Old Photos

I have not done alot to blog about today. I've disinfected the goose house out, I've piled high the kitchen table with paperwork that needs sorting through and I've been to a cheap showing of Midnight Special .oh , and I called in to check on Auntie Glad with a waitrose Cherry cake but didn't stay long as she was baking.
I also unloaded the car of some framed family photos, which was given to me by my sister in law. She has downsized since my brother's death back in 2011 and she thought I may like some of my side of the family photos. " There's a nice one of you and Janet ( my twin sister) in the collection" she noted.
I sorted through the photos on the kitchen table and found the photo she was referring to. It was taken in 1973

I hate this photo.

I remember it being taken very well indeed for it was taken by the local newspaper's photographer on The evening of November 5th, Bonfire Night.
My sister and I look both look cold. We were and it was and I must say I look rather pissed off.
I was very pissed off as I recall....I was livid.
As you can see my father is wearing his chain of office.He was chairman of the Borough council at the time, and as I recall, my sister and I had been trundled out to be photographed on one of his civic do's.
Even at the age of  eleven this " cosy family publicity shot" really stuck in my craw.

Peace Reigns

Finally the cottage is still, a snapshot post for The Prof x

William asleep under a cushion

The women of the cottage Mary and Winnie ( both in season)

Fast asleep!

Albert

Old George missing daddy Prof

Snapshots

A rare treat....I've just had breakfast in bed.
I think it's a thank you for me agreeing to take him to the airport today!
The Prof will chatter to himself from waking
Here's a snapshot of of the Prof's one sided conversations which fill the cottage on mornings like these .
( Remember I do not generally speak before 10 am)
" The eggs are broken..someone ( namely me) has been over scraping the pan's bottom AGAIN!"
" YOU'RE GOING BACK!" ( a regular comment bellowed at the naughty Mary)
" WHAT DO YOU WANT?" ( a regular comment bellowed at Winnie when she offers him one of her deadpan expressions
" THIS PLACE IS A MIDDEN " 
" I HAVE TOO MUCH TO DO!!!!!!!!!"
and the best in this morning's bunch......

" I 've TOLD YOU BEFORE....... DON'T LEAVE THE SUGERLUMPS BOWL  ON THE TABLE! ALBERT FARTS ON IT!" 

The Prof looks worried....I'm driving him to the airport!!

The Cloister Garden

Some places are spoilt by the presence of people.

I thought this profound thought today when we walked into the cloister Garden of Chester Cathedral this afternoon. 

The small square pond, the arching sculpture with the magnolia tree behind, the ancient leaded windows.....all spoilt by the thunderous woman with the baby filled double buggy and a couple of old queens loudly eating their sandwiches on the only bench. 

Tis a pity, 

The cathedral would have felt so much more serene without the people

X Rated

I bumped into affable despot Jason this afternoon.
This is a rare event for Jason is a self proclaimed hibernator who really only shows his face during the warm, sunny days of Spring and summer.
He looked well with his Cary Grant smile and floppy hair.
He's the nearest thing Trelawnyd has to a pin up.
Jason told me that at school daughter Eve's teacher had been discussing " blogs"
Eve apparently chirped up that her "friend" John wrote a blog about the village and suggested that the teacher looked for Going Gently on her laptop.
The teacher coughed uncomfortably and told the children that they would perhaps skip over this particular example of on line blogging as she had already looked at Going Gently ( presumably over a custard cream at break time)
" There's a bit too much swearing in it" she explained.

Winnie The Heroine

I dare you to watch this video of Mary abusing Winnie

And not have admiration for the never ending capacity of bulldogs to cope with

Adversity! 

Emotionally Moved

What have you been moved by recently?

What has made your bottom lip wobble or the hairs on the back of your neck stand up to attention?

I can think of three things....all different......non linked......and in their own way...quite amazing.

The first was a moment in the Ballet Giselle. 

We had gone to see the live cinematic showing of the Royal Ballet's latest production and as the " wilis " appeared ( the willis are ghosts of women spurned by their suitors) I was literlly blown away by the scalpel-like precision of the corps de ballet.
The 24 dancers looked quite simply........stunning....as they weaved eerily past each other, veiled and silent....it has been a long long time since I have seen something so beautiful.

The second thing was a seemingly "off the cuff" comment ; a confession and surprise sharing of something quite dreadful that, at the time, seemed to come so out of left field, the sentence was left hanging.
The time was not quite right to explore the subject of childhood abuse, but the matter-of-fact description stayed with me long after I had heard it, and it moved me more by it's casualness of delivery rather than the subject matter
I know I am being careful and vague in my description of this situation and of course there is a reason for that but I need to share that the whole thing bothered me so much, bcause I felt I had handled the situation rather badly.
Thank goodness for the buffer that is social media, for it allowed me to contact the person involved to say what I should and needed to have said at the time.

The final moment was a tiny moment of " still" in the maelstrom of cottage life.
It was at animal mealtime, which can be a bunfight at the best of times . Albert, Winnie, Mary and George are all food led creatures who all get rather excited at the sight of food bowl on table.
The subsequent hysteria of paws on floor and begging yaps can turn a calm Nun to drink, so the peace as stomachs are filling can sound quite .....quite..wonderful.
It was during this lull, that I went to find William with his own allergy free food in hand.
William is and always has been, a gentle dog when food is concerned. He never begs and never gets excited when tidbits abound.
I found him sitting quietly alone in bed and he suddenly looked every inch of his ten years. His left eye is now increasingly milky and opaque and has lost it's deep hazel colour it once had, his fox red coat now looks a little dull and faded and I've noted recently that he sleeps longer than he plays.
He suddenly looked very old indeed and that upset me
I sat down with him and removed some hidden shop bought chicken out of my pocket which perked him up somewhat and in the peace and quiet of a cottage filled with fat bellies , I slowly hand fed an old dog his dinner .

Going Gently Ten Years On

Going Gently has been going ten years.
For a decade now I have sat down for half an hour a day ( with my trusty American coffee cup) and have put down my thoughts, my news my ideas in a diary that has seen me through an existance that had changed drastically from work and life in an inner city Northern City.
Ten years ago the Prof was a Doctor. Finlay and Maddie were the cottage dogs and old Joan, who was going on twenty was the toothless household cat with some attitude.

I've been reading those old blogs today as I sat on the loo.
They were often brief, slightly boring and more factual blogs than today's more flowery versions of village life. But of course they would be...for I didn't really know anyone then.
I had my one and only follower in 2006 ( The Welsh Terrier Lover Cassie) and a daily blog readership of 100 pageviews yet, the daily ritual of putting my thoughts down on an internet 'safe place' became as important a job as going to work, feeding the dogs or hoovering up the cat hairs.

Going Gently has chronicled a pretty mundane and normal life. The little ups and downs, the petty gripes and the little victories just how I see them, could be anyone's story, for we all have our own loved ones that spark off the imagination like characters such as The Prof  ( with his particular Roger Moore eyebrow) or Auntie Glad.......a grand old dame that I met a decade ago when she was only 86!
Going Gently has taught me to think about things just a little, to describe the mundane and pick out the interesting.
It has become as important to me as breathing.

So thank you, my friends for reading .And thank you for your support over the years......I re read my sadder blogs this morning. The blogs such as Andrew, My Co Pilot, The Last Mabel Post and Chasing Cars and the messages of support in the comment boxes still make me feel lifted and indeed valued.
Only other bloggers will understand this.

A decade of Going Gently !

Hey ho