"If I lay here.....
If I just lay here......
Would you lay. with me,
And just forget the world....."
This is a verse, not from a poem but from a song,
And when I hear it, especially when I am alone, usually in the car listening to the radio, I invairably start to cry.
This happened last night, when I was driving back with our takeaway from the local Indonesian restaurant .
It was the song that was played incessantly on the radio when I took my first dog Finlay back and forth from the vets and animal hospital when he was terminally ill.
He used to lie with me all of the time
And we both used to forget the world together.
It's been ten years.
And I still cry when I hear it.....
What song does it for you?
No song but reading your blog sometimes does (in a nice way). Watched A Dog's Purpose last night, that made me cry.
ReplyDeleteI watched 20 minutes on the plane to New York.......I sobbed for 15
DeleteKnow exactly what you mean. We lost our dogs ten years ago and I could still break down and cry. There was a song that I couldn't listen to without crying (can't remember it now) but the lyrics were "don't close your eyes" and it always reminded me of Jess. Animals have broken my heart but I couldn't have been without any of them.
ReplyDeleteSame. X
DeleteYes....I've lost Finlay, Maddie, meg, Constance and Mabel .i should be used to it..........I'm not
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DeleteI think that sort of thing ... you should never get used to .. I don't think it is possible to get used to loving something/someone and then losing them ..
Stings 'Fields of Barley' have the same effect on me, Ollie our lovely cat was hit by a car, and we were in and out of the vets, he loved people, hence when a lady called him he forgot the road and dashed over to her.
ReplyDeleteEva Cassidy 's version is lovely too. As is her OVER THE RAINBOW
DeleteCrying is OK, it's liberating. The trouble is people might get into depresson when losing a pet.It recently happened to a woman in my neighborhood; she gets in and out of depression since she has lost her spaniel dog. Her siblings refuse to get her another one despite the fact that she lives alone. She used to take care of herself and the house, and she stopped after the dog died creating problems for herself and the family.
ReplyDeletePet grief is a subject not really looked at
DeleteIt is valid as and important as grief for a human but somehow it's viewed by all ( including the grieving person) as something as wrong
Leonard Cohen... Hallelujah... sung by K D Lang.. makes me sing... although I sound like a strangled cat... not that I would ever strangle a ct btw.... makes me bawl... I love that woman.. she is amazing!!!
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DeleteLast time i almost cried when TS commented on Weaver blog about thinking of her alnone in the new home.Blogland is full with emotions and good people.It was not a song that almost made me cry.
ReplyDeleteThere is a great deal of goodness here Yael xx
DeleteHoney - Bobby Goldsboro.
ReplyDeleteSnow Parol, Chasing Cars I don't even have to be alone for tears to fall. My connection is post natal depression and it takes me right back there in an instant xxo
ReplyDeleteWhen my daughter was ill with leukaemia I went to the funeral of another child and they played I will all ways love you by Whitney Houston . Even now twenty two years later I can't listen to that song I have to turn it off .
ReplyDeleteTough x
DeleteAny song that happens to be on the radio when I am slicing onions.
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DeleteLOL John !
DeleteHurt, Jonny Cash version of the Nine Inch Nails song.
ReplyDeleteMost Christmas music sweeps me up and carries me back to a happy childhood when I first hear it in early December. HOWEVER I am changing the channel by early January, then it becomes depressing!?
ReplyDeleteLa Vie en Rose. I had it played at my mum's funeral as she loved it so much.
ReplyDeleteI love it too, but of course, now I can't bear to hear it! X
Everybody hurts by REM. A young friend of the family committed suicide and they played this at his funeral. On a lighter note my dad used to sing Daddy's Little Girl to me when I was small and it is bitter/sweet. I am no longer a little girl and my dad has been dead since 1983. Songs and smells are so evocative. Love Andie xxx
ReplyDeleteI was listening to that (Everybody hurts) about half an hour ago ... and yes, songs and smells .. it is amazing .
DeleteBonnie Prince Billy. I see a darkness: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LAriDxTeed8
ReplyDeleteChasing cars takes me back to a young woman I worked with when it was played incessantly. I wonder what she is up to now.
ReplyDeleteGenerally speaking I don't listen to a lot of music and don't have these associations and it makes me a bit sad but we are all wired differently I suppose....
There is music that I have always loved but I can't listen to it since my husband died. He introduced me to the world of Ballet and Opera when I came to NYC at the age of 20 ..
ReplyDeletePiaf , Leonard Cohen, Wagner, Vivaldi ... they all make me cry ..
Any song that is saying goodbye... i hate goodbyes....
ReplyDeleteHello songs are good x
Deletehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1bFr2SWP1I
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DeleteI have so many ...
ReplyDelete'And I'm Telling You' ... Jennifer's Hudson and Holiday versions
'The Big Parade' ... 10,000 Maniacs
'The Heart Is Slow to Learn' ... Dame Kiri Te Kanawa
'Over The Rainbow' ... Eva Cassiday
'Strange Fruit ... Billie Holiday
I could go on but I'm tearing up. I'm a rather weepy fellow.
Eva Cassidy's last note on OVER THE RAINBOW gets me
DeleteI don't cry at much; a few films, one or two old photos, but mostly at the memory of departed dogs.
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DeleteThe Dark Island - very bittersweet for me, that one, but tears, always tears.
ReplyDeleteLeAnn Rimes How Do I live Without You gets me every time. It was played at my uncle's funeral and I just can't listen to it any more.
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ReplyDeleteAll In Love Is Fair by Stevie Wonder and The Hungry Years by Neil Sedaka (perhaps the saddest broken relationship song ever written); O Holy Night by any great singer; Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own by U2 -since hearing Bono in concert talking about how it's about his Dad. You just have to read the words - the line "you're the reason why the opera is in me" kills me every time. Several great arias, and many, many others - I am very emotional about music...
ReplyDeleteA little known song, "Paris Without You" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3OZLxw6egU
ReplyDeleteSummer of My Life by Archie Roach....google it and listen and see if you cry.
ReplyDeleteTraveller
If I could save time in a bottle, the first think I’d like to do
ReplyDeleteIs to save every day ‘TIL eternity passes away
Just to spend them with you.
That Jim Croce song always makes me well up - I heard it a day after losing my dad and it makes me think of him.
I love Snow Patrol. "Chasing Cars" is one of those songs for me.. So is Coldplay's "Fix You"
ReplyDeleteFix you! .....amazing
DeleteLong may you run- Neil Young. It reminds of a friend who passed away very young. We were 15.
ReplyDeleteIt may sound strange, but I am almost moved to tears when I am in the presence of bagpipers. Hearing them up close makes me think of my father and I feel regret for the life he did not lead. -Jenn
ReplyDeleteAlso, "He Ain't Heavy, He's my Brother" makes me cry because it is the song that goes along with the Terry Fox videos (Canadian hero, lost a leg to cancer, attempted to run across Canada to raise awareness, cancer returned). -Jenn
DeleteNot strange at all ... I cry every time I hear bagpipers ..
DeleteBag pipes, every time. I always tear up.
DeleteNow that's a new one but hey..if it makes you cry, it makes you cry x
DeleteGoodbye, My Friend by Linda Ronstadt. Just typing that made me cry.
ReplyDeleteSometimes the smallest thing bruises
DeleteLuther Vandross, Dance with my Daddy.
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It's amazing how music brings back memories. Songs are even better memory triggers than Proust's madeleines!
ReplyDeletePS -- I didn't know the Snow Patrol song until I watched the video -- then I realized I had heard it before. It IS a very poignant song, especially (I imagine) with the association of your memories.
DeleteYes...just that final line of the chorus
DeleteBette Midler's 'Wind Beneath My Wings' - I was only writing on this topic on the blog of 'The Gay Almanac' yesterday. My comment below his post explains why:-
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Also, Elton's 'Sacrifice' which I played on a loop as I was packing my possessions to leave Cologne, Germany, where I'd lived for three years, to return to living in England. The tug on the heart is poignancy near unbearable - but sweet.
You explained it very well raymondo x
DeleteMusic does not play a large part in my life, but I remember bawling when Paul Potts auditioned with Nessun Dorma years ago. The last time that I cried when I heard a song was when you introduced us to the Trewlanyd male choir singing 'Bring him home'.
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DeleteSome9ne else mentioned I will Always Love You by Whitney Houston. It doesn’t make me cry but I always stop and listen. Such a waste. Any version of Amazing Grace is another one. I told my husband, if I die first, all the music can be different versions of Amazing Grace.
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Tears in Heaven, by Eric Clapton. Hits me hard every time I hear it.
ReplyDelete"Sound of Silence." One of my sister's favorites. After she died in hospice we went to a pub near Sheffield for dinner. There was someone singing and playing guitar. As we sat down, this was the song he began. Uf!
ReplyDeleteWhat A Wonderful World sung by Louis Armstrong.
ReplyDeleteThese days anything at all by George Michael. But for many years Tears For Fears' 'Everybody wants to rule the world'...
ReplyDeleteNow please explain tears for fears! It's such an upbeat song
DeleteEric Bogle - The Band Played Waltzing Matilda
ReplyDeleteOne of the greatest anti-war songs ever written.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG48Ftsr3OI
Never heard of him or his song but the words are interesting. When I read them I imagine your chickens talking amongst themselves. Cluk!
ReplyDeleteI used to cloud watch amid the chickens with Finlay by my side
DeleteThat particular song played frequently when my youngest and I made the 40 minute, 5 times a week trek to my then husband’s rehab center. We often cried together as we drove, especially on the way home. As with you, it still brings me to tears as the sadness and loveliness washes over me.
ReplyDeleteJourneys by car are times of reflection to music me things....sending you an understanding hug
DeleteYellow by Coldplay. When my youngest daughter was a little girl it was her favourite song and then she became ill. Her condition is under control now but I can't hear that song without the desperate feelings of that time coming back. I still cry with a full face of tears every time I hear it. x
ReplyDeleteSince the farmer died it is 'We'll meet again' because I know we never will.
ReplyDeleteI wondered if you would be up to commenting weave x
DeleteAnything by Barry Manilow.
ReplyDeleteCocobanana ?
DeleteChasing Cars is definitely one for me too! As well as Joni Mitchell's River (as sung by Sarah McLachlin), and Evanescence's My Immortal.
ReplyDeleteMy immortal is another of mine.....but for another dog too! My second bulldog mabel
DeleteUnanswered Prayers.. Garth
ReplyDeleteMomma Tried...Merle
And a whole bunch more, music affects me more than anything else when it comes to crying.
Since my husband died last year I cry healing tears when I hear Holy Mother Hear My Cry, sung by Luciano Pavorotti and Eric Clapton at a peace conference and found on YouTube. Clapton wrote this when his son died and it is very moving. "I've seen the stars fall from the sky, Holy Mother can't keep from crying."
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DeleteI like that definition
The song I weep at is 'Down Under' by an Australian band whose name now escapes me: I had been summoned by the local hospital where my mother had been taken the night before, and just as I had arrived at my office, a 5 minute drive away, the duty sister rang me and said, 'get here quickly, she's very poorly'. I was in the car and that song came on, thankfully the traffic was light and I sped to the hospital, but I missed my mother's death by 5 minutes.
ReplyDeleteLonely nighttime car journeys are often accompanied by music on the radio
DeleteEric Clapton's, Tears in Heaven.
ReplyDeleteGreetings Maria x
i dont like this song,Chasing cars is what was played at my sons funeral,as the coffin came in
ReplyDeleteForever Young by Cat Stevens. Makes me think of my grandson's birth 12 years ago and my wish for him.
ReplyDelete"Somewhere"from west side story.
ReplyDelete" Firestarter " by the Prodigy ...always play that before burning things ....though it's actually the smoke itself rather than the song which causes the tears
ReplyDeleteTrust you
DeleteI cried when David Nott, Medecins sans Frontiers, played Fix You on Desert Island Discs. The whole world listening and Kirsty Young all cried too.
ReplyDeleteOne of the most powerful pieces of recent radio me thinks
DeleteYears ago, my first Christmas in Texas, pregnant, homesick, lonely, I cried every time I heard "I'm dreaming of a White Christmas" which was embarrassing because it was played over and over in the shopping malls. Thirty years on the prairies in waist deep in snow I still cry.
ReplyDeleteBookends. Simon and Garfunkel.
ReplyDeleteThat just sets me off too.
DeleteOh, such lonely memories it brings.
ReplyDeleteAbbas "slipping through my fingers" I haven't got a daughter but realise my son's are growing up. And for reason I can't fathom Rita oras latest "anywhere" for some reason prob cos my dad died in June and then our cat was pts it sums up the need to leave the shit and go away. Whenn i watch mamma Mia my son's always shout " dad mums crying " when that song comes on. Lol
ReplyDeleteThat's a corker!
DeleteJudy singing Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas and Vanessa singing I Loved You Once in Silence.
ReplyDeleteYes Judy's merry little Christmas sets me off........as she's the Rosemary colony version on an old ER episode
DeleteSeasons in the sun-Terry Jacks.
ReplyDeleteGoodbye to you my trusted friend
We've known each other since we were nine or ten
Together we've climbed hills and trees
Learned of love and ABC's
Skinned our hearts and skinned our knees
Goodbye my friend it's hard to die
When all the birds are singing in the sky
Now that spring is in the air
Pretty girls are everywhere
Think of me and I'll be there.
Oh yes, this one too.
DeleteLonely Looking Sky... Neil Diamond. For heartbreakingly personal reasons I can't listen to it without welling up.
ReplyDeleteBridge Over Troubled Water. It says it all.
ReplyDeleteIf You Go Away and Leonard Cohen's That's No Way to Say Good-bye, the latter on Judy Collin's Wildflowers album which came out just when I lost someone forever dear to me.
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Given the number of comments, I'd say this subject hits the right place for a lot of us. I cry at the drop of a hat.....I can't talk about Conan (corgi) or Brodie (Scottie) without tearing up. Ever. There are many more, but those last two hit me really hard. No song required.
ReplyDeleteMusic memory and emotion a heady mix
DeleteHomeward Bound
ReplyDeleteBy the Mormon Tabernacle Choir
DeleteBack home late after a day out in Chester! Thank you all for your contributions....as usual the comments are more interesting than the post x
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a child my Mother used to play a song called "Nobody's Child" and it always used to make me cry.
ReplyDeleteVincent by Don McClean. Always loved it, and then my brother killed himself. 38 years on and I still cry.
ReplyDeleteNeil Young song called "Harvest Moon". My husband and I danced to it, in the dark, in front of the fireplace, the night he died. Man does it that song set me off....
ReplyDeleteAnnie Lennox's "Into the West" from LOTR makes me very, very sad. I listened to this after my sweetest and youngest dog died.
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DeleteThere is a song...from when I was very young and in love and thought the future would be oh so exciting and wonderful, and that love could last forever. Bitter tears and regrets instead when I think of this song.
ReplyDeleteAnybody not go urghh if I mention the Theme from Titanic? But if you look up the words it's a different feeling and it's when I feel my son is close to me.
ReplyDeleteEverybody Hurts REM , it was on the radio at some terrifically grim point in my life and i fill up just typing this
ReplyDeleteWe lost our German shepherd (at 13) and my Dad in the same three months after our wedding. The piece of music I associate with both is the theme to the Onedin Line. He loved that programme and we played it at his funeral.
ReplyDeleteThe song on this link Bathe in the River is however the one that has me howling every time. Hollie smith opened the Alison Moyet concert here and she slayed it. It was played at the funeral of the most amazing woman, V Burns, glamorous lesbian and untiring worker for our gay youth. The biggest funeral I've ever been to stading room only, full of drag queens and kings, and we sang along to this and cried and cried. https://youtu.be/_7ZwViizRwU
Bright Eyes, from Watership Down,does it for me!
ReplyDeleteThis song always makes me cry as it reminds me of my Grandfather's death. I had only met him a few times and we didn't have enough time together.
DeleteFix you, by Coldplay
ReplyDelete'Power of Love' by Jennifer Rush. I gave this song to my husband on our 1st anniversary, little knowing that we only had another 7 months together. He died suddenly, unexpectedly, one morning and I cry every time I hear this, no matter where I am. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_zHQ6kFuQ0
ReplyDeleteSo sorry , thank you for sharing that x
DeleteFor me it is the song "I will follow you into the dark" by the band Death Cab for Cutie. Even just thinking about it makes me tear up. It makes me think of my grandmother who died in 2011, and it just makes me miss her so much.
ReplyDeleteSam Smith Lay Me Down
ReplyDelete'And it's hard, the days just seem so dark
The moon, and the stars, are nothing without you'
Lost one dog in January 2016, another May 2016 and my Mum June 2016. Nearly broke me. That song brings back the extreme grief of that time.
"Songs My Mother Taught Me' by Dvorak.
ReplyDeleteWith or Without You by U2. A good friend was killed while this played everywhere.
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Shake it out - Florence and the Machine - it was on the radio when the hearse arrived at my Brother in laws house, with my younger sister inside it.... I cant bear it now.
ReplyDeleteNearly every song with meaningful words makes me cry. I almost cannot listen to any music as I don't enjoy songs with stupid, foul or vapid lyrics. I live a very quiet life!
ReplyDeleteI nearly cried reading about your long lost dog.
The hymn "And can it be" it was my dads favourite, in church he would sing it very loudly and with great exuberance. Every time I hear it I can see him with a big grin on his face and hear him. It makes me tear up just typing this. Su
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