Last week I bumped into someone from the village that I have always been friendly with.
They were tearful and upset, and talked at length about facing a dreadful time in their life, a change that they were obviously struggling with psychologically and emotionally.
Of course the only real thing that anyone can do to help at times like these is to listen.
Tea, a little sympathy and some non judgemental time can help, there is no rocket science in that one, but I must say, I always find that a small token of some flowers, a few eggs or a card sometimes go a little way in providing a little extra support when life is just that little bit tough.
This morning I caught sight of my village neighbour, and on the spur of the moment I went back home, collected a few home made sausages from the freezer and called in to drop them off.
At first they seemed a little perplexed when I handed them over
then smiled a little when I explained ( and I was remembering the story of Eunice and the Mars Bar when I did so)
"Sausages...they're very good for stress"
"That's a first" they said " feel good sausages eh?"
I know....I know....... I am a "feeder"
ps. note to self.....when looking for an "appropriate" sausage photo on google...DON'T put in the key word as BANGERS
It is the thought, obviously, but having thought it about myself I think I'd prefer sausages to flowers.
ReplyDeleteOh, I thought you were going to tell us about Marianne and the Mars Bar for a moment. Never mind, it was still a good story.
ReplyDeleteSuch a thoughtful "caregiver" you are, John. I would love you around should I be down, out & sick.
ReplyDeleteI'd take a sausage anyday, given the choice ;)
ReplyDeleteYou're a kind soul " John the Dogs "
~Jo
You're an old softie; aren't you!
ReplyDeleteAnd that's why everyone loves you.
ReplyDeleteIt could have been anything, the fact that you cared enough to do it is what helps.
ReplyDeleteThe perplexity probably stemmed from their puzzlement about what to do with the sausages as rumours are rife in the village about your debauched sausage parties!
ReplyDeleteBut you're right - words are cheap - a gift is physical - you can look at it and feel the unspoken kindness.
I wonder if Hallmark is on to this...
ReplyDeleteTom ,that's just what I was thinking!!
ReplyDeleteJane x
Sausages are much nicer than flowers any day.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet thing to do!
ReplyDeleteAw, sentimental sausages. What a lovely (if not slightly comical) gesture.
ReplyDeleteI asked my Husband if he had heard of a feel-good sausage..he just leered and said something RUDE.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet fellow you are!
ReplyDeleteI posted this not to suggest that I am an angel with wings the size of a Jumbo jet... I thought it was more an interesting subject that outlines how I really view food.
ReplyDeleteFood, I know is one way I communicate care... I feed to make things better....or to please... whether it be myself or with others...
(hence the diet!!!)
that plate of bangers and mash looks like all those drawings of "slurp now for a feed" from the beano and dandy days!!
ReplyDeleteBut aren't bangers also good for stress?
ReplyDeleteYou are so right John. Food makes anyone feel better. And isn't it amazing how it makes us feel better also. I'm also a feeder.
ReplyDeleteloving gestures John, we all need them, no matter the shape or form.
ReplyDeleteI believe a homemade or grown gift of any sorts, sure does bring joy to others :0)
ReplyDeleteAnd a huge lift to ones own spirits !
Sausage beats Mars Bars any day.
ReplyDeleteHere at EM we have a family saying adopted from the motto of the famous Scottish comedian Jimmy Logan: "Sausages are the boys!"
ReplyDeleteWe love 'em and I wish you were my neighbour.
What a coincidence. I was given sossies yesterday. Real, farm-made ones. I thought of you. We ate them last night. I was even going to blog about them.
ReplyDeleteWe Yanks get super-amused over bangers. We're all 11.
ReplyDeleteBetter a feeder than a breeder!! lol
ReplyDeleteamen James
ReplyDeleteIce blocks can be 'feel good' to a depressed eskimo if accompanied by the right empathetic support!
ReplyDeleteFood comforts as does a good ear. Have a wonderful week, John. ♥
ReplyDeleteHmemade food comes from the heart. Always a comfort.
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