I haven’t done nursing day shifts for months, tomorrow and Friday I’ve got two twelve hour shifts . It will be nice to sleep at night, rather than grab a few hours during the day . Today I was counselling and was looking forward to war of the worlds at Theatre Clwyd tonight, but the production had been cancelled due to a flood. When I got there visitors and staff including the chefs and waiting on staff at Bryn Williams were marooned outside.
Disappointed I drove home.
Some days turn out to be washouts…..I listened to The Archers on the way home and met the new characters of lottie ( who is bound to be dating Chris Carter yawn) and the dreadful Bert Horrobin ( who has morphed into an old pirate. Carol Tregoran has also morphed into an old witch with actress Eleanor Bron leaving the role back in 2018 which is interesting
I could write better characters
I’m in a funny mood today
I’ve signed up for a simple cremations send off with a very nice sales lady called Gupta this afternoon
Mz Gupta was direct and sweet and when I told her I lived alone with 2 cats and 2 dogs she quipped strangely “ animals are so much nicer than people as long as you feed them “
It’s been odd planning things after my death
Some days, everything seems to be off kilter from the word go. Sorting your cremation, although highly commendable, isn't a bundle of laughs, either. Still, you can put that to the back of your mind now, and just enjoy life! I hope the day shifts aren't too arduous (12 hours!!!!) and you get to Theatre Clwyd very soon. xx
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DeleteHey I’m on my first 🍸
ReplyDeleteLee xxx
DeleteWishing you well on those day shifts and hope all is dried out so you can see War of the Worlds soon.
ReplyDeleteWe've gotten the forms to leave our bodies to the local medical school. They state a year or so after death our cremated remains will be returned to the family. It makes for odd thoughts, doesn't it?
Hugs!
I knew someone who did that. The Medical school asked if he wanted to include a note with the cremains, he did. The remains were to sent to his ex-wife and the note read, "you said you would get it all in the end, this, this is all that is left."
DeleteI prefer day shifts but it's hard work when you're working on a floor. I got lucky with diagnostic imaging which was only days.
ReplyDeleteDeath preparation seems like a smart idea. I think I'll look into that as well. I can't imagine my husband having a fucking clue of what to do if I died before him:)
I made my own preplanned arrangements a couple of years ago and yes, it does feel weird. Simple cremation for me too, followed by scattering in a nearby municipal cemetery. I had to go and get the scattering permit myself from the City in advance, to be placed on my preplanned file. Bit awkward when they asked for date of death, lol. And now, of course, every time I drive by the cemetery in question, you know what runs through my mind!
ReplyDeleteI could have saved you a load of money on your cremation John. After a two hour drive over from Sheffield, I would have built the funeral pyre in the churchyard across the road using unwanted wooden palettes. I guess I might have also required some lighter fuel or chip fat to get you going.
ReplyDeleteMy father is a hundred. He prepaid for his funeral about 50 yrs ago. He is immensely proud of how little he paid in relation to today's costs. So proud, he mentions it on every visit, phone call etc. I'm surprised he didn't announce it in his 100th birthday party speech. I asked him if he had prepaid for the family booze up afterwards but unfortunately not.
ReplyDeleteI love this! haha. Good for your dad! And 100 years old is amazing!
DeleteSusan, your father sounds like a character! But I have to admit that I would be just as chuffed!
DeleteWe recently finalized burial plans and sought out an attorney to create a trust for all of our assets. It was a good feeling to get all of that done. I am 68 and my husband is 70.
ReplyDeleteSometimes John when you say you drove somewhere I wonder how many miles it is from your home to your destination. If you ever think of mentioning that detail, I'm interested. -Kate
ReplyDeleteOut here we tend to describe distances by the time they take rather than the # of miles ( or kms). -Kate
ReplyDeleteWe are being so bombarded with ad's for cremations, that I did even consider it myself.
ReplyDeleteA stage version of War of the Worlds? Sounds intriguing.
ReplyDeleteAnd I’m off today to pick up the cats’ ashes in their expensive urn.
ReplyDeletePlanning ahead for your death and wishes, and whom will take care of your animals, is such a gift to your loved one(s) who will be tasked with it. My Hubs works for a funeral home, and has witnessed the extreme sadness first hand, made worse by not knowing what their loved one wanted, or even worse, not having access to the money to make it happen.
ReplyDeleteI will be 85 tomorrow and the only planning I have done is to tell my daughters to call the funeral home and have them look up what I did for my husband and do the same for me.. Maybe I should just go pay for it in advance the way prices are going. Hope your two Days go well, John. Gigi
ReplyDelete"As long as you feed them" -- ha! Yes, that would be a good idea.
ReplyDeleteThat really gave me a good laugh too. My daughter once had to have a ton of blood work drawn and before the technician started she gave my daughter a long sorrowful look, then shook her head and said, "There but for the grace of God go I."
DeleteSo much easier for loved ones after we die if we arrange our own funeral. Everything is sorted there are no worries for others of would this be what ? wanted am I doing the right thing.
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When you say it's to be a "simple" cremation is that a "direct cremation"?
ReplyDeleteA direct cremation is when there are no viewings of the body and no service. The body goes to the funeral home then to the crematorium on a day of their choosing. No relatives or friends are allowed to be there. A relative can be asked to be notified of when the deed has been done.
A relative of mine had a direct cremation a few months ago, the body was removed from the nursing home to the funeral home (no post mortem needed) then we were phoned a few days later to say it had been done. No ashes were returned as that was his wishes.
It was all as he requested, he led a simple and quiet life, his death was peaceful and his remains were disposed of as he requested. No wake but as he requested we raised a cup of tea (his favourite drink) to his memory when we took a pause between jobs on the farm that he'd loved so much.
I told the wife to put me out with the bins when I shuffle off.
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