Wednesday

It’s Wednesday and I’m having a day at home, some of me wants to go out on another little adventure but needs must, and the cottage looks a wreck.
Yesterday I had Pad Thai noodles and went to see a documentary on the National Museum , but although  it was worthy and at times interesting , the seating at the Storyhouse is so comforting and warm, I spent 60% of the film asleep and grunting and snoring .



I have leaflets to deliver for the TCA, and a flower show meeting to organise too, not that too much has to be organised for the show now, since all the judges are in place and the Choir ( my choir) has agreed to sing. 
It’s the 10th anniversary of the Gwaenysgor Community Choir next week and I’ve been invited to a drinks and nibble do to celebrate which is nice .
Friday I’m going to IKEA with a friend and tomorrow after I see my client , I’m having coffee with a fellow trainee counsellor from my course for chats and debrief
It seemed sensible just to stay home today and potter and clean and make lists.
My own counselling carries on a pace.
I’m sort of in tune with my therapist now and she can challenge me with a look rather than a statement.
This video sums up a little what I’ve explored over the last 8 weeks, a good lesson to learn


 Apologies, it’s not an exciting , interesting post today, I don’t feel particularly exciting or interesting

I could sleep all day

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  1. It's good to have a quiet day of pottering every now and again -- enjoy!

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    1. I potted up the patio planters and sorted drawers out

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  2. You’re always interesting.

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    1. Oh bless you, I’ll dull as dishwater sometimes

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    2. Stir up the dishwater and the bubbles sparkle.

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  3. Quiet days are essential. Today I have done lots of washing, tidied a kitchen drawer and dyed my hair. I was having a quiet day too but am tired already now.

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    1. I’ve tidied the kitchen drawers too….

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  4. If you need sleep, then go for it. You lead such a busy life, just reading about it exhausts me! We all need some down time, to re-charge the batteries. Pottering sounds good to me. xx

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    1. I’m booked in for a blood mot next week , this lethargy is a bit over the top

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    2. Lethargy? You never stop! But you know yourself best and if you feel there's something amiss, best get it checked. Hope it's summat and nothing. xx

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  5. sillygirl1:03 pm

    Your posting today was very worthwhile - and I think it is wonderful to have an ordinary day. Love the video - important to think on.

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    1. I guess I do hurtle around a bit too much sometimes

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  6. Recharging your batteries is a good thing. Good god man, I couldn't keep up with you:)
    Thanks for sharing that tik tok video. It was good for me to hear because I put up with a lot of shit in the name of peace.

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    1. It’s funny how we act and formulate and blame things on ….don’t you think?

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    2. I think I'm afraid to be alone and as a result, put up with a lot of shit that I shouldn't. Perhaps my next task in life is to reconnect with myself and figure out how to be alone.

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  7. I have to say that it makes me sad that you still struggle with your importance post divorce. I do understand the loneliness as you struggle to to find new meaning to your life, value in yourself. I wish that you could step outside yourself to see yourself as others see you: funny. Engaging. Interested and interesting. Part of a community. A part of a group that provides peace to those transitioning at the end of life. Someone with courage enough to step completely outside his comfort zone to take on yet another nurturing role.

    I wish that you could.

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    1. I put the video up to underline the journey….it’s not just about loneliness and i wanted to illustrate that I do knowledge your reflection and understand it
      Thank u x

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    2. Anonymous1:43 pm

      I get this totally John and understand why you post the video which will always serve as a reminder of how far you have come and how wrong you may of interpreted things originally .
      I’ve been here

      Lee

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    3. Anonymous7:19 pm

      I get it too. When I became a widower I lost a whole sense of who I was. I became nothing but a depressed husband/ partner
      I wasn’t the old Keith everyone knew.

      Keith

      Xx

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    4. Lee, , you were on the receiving hand of divorce , so can understand the video first hand . How long since you are your wife split up ?

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    5. Anonymous6:41 pm

      Four years this fall john
      The worst four years of my life

      Lee

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  8. Very interesting video.
    You might need to sleep all day. You have been pushing the limits for awhile now! Do what feels best for you.

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    1. It was eleven before I got up today !!!!

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  9. There is always time for a nap. I am a big believer in the refreshingness of a nap!!

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  10. We love you even on a quiet day. Quiet days are good! Hugs, lizzy

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  11. You are very busy. Maybe a bit of a refresh nap will help ease feeling tired. The nap or coffee? We are all working through something. Welcome!

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  12. Barbara Anne2:51 pm

    Ah, wash a load of laundry, put it out to dry, and take a nap. Your kind neighbors will return any laundry that takes flight.

    I was up early today due to busy brain and it's not quite 11a and I'm at loose ends.

    Hope your plans for tomorrow are a delight!

    Hugs!

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    1. My neighbour brought me a Camembert cheese because it was stinking the house out , I told her to throw it in the churchyard for the crows but she was too shy, so I did it xx

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    2. Jo in Auckland10:02 pm

      "Sacre Bleu; what a travesty!! I would have eaten it. Hope the crows have such good taste. Yummy.

      Hope the lethargy turns out to be nothing but lethargy. Go have a nap in the sun, will do you the world of good!

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  13. For me the video meant that we must be our own best friend. Everyone else comes and goes in life in one way or another, we are our only constant. Best

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  14. Yes - the lady is quite correct x 🤗

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  16. weaver3:49 pm

    Then sleep all day John - you dash about so much a day in bed might do you no end of good. x

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    1. Oh pat you always manage to say the right things xx

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  17. Anonymous3:52 pm

    I enjoyed the TikToc. Thanks for posting it. That food looks yummy! - Jackie

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    1. It was and terribly healthy ….I’d eat it daily

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  18. You'd probably be bored shirtless if you had my life 😉

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  19. *shitless not shirtless. Damn autocorrect.

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  20. A day at home, pottering about and/or napping, can be wonderfully restorative. Be kind & gentle with yourself, John dear.

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    1. I worked out roughly that I’d slept an hour during the movie lol

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  21. You obviously need the sleep! Indulge! (I think I might have slept through that entire movie.)

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    1. I almost did worthy as it was , I think my bloody may be out

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  22. I could have done with hearing that in 1997..... Thankyou.

    It is interesting looking back at separation and divorce and seeing parallels with the loss and feelings with a bereavement...more than some might expect.

    A quiet day indoors, even if you are busy tidying is no bad thing.

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  23. John, you are always interesting to me! Best, Karen

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  24. Anonymous10:00 am

    Thank you for that video, it really spoke to me. It helped. Jan xx

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