Yesterday I completed my side of the paperwork......the registrar was very sweet ( all very twin set and pearls) but kept referring to my girlfriend, " she" when she was completing the paperwork... I didn't correct her until she asked me for my girlfriend's name and I piped up with a wry " Christopher"
I wasn't annoyed just faintly amused, as she really should have known better and she did apologise very quickly...
Anyhow
My receipt for the whole thing ( after I had paid my 38 quid ) looked a bit scrappy and Chris was certainly not amused by it.....if you look closely he is referred to as being the BRIDE
Whoops
Ha! Noelle married Adam and I at that same register office.
ReplyDeleteShe is very sweet Hannah
DeleteI thought it was going to be you wearing white!
ReplyDeleteWhite? What with my ability to spoil gravy?
DeleteMazal tov (good luck as we say...)
ReplyDeleteI've always wanted to step on the glass!
DeleteYou have to break it too.
DeleteAwww .... I love that he's the Bride ...... hehehe !!
ReplyDeleteIt's getting closer ... and all official. :-)
Rather an antiquated and obviously chauvinistic council you have running the joint there! Time that form was updated!
ReplyDeleteWell, I am usually a big fan of our council..... They seem to have many great initiatives.......
DeleteApparently it was an oversight .... New documentation should have been used.......they were VERY apologetic on the phone this morning.........
I was sent to your blog by a fellow reader and have been lurking here a bit -- I got a kick out of this post. I guess the paperwork hasn't quite caught up with the times! I can't blame Christopher, because I'd also be annoyed at being turned into a bride.
ReplyDeleteSo glad your turkey is well again. Had me worried!
Welcome steve
DeleteBingley is mighty fine this morning..... I don't know just why he looked so ill....it was lucky I had antibiotics at home........
Turkeys are very sensitive to medication, much more so than any other bird....
Bet you didn't know that fascinating bit of rubbish eh?
Isn't it time they removed the 'Groom's name' and 'Bride's name' and just had 'Partner 1' and 'Partner 2'? The number of gay marriages is going to increase and the paperwork needs to be updated. Is Christopher (the bride) wearing a veil? Hope the wedding plans go well.
ReplyDeleteSusan.......that's exactly what they have done.......
DeleteI did feel so sorry for the clerk when I rang...... You would have thought she had knocked over a nun, the way she was carrying on with guilt
And that was just the paperwork....
ReplyDeleteIndeed Rachel.............btw..I am stuffing cannelloni at the moment
DeleteDoes Chris know?
DeleteExactly what occurred to me Rachel. And does Cannelloni know about Chris? A fine Italian name he has though (or she?).
DeleteThat really is bad, I would ask for a refund
ReplyDeleteNow there's a thought
DeleteRather than BRIDE, I think the registrar should have written BRIDGE as Chris will become the BRIDGE that transports you to your future happiness. But then again it might have been BRIDIE - a kind of pasty that is popular with scotch egg eaters.
ReplyDeleteMad as a badger
DeleteI love it when such wrong assumptions are made and the person has to backtrack. They are always so apologetic partly because some of their best friends are gay, never mind their gay brother that they hasten to tell you about You have to laugh. Sorry, I should be taking your wedding more seriously.
ReplyDeleteIt's an understandable mistake.......I was looking very butch
DeleteI was just writing about societal and legal presumptions, one of them being that a spouse if of the opposite gender - times they are changing, but it will take a while for society and law to catch up.
ReplyDeleteWe are all looking forward to reports on the wedding.
I've got to loose 2 stone yet!
Deletephwoar, I think YOU would make a prettier bride!
ReplyDeletein this country, the paperwork is still playing catch-up with the times. I DO hope they pronounce you husband and husband!
Give them time. Maybe by 2030 they'll change the forms to accommodate all comers.
ReplyDeleteWell at least on the marriage certificate he won't be referred to as 'Spinster of this parish'. Now that's an expression that could really do with changing.
ReplyDeleteI bet he was after being put as a bride.
ReplyDeleteThe forms should read Party #1 and Party #2...then when you are married instead of saying I now pronounce you man and wife they can just say, Party On. I think it sounds much happier.
ReplyDeleteIf you're planning on a wedding next March then the wrong year has been entered. Should be 2015, correct? Whoops.X
ReplyDeleteMistake no 2
DeleteI was just about to comment on the date too!!
DeleteI noticed the 2014 as well. I thought you were trying to confuse us. Just when your loyal following has arranged a bus trip to the ceremony. Oops... I've let the cat out of the bag now.
DeleteIt will all be upon you quite quickly ....you better get the workout clothes and running shoes on :)
ReplyDeleteMy wedding at City Hall was $15.00....exact change only. The Justice of the Peace said my name wrong 4 times. It was a bit pathetic. We entered and exited the building via a holding area for all the people brought in the night before and waiting to be "processed" by the courts. They were snatching cigarette buts out of the ashtrays left by nervous brides and grooms as they got called in to be married...some brides in the full white bridal gown. (not me)
ReplyDeleteBy the way...could she not have simply crossed out the spot saying Bride and written in Groom?
ReplyDeleteCarry on, dear John, carry on. Sometime in the not so distant future marriage will be just as it should: a union of like souls regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, etc... All these obnoxious little slights (intended or no) will be no more. :)
ReplyDeleteI am the faithful lurking reader that sent Steve and Mary Moon your way. I felt you were/are worth sharing. I know feelings were hurt, but this still made me laugh. I am so proud and happy that this can and will happen for you and Chris. Frame the darn thing and laugh later on. Oh how much is 2 stones in American weight? I don't blog to will check back later. Have a lovely day. (another) Mary from Alabama.
ReplyDeleteMary.....I wasn't bothered...... But I guess it's the principle of the thing.......
DeleteAnd glad to have you aboard ...........it's lovely to get new readers and I am shallow enough to enjoy every bit of praise
The banns. Wonderful.
ReplyDeleteYou would think they'd had some training about same-sex ceremonies by now. Gormless or what? And how absurdly bureaucratic that the local registrar has to notify the other one! Is the notification sent by pony and trap?
ReplyDeleteCongrats and all that...hope you have a lovely day and a happy future as eventful as your present!
ReplyDeleteIf they have Partner 1 and 2, why do they need Bride and Groom?
ReplyDeleteEvery wedding has glitches, I think so we can have something to laugh about when things get rough. The guy who married us called me "Shannon".
ReplyDeleteHow about corner #1 and corner #2?
ReplyDelete(As in... in this corner...)
Chris has a good argument for you being the bride, what with all the pie-making and bog bleaching you do!
ReplyDeleteAre you both going with the old vows...my husband said when he pledged me his troth, he had no idea what the dickens it meant, and has been paying for it ever since :)
ReplyDeleteIs it in the same county as Conwy Castle, love that little town.
Happy to reaad that Blingly is doing better.
~Jo
Yes Conwy is just down the road jo
DeleteI trust that Bingley will be invited. And I do NOT mean in the sandwiches!
ReplyDeleteNaughty
DeleteJumpin' Jeepers, they need new forms!
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, a wedding isn't much fun without things going wrong, now, is it? I bet if you polled your readers you'd get some good stories.
Is it me or have they got the month wrong too?
ReplyDeleteYou have the patience of a saint! I would have made her fill in the form again and with more respect. Mind you, I bet you wanted to laugh, and I bet her face was a picture!! Good luck to you both and I'm looking forward to hearing all about the nuptials!
ReplyDeleteNice to have you aboard chel another new face x
DeleteSince the clerk asked for the "brides "name I assume she didn't know it was a same sex marriage until you said Chris's name at the end. The paper work needs to be improved. It will catch up I am sure.
ReplyDeleteLets hope this is the only hic-up on the way to your marriage.
My dogs were our best man and flower girl.
cheers, parsnip
I have a friend who is a registrar. You have no idea how many times she is embarrassed filling in out of date paperwork. Two ladies or two gents registering a birth is just the same.
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm amused. Too bad, Chris.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
OMG.. husband & I were married in North Wales ( as my mother lived on Anglesey at the time )
ReplyDeleteWe were offered the service in Welsh... we were supposed to be living there for several weeks but we lived in Spain !!!
Honeymoon night was at the place with the long name..... then drove back to Spain with more adventures !!!
What IS a wedding without a couple of hitches ??
( couple / hitch !!! )
What date is the wedding john ?
ReplyDelete6th March jason
DeleteGlad Bingley is much better and seriously, that woman should have realized you were the blushing bride. Shame on her!
ReplyDeleteCan't wait for pictures on March 7th. Or at least a drunken story or two.
Our wedding license is dated wrong and says we got married a year later. My son has questions about that.
ReplyDeletei hope everything else goes right with your preparations for the big event.
One step closer! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteI remarried in 2010, in a small province, where we both had to swear an oath on the bible or do an affirmation, in the interview, to even get a license!
ReplyDeleteP+P (postage and packaging)
ReplyDeleteWhy use the shorthand just to spell it out?
We had the banns read in Oxfordshire but got married in Warwickshire, so we had to go to Warwick. They explained that it was to save embarrassment on our wedding day when the registrar had to do paperwork ahead of the wedding. Only thing was, they lost the paperwork and we had to do it when I arrived at the church.
I'm looking forward to reading more about the preparations and then about the wedding. Congratulations to you and your groom.
Helen
Well you can tell Chris it's better to be thr bride than always a brisesmaid.......or some shit like that.
ReplyDeletemade me chuckle...they probably have stacks of the old paperwork to use up .
ReplyDeleteWhen my wife and I were married in Canada in 2004, there were profuse apologies that the forms were not yet updated and one of us will forever be the 'groom' on our wedding license.
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