Friday, 19 April 2013

" Not For The Homophobic"

A couple of days ago a local village blogsite gave my Going Gently  blogspot
a kind bit of a big up.
Subsequently my viewing figures have increased noticeably 
Which is nice
I am fickle enough to acknowledge the fact but
Something on that blog site sort of bothered me though
And it was the beginning of this statement
( I adored the second sentence by the way)

"Not for the homophobic. 
This man is seriously funny and entertaining, he lives in Trelawnyd."

" Not for the homophobic"  was obviously a way of describing  Going Gently ....and this intrigued me, for the fact that I may have a long standing ( and deep rooted ) obsession with Russell Crowe dressed as a gladiator seems to me to take a somewhat second class position behind my love of anything feathered, canine, zombie-ish, cinematic or indeed anything egg shaped and covered in deep fried breadcrumbs.....

Homophobia has always baffled me somewhat
It never really computes that someone may be upset with me by nature of my schoolgirl crushes or the fact I have shared most of my life with a hairy faced academic with a deep voice

Ok
Dislike me for being a gobshite, dislike me for my ability to be a real bitch sometimes
And even dislike me for my inability to say no to needy bulldogs that need a new home.

But don't dislike me for just being an old poof
That's soooooooooooooooo 1980s


95 comments:

  1. I must say that it was very kind of this website to link me in.... I just found the homophobic reference an interesting one

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  2. It's a puzzling comment, certainly, J.G. - but I think it's MEANT as a compliment. I shouldn't be surprised if the number of your blog-followers now sharply climbs even further. I hope so, if you also want it.

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    1. Oh ray..I know it was meant positively I was just intrigued that it was mentioned at all .....
      Me me me me me

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  3. Bigotry is the worst trait in a human being, I absolutely despise bigots in every way, shape or form. In a world of god knows how many people, the ability to be found interesting, attractive or not, and humorous is such a great asset to have......I would rather read about chicken shit, dog shit in a pocket or flatulence any day instead of the driven agenda garbage that the general media feed to the masses .....you go girl !!

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    1. Clicks fingers over head

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    2. I could not agree more Jason. Can I snap my fingers in a "Z" motion?

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  4. Well I disagree in any case. Your blog is perfect for homophobics. If it only irritates one, then it would be all worthwhile.

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    1. Brilliant comment :-)

      I second this.

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    2. He's the king of the one liners Susan x

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    3. Excellent, Tom. Well said!

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    4. Agreed--brilliant comment! Love it!

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    5. Wish I'd thought of that, Tom, but you deservedly earn the laurels.

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    6. This is why I like Tom......having never met him face to face of coarse. :)

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    7. Did you really mean 'coarse' rather than 'course', Kelly? If so, you know me better than I would have thought.

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  5. I love Russell Crowe in Gadiator! He's so compact!
    As for the rest, unbeleivable in 2013. Not acceptable in 1980 either (like most of the fashions).

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    1. Russell Crowe is short...... Like most attractive little men...you just can't get enough of them

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  6. It is a mystery to me too. But so many brilliant things have been said this week in my little part of the world that throw a light on homophobia and question its credibility. This speech in Parliament after the Marriage Act was amended this week is a classic. The MP giving it is a good bloke.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCDEiaoEP2U

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    1. What a brilliantly entertaining speech: an MP with intelligence AND humour.

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    2. Maryanne.....I agree it's rambler ....a refreshing change was that

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  7. Homophobic people are generally clueless, and wouldn't appreciate anything "seriously funny and entertaining".....

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    1. Jon you mistake my message... I didn't think that the bloke that wrote the blog in question was being homophobic ...I just found it intriguing that he described my blog as potentially being upsetting to a homophobe.....
      It's an interesting debate

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    2. I think that person did it to make more people interested in this blog, and at the same time poking fun at homophobic people.

      Someone I know once went to a supposedly good Mumbai restaurant and did not like the food there. When he told about it to someone from the restaurant, he was told that the food was good and that it took someone classy enough to like it. The writer who pointed to this blog probably did the same, but in a good way.

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  8. I am usually invisible behind my online shop but once delivered a chair to a lady in person. I was greeted with " Oh....my word...you look nothing like I expected". I never asked her what she had expected and have spent years now wondering! Not a nasty feeling but just a bit ...uh?

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    1. That always happen to me.... When I liaised with nurses from all over the country in my previous job...... Many would say when they arrived with their patients to our unit
      " you don't look like you voice"
      Hummmm

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    2. Years ago, someone I knew quite well in a work environment, came to my house for the first time. She was visibly shocked and said 'oh! you have a lovely house, I didn't expect you to have such a nice house!' Go figure......bitch!

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    3. Go figure, i am Greek and had a colleague come to my home a long time ago and say wao!!!! your home does not look Greek. lol They must have seen my big fat Greek wedding one to many times.
      In short John, i figure you to be a forward thinking and true person who always tells it like it is with humor and wit, am i correct. lol

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    4. I think it's human nature to try and build a picture of others lives. I always get it wrong. People are never married to who I picture them to be.

      My all time best laugh came from a picture I have. It's the man I'm married to and my first husband. They know each other professionally and met up overseas and both of them emailed the picture to me. I opened it at work, and without thinking my coworker said "tell me you are married to the tall one!" Should have seen her face when I said, "divorced him 25 years ago and am currently married to the blond"

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  9. They probably thought 'homophobic' meant someone who hated being at home!

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  10. Slightly odd indeed...what were they trying to do? Warn the "... of Tunbridge Wells" brigade??
    Mind you, a dose of your great blog would be just the healthy shock these types need :-)

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  11. Although the article about your blog may have been good, it was not necessary or funny to describe your posts in that way. Apparently, he/she is not as good a writer as you. Now poo, farts and bitch, those are funny and the reason hundreds of us look forward to your posts every day.

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    1. I am to keep the low standard of fart and shit posts coming x

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    2. Starting Over is right, we love you for the poo, farts, dog snot, scotch eggs, laughs and general bitchery. Please keep them coming!

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  12. I am a straight male, and your orientation does not matter to me. Your content does, and I find it really good.

    As far as I am concerned, I only landed on this blog because of following someone's comments on someone else's blog. I do not care what the person who 'publicized' you called you, because had they not talked about you, I could have never reached here :-)

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    1. Well welcome aboard KK
      I know some of my colloquialisms pass you by, but always make sure you ask for explanations

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  13. It is hard for homophobics to remain that way when they know and like someone gay. To read your blog is to know and love you. So......
    Cheers Peter

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    1. Thanks Peter...you have been following this crap for years now have you not?

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    2. Oh yes, checking in on your doings is one of the first things I do in the morning.
      It starts my day right!

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  14. Love your blog- end of story. Thanks for your fabulousity! Oh and I loooove the work gobshite!!!! Hahahhaha

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    1. Gobshite, gobshite gobshite,,,,,, yes it is a great word is. It not?

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  15. It sounds like the writer of the blog is afraid of losing readers. I'm sure there are people who would no longer wish to read his blog at all if they thought he "approved" of homosexuality.
    I have a couple of friends who seem to be normal, intelligent people but are illogically anti-gay and would never read your blog just because you are. It's their loss of course !!

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    1. Hi Jean
      Didn't think my comments would raise so much comments, lol. My blog Penyffordd District was set up because I had 2000 vehicles a day breaking the 30mph speed limit passed my house. It drove me nuts. I even ended up on the front of The Leader for saying unfavourable stuff about the head of Flintshire Highways. Also a telling off by North Wales Police. Seven years later we now have a traffic platform to slow down traffic. I stood as a councillor and got loads of abuse off the locals.(labels Election 2012 ) I am not well liked by many around here. Don't care.
      Your second sentence sums up why I put down a warning to homophobics. As you say illogical.

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    2. Colin...
      I Am on the community council here
      My joke was that we needed a " minority" on the board so to speak......
      Thank you for dropping by

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    3. I've tried twice John. Failed twice.
      My election sheet was all about how crap they were.
      They tried to get NWP and the county solicitor to shut me up.
      They once tried to have a closed meeting to discuss ways of shutting me up. Someone wiser than me suggested we attend the meeting then refuse to leave for the closed session. Which is what happened.
      Nearly had handbags flying around.

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  16. I haven't read you blog for long enough to know much about you, which is probably the names of your animals.

    'Homophobia has always baffled me somewhat
    It never really computes'. This strikes a chord with me. I have on the odd occasion experienced homophobia, but nothing serious, and yet I have lived openly since I was a teenager, a mere decade or ago (cough). You were surprised that the word homophobic was mentioned and I agree. There was no reason. As I said, I don't know you well yet, but I can't see any images of cute young gay men on your blog. Perhaps I should dig. What I see is a bloke in England, oh bother, I did it again, Wales, nay northern Wales living a life.

    I am impressed that your village has a blog.

    As for Crowe, he is not my normal type, but there is a wickedness about him that is appealing. Oh dear, I think I have made your blog more homosexual by saying that.

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    1. Going gently isn't a village blog Andrew but the history blog I write
      ( click on the photo of auntie glad in my sidebar to see it) could be described as such

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  17. Most of my best friends are old poofs. They make my life more fun and more interesting.

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  18. Hmmm....I find your blog one of the best written I follow. I'm adoring the stories of the animals, your village and neighbors...whether you wear the pajama tops of bottoms has no influence on me...Love you just the way you are Bridgett!

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  19. I was lucky enough to grow up with a pair of "uncles" (Paul and Tom) and a pair of "Aunts" (Bev and Janice) in the 80's who were friends of my Mum's and dear to me beyond description. Homophobia has always baffled me....love just IS.

    I think it was a well meaning description just somewhat misguided. It sounds like most everyone in your village is quite fond of you!

    Love ya big guy!

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    1. I really like that comment: "love just IS"!

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    2. Linda, spinners and mom xx

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  20. Perhaps they were trying to steer anyone away who might make a nasty comment on your blog....there are some nasty folks out there still. That's what the 'delete' button is for. At any rate....you got some more blog action and more lucky people will get to read your stories of life with your critters and life in the village and life with your friends and family.

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    1. that is exactly what I thought, too!

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  21. I think they were talking of the gay ducks.......

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  22. I'm another who is puzzled by the need to mention homophobia when drawing attention to your blog. I can't remember how I got here sometime last year, but I'm glad that I did; dog pooh pockets, crappy night shifts, scotch eggs, animals, lack of loo roll, funerals and all. I love the fact that I never know what's going to be here when I come to read - will there be tears of laughter or tears at an achingly sensitive post? I'll get in the queue for Mr Crowe as the rather gorgeous Maximus shall I ?

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    1. Well said Miss Scarlet. In the year or so I have been following you, John, I have learned so much. I now have a well stocked supply of toilet paper and bleach and am currently looking for a reliable source of Scotch Eggs in Michigan. I know that whatever you post will be either funny, insightful, educational or heartwarming.

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  23. You're gay???????????
    Jane xxx

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    1. Fraid so........last tie I looked

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  24. It's a very straight world here where I now live and, having worked in the theatre for ten years and photography for seven, I desperately miss a world less so. Homophobia is something I discover in people I thought didn't suffer from it quite often when they come out with a stray comment that leaves me reeling and wondering what I ever saw in them. Reading you is a joy and reminds me particularly of a dear friend now in Hawaii. x

    PS - was there meant to be an attachment in your last email? Of so, it wasn't there!

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    1. Egg in the post tomorrow x

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  25. it is so 1980's! unfortunately, there seem to be a lot of people stuck in that period!

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  26. I would like to rip your blog out of my screen and chase a few homophobes around with it. Also, any poultryphobes. Some people just don't understand the wonder that is Chicken.

    I love when you describe yourself as an old poof. It's so disarming. Which makes me realize I've developed a true fondness for you, you dirty Welshman! (I mean that in the most literal sense, of course.)

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    1. Dirty old Welshman?
      Have you been emailing Chris again?x

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  27. You're gay????

    I visit because your heart is in the right place and you make me laugh.

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  28. Good for you, John the dogs!

    From one of your fellow homos...

    plufrompdx
    plu = people like us = gay

    :-)

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  29. Like Gail said, "I visit because your heart is in the right place and you make me laugh." That, plus your obsession with Scotch eggs and 'hey-ho'.

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  30. I've thoroughly enjoyed reading not only your blog, John, but also the comments this post generated. Yep. We're certainly a mixed world out there, but so far there is room for everyone.

    Nancy in Iowa

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  31. Anyway. You're in Wales. Perhaps he meant HYDROphobic....

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  32. I just came to read about the dogs, chickens and scotch eggs !
    Your header cracks me up up everyday.

    cheers, parsnip

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    1. And I thought it was just me!

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    2. Me, too, parsnip!

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  33. John, I don't care who you love or how you do it.

    You make me smile at my computer screen and wish I could go to coffee with you to snark on the new nurses with their skin tight scrubs and manicured hands. We could bitch about the lousy food on offer (the only Scotch Eggs available are when I bring them to pot lucks, and I have converted our head of department to my slave boy when I bring them)

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  34. You have earned every reader. I've learned a lot from your blog.
    Hope you all have a wonderful weekend, John. ♥

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  35. Homophobe sounds like a really old bad stereo sound system setting...

    is that what it is? ;p xxx

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  36. Jane and Chris beat me to it!

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  37. I love the comments as much as I love your blog posts! xxxx

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  38. Hopefully your 'local phobes' will lose their fear of 'us' John and move forward more enlightened.

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  39. I love you and your blog, because I love you and your blog.

    xxx

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  40. You and I....well, we both like men, so I feel we have that in common. lol This comment from the chick with the "two-arsed cow". LOVE your blog! Keep it going strong!

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  41. Oh stop being so sensitive and poofy I just want to stare at RUSSELL CROWE.

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  42. All the above and so pleased to read that you are taking the bulldog.

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  43. Love your blog and zombie loving!

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  44. Sadly, yes, there are those people still around who find another's sexual orientation unsettling.

    I love your blog and enjoy reading the comments, too. The only time i care about someone's sexual orientation is if i want to have sex with them, and as i'm married...well, that would be a bit of a sticky wicket.

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  45. "Not for the Alektorophobic. This man is seriously funny and entertaining, he lives in Trelawnyd."

    I just found your blog, googling "Boodle-Bumtrinket". It's charming and funny. :)

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  46. Honey, I don't care if you're gay, straight or collect toby jugs. Your blog is funny, touching and thought provoking - love it xxx

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