Passing It On



It's going to be another fine day again today,  I was up extra early and have cleaned out the pig enclosure for an hour and a half before it became too hot. I am full of a cold today, so am not going  to my brother's house. The risk of giving him a virus is just too high.........It feels weird but I feel guilty.....it is as though I am bunking off from work a little by not going spending the day with him.....

Yesterday I set up Chris' new auction buy into one of the sitting room cupboards, and today I moved some of the extra "flotsam" into the other cupboard,some  items that I have not properly looked at for perhaps  a decade.
It's funny, but we all collect a plethora of things over the years.....each item has a memory, a place in our shared past.....each item having no relevance to anyone but us,

Two tiny delicate glasses with finely etched lobsters and fish all round them bought from a Japanese store on 5th Avenue on one of our first holidays to New York;
.....an old wooden box full of photographs;
.....a set of 1930 champagne glasses, a Christmas present from my sister; 
.....three copies of "Virtue's Household Physician";
.....an art deco lady, bought from a Chester art sale
.....a carlton ware lobster bowl full of dried hydrangea flowers from the garden of our last house
.....a soapstone cockerel...a present from Chris' China trip....

I could go on....

When we are dead and gone, these trinkets will be dispersed to the four winds...some will become the new memories of strangers, others will be thrown away, unloved and uncared for....
We never really "own " something do we?

We just care for it for a while................

31 comments:

  1. Oh golly, I really relate to this collecting business. I'm just preparing a market stall based on clearing out such things. But your dried hydrangeas feel the most poignant and personal - something that can never be replaced, and probably don't look so great to anyone else any more, but very evocative for you.

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  2. The psychology surrounding the human habit of gathering seemingly useless "things" to occupy our homes is surely complex. They are like memory markers, symbols that somehow anchor us to the world, demonstrating that we have lived. A few years ago I had the onerous task of clearing out old Doris and Ken's house - up the street. All around were these objects that meant so much to them but to me or anyone else they were mostly meaningless and ended up at Eadon Lockwood and Riddle's auction rooms. Where they are now, I of course have no idea.

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  3. My sentiments exactly although I do think you could pass on two of those physician booklets! So many of the things I 'own' have memories that will die with me - I did a post on it a while back and decided it doesn't really matter all that much. Your shelves look fantastically tidy I must say. Presumably the pig pen does too - although they are not too good at keeping it that way are they?
    Could I testatively ask - are those pigs pets or are they destined for that great roasting oven in the sky eventually?

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  4. Great way to look at things John, goes for all those folk who 'own' pieces of the earth I guess....

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  5. I was only thinking the other day what will happen to some of my 'stuff' when I'm gone. I have loads of teddy bears, mostly bought by my dad(long story but I got one a year till he died), and most of them are a bit battered and threadbare now. But I still love them. No-one else would care for them the way I do.

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  6. I adore that lady!!!

    Yes, we have a life time of collections, collections of our parents, collections of theirs.

    I am on a mission to simplify...I am keeping the memories and thinning the items.

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  7. I'm the type that takes good care of all my things, new and old alike. I often think that someone will look at something that I got in 1984 as a nice vintage or antique piece. Regardless, it's mine and I will charish the memories that it holds as long as I can.

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  8. Anonymous11:26 am

    Seems in my house that most of the bric a brac belonged to my parents or my grandparents or even further back...I have a daughter and granchildren to pass things down to but there is no guarantee in life that they will want to give it houseroom. It is just staying with me for the duration and then it will all be off on new adventures. Me too. I like that pitcher top left.

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  9. if you are planning on moving along any time soon can I take care of the art deco lady please ? x

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  11. We are nowt but temporary custodians. And that's how it SHOULD be.

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  12. Oh the impermanence of everything! Yes, we aren't too different from the 'objets d'art'.....nothing but a memory if we are lucky!
    That deco lady looks like one I saw in PEI at a shop......would have matched nicely.

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  14. I love YP's take on it 'symbols that anchor us to the world'. When Terry and I married and moved to AZ, 2 households had to merge and then reduce drastically. My PT cruiser had to carry clothes, everything I needed for 2 months, 2 cats, and in the remaining space my 'stuff'. It was surprising what made the trip, the 'necessary' I was willing to leave behind in order to bring something I simply wanted to bring and how happy I was when the truck was unloaded 2 months later.
    btw-I loved getting a sneak peek into your cupboard

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  15. Very true, John.

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  16. You make me think of George Carlin's bit on "stuff" lol.

    Even though I think about it a lot, I still can't help getting attached to "things". A friend of mine throws out absolutely everything she doesn't need, while I tend to keep mine because of memories.

    And I think everyone on the planet must have a cold right now. I'm just getting over mine.

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  17. Deep thoughts, if a little maudlin.

    I suspect this is why the Pharoahs, ancient Brits etc had all their possessions buried with them. It wasn't to enjoy them in the afterlife, but because their relatives didn't have e-Bay.

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  18. Stuff - a very complicated subject. My rule is - I will only dust it if I love it. Makes deciding what and what not to buy easy.

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  19. Can't comment, still laughing at Shooting Parrots comment.
    Jane x

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  20. I think most people are collectors of memories. There are those silly things that are so hard to part with. I am trying to give away some things now though, so my children will not have a big burden when I leave this earth.

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  21. John, it looks beautiful!

    Farmer

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  22. That's the reason I have such a hard time cleaning out all of the odds and ends that have accumulated in this house over three generations. It all means something to me, and I don't want it to become just stuff to someone else. But, I'm trying very hard to wean myself from that way of thinking.

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  23. You'd better get those champagne glasses out next time Janet visits!

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  24. I felt for a long time that I had to have these things in order to have the memories--While I love having both, I find I have more room for the memory.

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  25. We never really own things, but if we find ourselves custodian of things which others desire, then we sure as hell are give reasons why THEY should own them.

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  26. John, your cupboard looks amazingly tidy. I think YP has put it all in a nutshell. I can't imagine anybody wanting my possessions either. Hope your cold is better soon

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  27. Most "things" are either useful or just for memories and associations.
    When my mum died I clung desperately to all sorts of stuff that connected me to her for years. Gradually, as the pain of losing her subsides, they mean less and I see them for what they are - a few ornaments and bits and pieces that I don't really need or want any more, so I have let them go. But there are still the odd few items that I can't bear to part with, the memories attached to them are still too strong.

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  28. I tend to hold on to 'stuff'.
    When you cross an ocean with mostly memories, those boxes of family bits and pieces are your lifeline to your past, your beginnings...
    Just yesterday my brother sent me a picture of my dad in infant school, barely six years old, and making all of his little friends laugh by his antics. Another priceless treasure, means naught to anyone else but means the world to me.
    I love all of your bits, they made me smile :)
    ~Jo

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  29. When i moved into the place i am now, i did purge a lot of stuff while i was packing things. Some i wanted to keep as momentoes given to me by loved ones who have since died. But it was interesting to see how i was ready to let go of a lot of it. I carry these people in my heart, i didn't need loads of reminders from them; a token or two was enough.

    megan

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  30. Love your punch line. Everything is temporary!
    Hugs
    Jon

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  31. Anonymous6:10 am

    How beautiful.

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