Out


Off to bed early .

Rather poignantly Miriam Margolyes in her recent autobiography revealed that she regretted coming out to her mother. On reflection she thought it was unkind.
She celebrates coming out in general, of course, but now thinks it is wrong to do so with people who are “ not equipped to cope with the information “ 
How sad she has carried around with her that guilt for all of these years.

I’m still not feeling 100%
Back to the doctors tomorrow

 

25 comments:

  1. I'm worried about you. Please take gentle care of yourself. Hugs, Elaine

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  2. Take care of yourself. It's certainly a strong bug you've acquired. Hugs. xx

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  3. That went over well, LOL.

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  4. I do hope you feel better soon, or that the doctors take a long, hard look at you! I loved that video - poignant for me today as I'm about to go and have lunch with young friends who were intending to come out to one of their families last evening... because we haven't heard from them,, we're hoping it went smoothly. They're lovely people and would find estrangement difficult.

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  5. Hahahaha, I love "Vicious." I hope that nasty infection clears up soon!

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  6. Hope you feel better tomorrow!
    *hugs*

    XOXO

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  7. I watched the series on tv too-and I think Sir Ian may possibly get over the reaction of his"mother in law"-can I say John could you not phone The NHS helpline for attention x

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  8. Barbara Anne1:13 am

    We'll hope a good night's sleep will fix you, but if not ... methinks your doctor will need to hear from you or perhaps you should go see him/her. Seems to me (from afar) that you should be feeling detectably better by now.

    Comforting hugs!

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  9. Loved Vicious. Worried about you John. Get thee back to a doctor asap please. X

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  10. I thought she was going to ask "In what type of business?".

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  11. Could you consult the doctor again to discuss how you are ? It does seem to be taking a long time, unless it is the severity of the kidney infection or side effects of the antibiotics.

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  12. Yes, get to the doctors..these infections CAN take more courses of ABs to sort them and it can be a job to find the right one to knock it on the head.
    Been there...not good.
    Coming out cannot be easy. It's not a thing on some people's radar.
    Two of my friends, one gay one trans....there was no surprise, and what is important is who they are.
    But others couldn't accept that and were willing to lose friendships over something that didn't personally affect them. Very sad.

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  13. Hey John....please get the right antibiotic for this infection. We are thinking of you; Seren (Welsh terrier) and Cariad (Welsh x boarder)15&13years old respectively and me! Take care of yourself. Bless.

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  14. I just read the Margoyles autobiography. I was sad for her to read how she felt about coming out to her mother. I understand and respect her feelings, but I don’t agree about not coming out to those “not equipped to cope with the information.” I don’t know how one would define that and I think it also allows others to make us feel ashamed.

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    1. Yes , I understood and agree with what she said though

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  15. Great book, I am about half way through it.

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    1. It’s a cracking read, an honest one

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  16. I certainly hope your trip to the doctor today will prove helpful in finally getting this infection cleared up!
    Talk to the doctor about taking cranberry tablets to help with this problem since it keeps cropping up and drink MORE water!
    The greater fear may be renal failure!

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  17. Well that seems like a catch-22. How can you come out in general if you don't come out with someone like your mother.

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  18. Thank goodness we live in different times free to be who we are for the most part at least, but I'm thinking that back in my grandmothers generation, before TV even, coming out was not understood so perhaps kinder not to tell.

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