish to send you a big ,fluffy,soft,cloud to snuggle up around you John to comfort you tonight x
ReplyDeletea hard step but necessary.
ReplyDeleteJust re-read your Round Robin 31 Dec 2015. Fast forward ... and what do you know. I don't wish to pile it high, my heart goes out to you.
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Very sad and I'm so sorry. Wishing good things for you John.
ReplyDeleteSending positive vibes to you.
ReplyDeleteKeep your chin up, John. You've got a lot of followers who love you.
ReplyDeleteOh John ...... I’m worried that you are coping too well but you probably don’t give away everything here ..... we are all here for you, if only in a blogging way. XXXX
ReplyDeleteDamn that Prof!
ReplyDeleteNo bad words please. No point x
DeleteI'm Sorry, John. I just feel you were so very wronged. *hugs*
DeleteI was
DeleteSending you lots of love John, very sad post to read let alone write xxxxxx
ReplyDeleteAin't that the truth x
DeleteOne day at a time.....
ReplyDeleteIt is sad but I say good on you John the memories are in your head not in the ring.
ReplyDeleteThis made me so sad , sending you a virtual hug x
ReplyDeleteBeaming you hugs! xxx
ReplyDeleteAww John, my heart skipped a beat reading this.
ReplyDeleteSo sad.
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Jo you are one of my oldest friends .. thank you
DeleteAnd thank u all...... I'm off to bed with my dogs x ( andcat)
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DeleteYou are indeed one of a kind and most special "John the dogs".
DeleteWhat if - in the course of time - Chris came back saying sorry and that he made a huge mistake? What then?
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DeleteHonestly, YP. Not for the first time, you aren't exactly backward in coming forward, are you? Leaving tact aside you'd pass for an honourable German.
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Sending you a hug from Virginia. Take care.
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteThat's a huge move John. A difficult decision only you could make. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad, sending you big bear hugs.
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ReplyDeleteI feel more sorry for him since he is losing you than for you tonight. You have to do certain things that nobody should have to, like taking off a wedding band for instance. Unexpected and never really taught - that I am aware of - how to do it right to avoid more pain. But I honestly feel sorry for him, it would be a time when he would come to understand that fools do not come to wisdom until it is left far behind.
ReplyDeleteThat's a very big moment ( I know). Take care, John.
ReplyDeleteWhat a hard thing to do, removing the ring.
ReplyDeleteMany hugs to you. )
ReplyDeleteSo sad. Sending hugs from the states.
ReplyDeleteI think a visit to Nuala is called for ... she must know of a suitably positioned bridge that the ring can be thrown from and carried out to sea. Taking sad memories with it and with bracing sea air heading your way to blow in your new era.
ReplyDeleteA sad day I agree, but with old ends come new beginnings. 💕🌹Xx
Probably the biggest hardest step done.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you dear.
Such a hard thing to do, and write about, but a sign of how strong you really are, even when you don't feel great. How's Mary? Is the ear improving? I'll bet she got more of the ham than the couple on front did!!
ReplyDeleteSo sad, but your dignity and strength is amazing. Sending a virtual hug. x
ReplyDeleteTragic. All of it.
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ReplyDeleteSo sad for you John . . .
ReplyDeleteWish it would turn around, be like it “used to be.”
I am sure you wish the same . . .
I am hugging you in my heart . . .
You've shown a great deal of respect during the loss of your relationship John...you should be very proud of yourself xx
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely!
DeleteYou are an example to all.
Gentle hugs from South Africa 🤗
Another big step taken. Probably too soon to think about throwing it off the bridge. Everything takes time. Baby steps all the way. I agree with Sue about going to visit Nu, nobody knows you better than her. Take care.
ReplyDeleteWhat becomes of the brokenhearted
ReplyDeleteWho had love that's now departed
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i always found that using the old husband's wedding ring when marrying the new husband was such a naughty thing to do. but you really have to get married a lot, as i have, to have fun doing this.
ReplyDeleteAnother positive step of acceptance and moving forward..painful as it is. Your future is yours to create with new adventures ..keep positive. Hugs Ellexx
ReplyDeleteSending a hug, John. And here's to a fabulous future. xo
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and hoping that the hardest is now behind you.
ReplyDeleteFive hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.
ReplyDeleteFive hundred twenty five thousand moments so dear.
five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.
How do you measure,
Measure a year?
In daylights?
In sunsets?
In midnights?
In cups of coffee?
In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife?
Opening to Rent
XXXX So hard. One more step taken.
ReplyDeleteI don't know you except through your blog. I live in the U.S., but feel as if we are friends. My heart hurts for you and throughout my day I'll find myself wondering how you are. I know we're thousands of miles apart but I hope you can feel my hand on your shoulder, wishing you peace.
ReplyDeleteit's so heartbreaking...it took me a long time to take mine off...big hugs
ReplyDeleteThere really are no words ... my heart goes out to you .. love..C
ReplyDeleteSending a warm, heartfelt hug, John.
ReplyDeleteYou have my support and best wishes for strength, serenity, and courage as you start anew and move forward.
ReplyDeleteMuch love to you, the dogs, the cat, and the rest of your critters.
I'm so sorry John. It can't be easy for you.
ReplyDeleteWishing brighter days ahead for you, John. Tough love tells us "the only way out is the way through." You've come this far out of what must be an overwhelming sadness, and you're coming through - into the sunshine I hope!
ReplyDeleteMust have felt like a punch in the gut. My sympathies. Now carrying what you need in your heart - forward!
ReplyDeleteNot easy and somehow final! Hugs xxx
ReplyDeleteLife can be utter shit at times. Jo x
ReplyDeleteThere are many shoulders here you can lean on, John. What a blessed man you are! You might not feel it, but it's true. Forward dear heart.
ReplyDeleteYou are a survivor John. It might not feel like that right now but I believe that in the end you will end up stronger, happier and more fulfilled than you can imagine. Work through the pain and just give yourself time and permission to do so. Take care of you.
ReplyDeleteLight, love and hugs to you...
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ReplyDeleteHuge hugs John, such a sad post.
ReplyDeleteI remember that day 3 years, 5 months, & 7 days ago. I was so happy for you and at the same time I wanted to say why ruin a good thing by getting married! Everyone wanted the rights to get married and now you have the adventure of divorce. I pray it isn't too messy! Breaks my heart that it didn't work out. I just don't understand. After so many years, did you grow apart? Been there...done that..and it was not fun! One day at a time...Onwards!❤️
ReplyDeleteAnd there you go, another step in the unravelling. If only hearts mended as easily as we do the practical bits.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs to ya
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We're all sad for you. Sending big hugs.
ReplyDeleteJohn someday you’ll be ready to clasp that ring in the palm of your hand and remember the good times without the pain. You’ll be glad you’ve kept it. It’s still an symbol of everlasting love. Given in love and of a love you shared. Time marches on. Hold on to the good times, they validate your years. You have many years yet to come, enough to have great love again x Emma
ReplyDeleteSending love from Galloway, now I've got a new keyboard and can type again. My ring came off in 2010 and lies deep at the bottom of the millpond at Lulworth Cove. Very different circumstances to yours, hope the happy memories and great times had that the ring symbolises give you comfort and pleasure somewhere down the line. x
ReplyDeletethe saddeest thing ive read in an awful long time John , be kind to yourself
ReplyDeleteI'm so sad for you John, Best wishes x
ReplyDeleteHow good was my marriage? I only started wearing my rings when he left and I wouldn't give them back because I designed them. I am an unsentimental bitch when it comes to the ex although I did do the "3 things" bit where you think of 3 positive and good things to stop being bitter. No. 1, he left. Still working on 2 and 3.
ReplyDeleteHope waking up today wasn’t too hard. Sending you a hug from Surrey x
ReplyDeleteLife can be shit, but after a nights sleep we have a new day and new beginnings. Hope you find a way through the fog. xxx
ReplyDeleteMine went to a charity that was advertising for old jewellery. Long, long time ago now. Life got a lot better.
ReplyDeleteNew beginnings John - Onwards and upwards. You've got a gorgeous home, wonderful animals, fantastic friends and if you take it one step at a time, things will improve. I am very sorry that it didn't work out for you and I sincerely wish you all the very best for your future.
ReplyDeleteThe number of comments this post has received will, I hope, remind you how important you are to so many people, and how loved
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Oh John! ((HUGS)) xx
ReplyDeleteYou know what I think.
ReplyDeleteYou're in my heart....always
ReplyDeleteSending you huge (((hugs))) xxx
ReplyDeleteIt's good to keep it. Hopefully in time you will be able to look at it and hold it, and remember the happiness without feeling the sadness.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you. Very sad but also a necessary step in moving forward and if you can move a little bit further forward now and again then that's good progress. Xx
ReplyDeletesending you healing hugs xxx.
ReplyDeleteSo many painful steps for you John, but each one is forward. Hugs and wishing the best for you x
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Mr. John. One day at a time is all you can do. Huge hugs
ReplyDelete'Tis a process, but you will get through.
ReplyDeleteThe ring represents the love you shared. Celebrate that and move on. I'm sure that there is more love in the future for you as you seem such a nice bloke.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't dream of making any comments about your husband as only you two really know what has happened in your marriage; however, you are a truly lovely person and will feel happiness again. Take your time to readjust and be kind to yourself.
ReplyDeleteMuch love and many hugs to you from Joyce in Indiana.
ReplyDeleteI wish only the very best for you always.
Oh John, wrapping you in arms of love today. Be very gentle with yourself and know how much you are valued, special and loved. Elizabeth. X
ReplyDeleteAww, so sorry John.
ReplyDeleteIt's painful, but cathartic, a bit like a funeral, a final goodbye.
ReplyDeleteIt had to be done though, and now there'll be no catching a painful glimpse of the ring that meant so much, both good and bad.
Eventually the mark where it sat will fade, as will the way you're feeling right now, and you'll truly realise that you're worth better than this John Gray. X
Today was the day...you made the step. A difficult time. Please remember you are loved by all of us...you are important to us. We are sad with you but we also know, tomorrow is a new day...may not be all cheery but it is new. Every day seems to improve. (I remember the day I removed my ring...a long time ago). Hugs Mardy 🇨🇦
ReplyDeleteRemember the happy times John and also remember to look forward. xxx
ReplyDeleteSo sorry John...heartbreaKing x
ReplyDeleteHugs
ReplyDeleteWhy keep it in a box? Sell it and buy something to make you happier!
ReplyDeleteI shall keep it always
DeleteSo few words. Such emotion evoked. My hand on your shoulder joins those of others.
ReplyDeleteI know it does not feel anything like it now, but sometimes fate or people push down a path we never would have taken on our own. That path could be the very one you should have been on all the time. I know what I am talking about as I was divorced while 3 months pregnant with our third child and in the middle of building a big house. My wedding ring was stolen and I did not miss it for a minute.Be looking for your new happy and fulfilling life, it's coming.
ReplyDeleteI type, then delete. This is a trying time in your life. We are here for you. I’m sorry. Gabs
ReplyDeleteThat brought a big lump to my throat.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry John. xx
Hugs, keep positive xxx
ReplyDeleteSorry. It's so sad when things don't work out as hoped for.
ReplyDeleteCan say nothing that will ease your pain but you know that you are being thought of with love by so many of your blog readers and friends, sweetie (((hugs))) xx
ReplyDeleteI know how difficult removing a ring can be. My hand felt naked when I removed my ring when my partner of 20 years and I split. Thankfully, we had a prenup so there was no messy divorce. A big hug for you from Denver.
ReplyDeleteMy deepest sympathies, John. I'd fallen away from reading for a while, then I decided to check in, and this...
ReplyDeleteI did that once long, long ago.
ReplyDeleteMy heart to your heart. I'm so sorry that you're hurting, John. awwrrrrr.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. Healing wishes for you.
ReplyDeleteHaving been away from regular bogland visits for quite a while, it was quite sobering to choose today to see how you were getting on.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely, I have missed quite a bit. Without revisiting past posts, I would just like to send you a hug and my very best wishes. Promise to be back for another visit before too long. xo
Blogland. Ha, auto correct still has much to answer for.
ReplyDeleteThat is so hard...I'm glad that you are among folk and family who care and look in on you. Hugs...
ReplyDeleteI've been checking on you quietly. That golden heart of yours is something else.Thanks for the reminder to remain kind,no matter what. While I know you'll find your way, I'd still fix all this in a heartbeat, if I could.
ReplyDeleteI admire how you are managing this. My heart goes out to you.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear...
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