How time flies
Last night I watched Notting Hill a film that reminds me of an unhealthy relationship I was once in… having said this and film’s portrayal of what could be seen as an ultimately decent relationship between Anna Scott( Julia Roberts) and William Thacker ( Hugh Grant) gave me that “ arh ha!” Therapy moment I was writing about yesterday.
I went with my boyfriend to see the movie on a Friday afternoon, after which he disappeared to his second home in the Lake District, something he’d do regularly and always without me. I realised after that that I was making do with the crumbs of the relationship and that was “ok” because I didn’t deserve anything more or better.
Crazy to think that now, but back then I did , only to realise by the final credits of the movie I was worth more than that.
I broke up with him soon after.
It's a stormy day here, too, with the wind blowing a hoolie and the temperature dropping that might even bring snow this afternoon.
ReplyDeleteIt's always good when it is noticed that all someone is leaving you is crumbs because each of us always deserves the whole enchilada. Always!
Stay cozy!
Hugs!
Windy, wet and cold here, too. Let's hope this is the last for a long while!
ReplyDeleteRealising that you're the one putting all the effort into a relationship, with little or no input from the other person, is a real light bulb moment. Some people seem to be content to let things continue - any affection is better than none, but for most, there's got to be some equality. Give and take, not just one giving and the other taking. Everyone deserves that respect. xx
Counseling makes you very introspective, doesn't it. What applies to clients may also resound to oneself. I love a good storm if I feel safe and warm. No storm here, just gale winds and bleak drippy grey. We had two days of what in NY is called False Spring...snow later today.
ReplyDeleteI hope you continue to enjoy your winter break.
The power of movies!
ReplyDeleteI love Rhys Ifans in that movie, and Hugh of course. But Rhys stole the scenes with his t-shirts. Crumbs don't feed us, so good you broke up with him.
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