Ally mcBeal


 This afternoon Mary and I went to Colwyn Bay
We went to see the new( and very short new Pier) 
It was too hot for Dorothy.
We were standing , looking at it, when I heard a woman’s voice 
“ Hello there” it called
I didn’t recognise the woman but felt I ought to
She introduced herself as the sister in law of one of my favourite patients! One who I will call Holly
I placed her then, of course I did ….
We chatted about things!lockdown and her husband and her work and she asked me to thank the hospice staff for their care but before she left, with a shake of hands she said 
Thank you for dancing with Holly, She told us about it, it was a very special moment for her “ 
I laughed
“ It is me to who has to thank her” I told her “She made me dance in public , something I could never do” 
I told her the story from my perspective 
One day, as part of our last conversations together, Holly asked me what things would be on my bucket list, if I made one….after a long think
I shared that I always wanted to dance in public 

She asked me if I remembered Ally McBeal , and specifically the scenes when the cast would share an over choreographed dance to the velvet voiced Barry White
I told her I did and on impulse we danced the dance together. The music from her phone and me in my uniform and she in her expensive Italian bathrobe that dwarfed her. 
I remember that
She placed her bed table in front of the door , like a teenager to prevent any one else from walking in. 
And we giggled like schoolgirls as we did so
It’s always been my best hospice memory 



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  1. I loved Ally McBeal back in the day :) Lovely memory to keep.

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    1. I’ve blogged about this before but the vindication was worth it again

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  2. What a lovely memory John. I'm far too inhibited to be comfortable dancing in public. A barricaded door and a very good reason would be necessary to get me on my feet! I meant to comment yesterday that Mr Poznán sounds delightful, and just the sort of father/uncle we all need (but didn't have).

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    1. Since then Virginia on a visit to Sheffield my dear friend Jane and I danced briefly in a salsa bar together . We have been practicing to dance La Jeruselma together
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJgwF_9cl1M

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  3. Barbara Anne9:00 pm

    I remember this account when it was new and I thought then that you - and we - would never forget this joyful and life-affirming dance!
    How wonderful that you and Mary met her family at the pier and that you're etched in this happy memory for them.

    Hugs!

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    1. It’s one of my best memories from the hospice
      And will always be

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  4. It's lovely that you gave Holly's family such a wonderful memory. And that's one thing crossed off your bucket list! xx

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    1. It was the only funeral of a patient , I ever attended

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  5. What a fabulous memory to have! And I did so love Ally McBeal especially the music!! :-)

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    1. Me to …it was part of my psychi in the 1990s

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    2. Barbara Anne12:25 am

      We have the DVD boxed set of Ally McBeal! You should, too.
      We also have a 'region free' DVD player.

      Hugs!

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  6. you sure made an impression. it must have felt wonderful that she remembered you.

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    1. Hospice care can be very intense , both ways

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    2. Anonymous10:44 pm

      My mom lived in skilled nursing for a couple of years and I remember some, but not all, of her caregivers. But hospice? I remember each of the hospice caregivers in detail and can see in my mind the worker gently working with Mom. I am literally crying as I write this, and she passed in 2015. Intense, for sure, and we the families are grateful behind measure.
      Nina

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  7. Be brave and dare to do what you want to do...that's how you get special moments (says she who has never dared to dance in public...)

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    1. “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

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    2. And Holly was a prime example...

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  8. I also can recall you both dancing as I found it beautiful-Dancing to meaningful music is an escape and has given me happiness and comfort even in times of sadness-and Barry White-perfect xx

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  9. Now THERE'S a special memory!

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  10. What a lovely memory. She needed that special moment.

    Love,
    Janie

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  11. Live fully while we are alive.

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  12. Barry White is memorable in his own right and to dance to his music use to make my panty hose perspire! LOL I was so much younger then!
    Some memories are so worth hanging on to!

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  13. When I used to act in local theater productions, one of my favorite co-actors and a dear friend had to fly out of state to get an eye removed because it was cancerous. He came right back because he had a performance and he was very British and stiff upper lip and the show must go on and so forth. And before the play started he held his hands out to me and said, "Let's dance," and we danced across the stage. I do not remember if there was even music. But we did dance and I think about that so much. He is gone now. I adored him. He was an amazing and precious man.

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  14. What a wonderful dance sequence, I've never seen it. And what a wonderful memory you gave your patient.

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  15. Dancing with Holly and the memory of it will stay with you for life. Lovely.

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  16. And you say you aren't a good person. John, you are the best kind of good person.

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  18. What a wonderful experience!

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  19. I'm another who spent years wishing I could muster up the courage to wiggle in public and would regularly go to discos, watching enviously on the sidelines - until one night in Amsterdam when I'd have been around 36, after a few G & Ts I just thought, "OH, what the hell!" and plunged in. A couple of Dutch friends who happened to be there saw and joined me, rather amazed and pleased. In the next few years I spent very many exhilarating hours on dance floors around Europe, especially, Paris and Berlin, shaking a leg or three. Happy times indeed!

    Great vid, by the way. I've done a fair number of 'activities' in toilets over the years [nudge nudge], but dancing, never.

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  20. Heartwarming story. But call that a pier?

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  21. Golden moment to savour indeed John.

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  22. Always get up and dance at ‘do’s ‘ John and don’t give a toss …. If you don’t, you miss out on all the fun ! Lovely to have met that lady and to have brought back such a happy memory. XXXX

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  23. I loved that show. I am beginning to think having a bucket list isn't a bad idea.

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  24. I loved that show. What a wonderful memory for you.

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  25. I never watched that show. But I like Barry White!

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  26. I didn't watch Ally McBeal but I love the memory of you dancing with your patient. Today I signed up for my Zumba Gold class again - first time since Covid struck. It is fun to dance with a large group of seniors to all sorts of music and we get a good workout too. I need a pick-me-up!

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  27. Beautiful. I hope the next nurse I have is half as nice as you.

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  28. What a voice Barry had. Your post reminds me I need to let go more. We drove past the new pier last Tuesday and although very nice is all a bit too short

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  29. Long walk off a short pier definitely comes to mind. Why so short?

    I also loved Ally McBeal back in the day. I remember that dance sequence too.

    Jo in Auckland

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  30. A good memory all round.
    Hospice work gives both ways...but can drain you too xx

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  31. I remember this story somewhat, how wonderful to bump into this lovely lady to be reminded of such a special moment in time and knowing that your patient shared the moment with her relatives so that they remember her knowing she was a happy soul to the end.

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