York a thought from 2009


Written winter 2009


“I qualified as a RMN (Registered Psychiatric Nurse) in 1986. None of our group of 8 students planned to staff in our training hospital in Chester, so it seemed perfectly reasonable to move to a city with similar sensibilities!.I was lucky to get a job in York, I had no idea of what to expect, or indeed what my role would be, I just went for the interview as all the others did and got the job! My placement was at the prestigious Bootham Park Hospital (below), which was the showcase for the Health authority at the time. The hospital was small, comprising of only 6 wards as I recall, and I secured a job on ward 1 which was an acute admission ward for around 18 general patients and up to 6 mother and babies.
I was given fairly basic accommodation at the nurses residence at Clifton Hospital which was the old asylum two miles away.I was 24, but a young and gauche 24, so a new job in a new city,was pretty tough for me at first....but on reflection I had a blast of a time!
My allocation to the nurses home gave me contact with a huge group of new starters! 20 or so student nurses, all nervous of the challenges ahead provided me with a ready made group of friends and that coupled with a young and bright set of work colleagues which were also "on tap", meant that the 2 years I was a staff nurse was one big social experience!.


In York I had a steady stream of girlfriends (Gay realisation was sadly yet to dawn!!!), an introduction to other cultures and races (which never happened in Wales or indeed the very conservative Chester) and intellectual stimulation by open minded bright people. It was also where I started my Love affair with Yorkshire and the straight talking Yorkshire people, with their wonderful flat, warm way of talking and deadpan sense of humour.
On reflection I loved my time there and I learnt so much. Professionally, the ward was run sympathetically and with great thought. The ward manager (an obese jolly ex community nurse--who incidentally had been run over by her own car months before I started and therefore was transferred to the inpatient facility!) had, as I recall a big heart and a knack of developing her staff with time and care,On reflection I blossomed under her guidance.
I also teamed up with another staff nurse called Tracy Birkin ( I am on a memory roll now!!! ) who provided me with big sister-ish support. Fearless and insightful, she became my professional hero, and with a personality as big as a bus, helped me develop from shy Welsh geek into a more sociable more rounded friend. (she was also famous at being able to run 1000 yards in high heels to catch any absconding patient before they reached the hospital gates!)
So this morning I have had a memory "romp" about the people I used to know in that faraway part of my life....I wonder where they are now....Tracey married and moved to Goole I think, but the others such as Linda Mapplebeck, Cathy Audin (who looked like Dennis the menace) Sue Kirton, Mandy Moore, Jim Cooper, David Griffith, Pete Curry, Barry Ford,Boy next door-Martin Kirby ( who, on reflection I secretly fancied ) have all disappeared from view when I moved to Sheffield to start life in "spinal injuries "....
Two friends I do keep in touch with, Cheryl and Gill still write occasionally in Christmas cards and in brief e mails......I am not sad......on reflection........like I said.,......York was a blast!”

Today’s thought

And it’s interesting that I am now returning to York to catch up with the aforementioned
Tracy. Indeed several of the people I’ve mentioned have returned to my world in some way or another, like so many people do when you need them .

Hey ho

26 comments:

  1. It sounds like a perfect place to start a long career and build a life.

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  2. Anonymous12:01 pm

    It must be a day of reflection as I have just been looking up about when old Aunt Agnes was born. I remember meeting her when I was young and she lived till the age of 96 she was born in the 1850’s She was born in what was called Upper Canada. You have a great time in York, it will do you good. Gigi

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  3. My, you've come a long way from that inexperienced, gauche young man! How lovely that you've re-connected with some of those who were instrumental in shaping your life and career. Will a few hours be enough to catch up with them? I doubt it, but now you've found each other, I'm sure other catch-ups will be on the cards! xx

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  4. Speaking as a Yorkshirewoman, thank you for the tribute! I live far away now, in NJ, another plain spoken place, I fit right in!
    My grandfather came from Appleton Roebuck, and I grew up on the North York moors now a national park, and Teesside, before leaving forever in search of new adventures.

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  5. We don't realise what we've learnt and from whom until much later in life.

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  6. I believe we bond best with those we share the sometimes most difficult and important experiences.

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  7. I always think that it's lovely when old friends suddenly come back into our lives. Sometimes you can quite literally just pick up the pieces of that friendship as though no time has passed at all.

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  8. Barbara Anne2:43 pm

    What a lovely post, John! I, too, keep in touch with several friends from nursing school tho I got married 3 weeks after graduation.
    Hope you and Tracy had/have a blast together in York!
    Another one for you book sans last names, of course.
    Oh, and did you intend to post a photo of Bootham Park Hospital?

    Hugs!

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  9. I'm not very bright, I never realized that you were originally from Wales. I always thought you were from Sheffild. We both graduated and started working the same year as well.
    Have a wonderful visit with Tracy.

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  10. It is nice to have wonderful memories to wrap yourself in when necessary. Make some more during your meet up with Tracy.

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  11. I'm meeting up with two nurses I trained and lived with in Norwich.. In 45 years I've met up with one twice and the other once yet when I messaged them on FB to say I would be in the UK a coffee meet up was organized by them in less than half an hour. Something about those early days binds us together doesn't it.

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  12. Anonymous6:22 pm

    John, I hope you are having a fabulous visit. I feel that you are. You have had such a fascinating life! I loved this post! Your memories are so clear with lots of details. Sending a giant hug and lots of ❤️
    Carol in Atlanta

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    1. Funny you said that because after meeting with my friends I realised I’ve totally forgot many many things

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  13. Anonymous8:18 pm

    Tracey ran to catch absconding patients in high heels Didn't nurses have to wear uniforms and flat shoes?

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    1. Anonymous2:26 pm

      Are you sure you worked for a genuine hospital?
      No uniforms and high heels sounds somewhat suspicious! Or more likely made up.

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  14. Yorkshire Liz10:32 pm

    What a lovely post. So many wonderful memories to share. People may leave your life, yet never leave your heart or mind. And then, miraculously, some return. Years have passed, but the friendship picks straight up again from where it left off. Such a blessing. Hope you and Tracy had tge best ever catch up. And you are still smiling because of it.

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  15. Your time at York sounds good. It's so true that we often don't realise until later on what a great or bad times we have experienced in life. I would like to visit York very much.

    The people you spent time with there certainly made what could have been a stressful and lonely time so much better. Glad you enjoyed your meet up.

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    1. There were other characters I was friends with too
      Cheryl, David, Julie, Martin and other friends

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  16. It's a wonderful thing (sometimes) to take a trip down memory lane, and see the good, the fun, the new and the impactful that there was in our lives. Beautifully written, John.

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  17. It's nice to touch base with old friends and acquaintances and share fun memories.

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    1. I regret my absence but understand it , as I was married

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  18. Your reminiscing about those special people in your life reminds me of Fred Rogers' very brief and beautiful acceptance speech for his Lifetime Achievement Award at the Emmys. The heart of it was " So many people have helped me to come to this night. Some of you are here. Some are far away. Some are even in heaven. All of us have special ones who have loved us into being."

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