A snake bites you out of nowhere and instead of immediately trying to suck out the poison, instead of rushing to heal yourself, instead of getting to safety, you chase after the snake.You run after it.
You are trying to find out why it bit you!
You want to tell it that you didn’t deserve that!
You want an apology.
You want an explanation, instead of thinking My God , I’ve been bitten. I’ve been poisoned, I need to fix this right away or it’s going to kill me
Right now you are staring at this snake thinking Seriously , why would you do this to me? I didn’t deserve that !
You are arguing with a snake!
Like the snake suddenly owes you honesty.
Like it owes you closure!
While its venom is spreading through your body with every second you waste. That’s exactly what we do with people that hurt us.
We chase explanations instead of just accepting that the bite has already happened and we have to save ourselves first. We think if we can just understand the why the pain will somehow hurt less, that if we can get them to explain themselves, we will feel better about it . But the truth is, knowing the reason doesn’t remove the venom from your body.
It never has.
Some snakes bite because that is what snakes do. Not because you deserved it , not because you caused it, not because you could have stopped it if you had been a better version of yourself.
Healing begins when you stop chasing the snake.
You don’t need an explaination to heal.
You need acceptance.
You need distance,
And you need the strength to walk away.
Before the poison finishes what it started.
And some people are just venomous.
ReplyDeleteI get what you are saying but you have to know why in order to prevent it from happening again even if it simply means staying out of range. Other reasons may be easy to remedy. It won't erase the past but can prevent future pain.
ReplyDeleteI am sure we all have had a ‘friend’ like the snake you describe, hard as it was to accept the situation I did walk away and accepted that it really was not my fault, took a while to feel comfortable but hey- ho. Jan in Castle Gresley
ReplyDeleteSorry luv we don't do it like that down under.. Kill the bastard stone dead if you can or tend to the bite immediately...no talking !
ReplyDeleteIntriguing metaphor but I think there is a lot more to this story.
ReplyDeleteI think i've heard this somewhere before or something like it.. I can so relate to this behavior especially in my younger days... I'm a little wiser now or so i believe.. I haven't been tested like this in a long while.. how desperately you can NEED to know the why... HUGS for whatever is going on with you.. deb
ReplyDeleteI hope this post was because of your counselling and not because someone has "bitten" you. Anyway, I think it's good advice. We can't stop the bite, but we can mitigate the damage it does. xx
ReplyDeleteYou've got it. Very wise. -Kate
ReplyDeleteYou forgot to mention that sometimes people will chase after the snake because of what it's attached to; poison comes in so many forms.
ReplyDeleteThanks for that. Given me some ideas to ponder.
ReplyDeleteBonnie in Minneapolis
100%
ReplyDeleteBrilliant! Taking this to heart, thank you.
ReplyDeleteYou know what else I don't think we need to do?
ReplyDeleteForgive. Not in some cases. I just don't.
So very true. Kindness is the cure and it's free!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
That's a great way of looking at it! I've always related to 'let go or be dragged' but this is also very helpful. Thanks.
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