A Kiss Is Just A Kiss



 Last night I got home just in time for The Big Gay Quiz. Our team won a respectable fourth place, which was fun. Afterwards I watched the lovely gay, Yorkshire Farmer film Gods Own Country which is a delight and incredibly moving.
It must rank as my favourite gay movie 
Anyhow....

There is a famous line in Gone With The Wind when Rhett Butler turns on the spoilt and game playing Scarlet O’Hara

“Open your eyes and look at me. No, I don't think I will kiss you, although you need kissing, badly. That's what's wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how."

 It’s a cracking quote and is one that got me thinking on my commute home yesterday.
Where did I have my first proper kiss? 
I’m discounting the time I was unexpected kissed by a policeman in full uniform when he came around to the psychiatric unit I was working in for a brew on night shift. 
I was more surprised than romantically aroused when that happened, so much so , I just stood there like a pudding and was still puckering with closed eyes long after he had exited the building...
Hey ho
Happy days
I think my first, properly romantic gay kiss was with the older brother of my first girlfriend .
I was 18. He was 26 
He was in the RAF ( hummm there is a uniform theme going on here) and I was a bank clerk and I ended up sharing his bedroom with him at my girlfriend’s house when he was home on leave.
I can’t remember the whys and wherefores 
But I do remember the kiss 
Chaste and gentle and of so pivotal in the life of gauche teen 
It would be several years later when the kiss’s ripple spread wide on my life’s pond
But it sowed the seed towards my coming out 


43 comments:

  1. "It's in his kiss" - or so the song says. Pheromones, oxytocin and the fine art of snogging!

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  2. A kiss is never "just a kiss". Platonic, loving, romantic, sexy, arousing, caring, healing etc. So many uses. xx

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  3. I'm not even going to address the double entendre of that last line. Sadly, my first gay kiss wasn't at all romantic, but it's still memorable. I remember thinking, "Oh my god, I'm kissing a mustache!" I was 27 years old!

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    1. The policeman had a course beard , I got stubble rash

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    2. We called it "whisker burn."

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  4. 'God's Own Country' was a stellar film.
    My first gay kiss was with my hubby when I was but a lad. Must have been a good one as we are still together.

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  5. I must spend a lot of time daydreaming as only yesterday I was thinking about my first boyfriend and of when I was a naive 16 year old and how we would snog for ages in the back alley before entering the disco-my unsubtely applied lipstick and glittery eyeshaddow would be quite spoilt and I then would have to spend time in the ladies before my cherry b or babycham and dancing x

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    1. Ps-I have never had a gay kiss but I recall being in a cafe with my dads girlfriend once and there was a woman staring at me in a way that made me think she fancied me x

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    2. Perhaps you should try it before it's too late x

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    3. I just don't fancy women-I was always rather partial to a good looking man with all that goes with them-and now I'd be lucky to attract a 100 year old x

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    4. Welcome to my life

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    5. Wrinkled botty x

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  6. Another movie I need to see. The brother of you girlfriend, sounds like the plot of a certain kind of video short.

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  7. It's wonderful that gay movies are now mainstream entertainment that gay and straight people enjoy. Isn't it wonderful how far things have come?

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  8. There's just something about a man in uniform, isn't there!

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  9. My Goodness I need to be kissed......hope I do get to be held and kissed again one day . ..sigh.....and being brutally and truly honest I have in my life had plenty of sex but not enough kissing!..😂.. crikey that (wrongly)makes me sound like a working gal doesn’t it!!
    In fact I don’t remember my first kiss, but have happy memories of steamy snogging sessions ....

    And that quote from Rhett is fabulous ... as is Gods Own Country x

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    1. Kissing is better than sex ..puckerbup libs

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  10. My first kiss was when I was 13 with a boy with the surname Kettle, under a lamppost after a school disco, he was the sloppiest kisser ever!! It would have been fine but he had done exactly the same thing, in the same place at the same time the previous week with my best friend, at least we could compare notes and we both agreed that to go through life called Mrs Kettle would be just far to ridiculous.

    My one and only gay kiss was with my best friend at a very raucous party when all the boys were daring us to kiss, so we did and then she grabbed my hand and we went running into the bedroom. We sat making orgasm noises while we each had a cigarette and a can or cider, the lads really did believe we had fallen for each other ... well for about an hour anyway!!

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  11. I have kissed quite a few men over the years and only a few stand out to me. Unfortunately they all turned out to be frogs with no evidence of royalty.

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  12. I remember my first real kiss too. Don't we all? Otherwise it wouldn't have been a real kiss. Mine came from a boy whose nickname was Mafia. We were leaned up against my best friend's mother's Lincoln Continental after a dance. My god, it was sweet.

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  13. My first kiss was at age 12 while playing Spin the Bottle at my first boy-girl party. He was the most popular boy in the class and I was the new kid with freckles and. buck teeth. He was also kind and not like the mean boys who made my life so hard. I don’t remember the kiss, but more that he was nice to me.

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  14. Well, now I am wondering when I got my first kiss and I cannot recall at all which bothers me! I guess it wasn't special enough to cement it into my memory. I don't have happy, sweet memories about it. Too bad!

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  15. My first real kiss was from a boy several years older than me (at 13). I was one of those "good Catholic girls" and innocent with a group of friends. He was considered a "Bad Boy", having dropped out of school (to help support his single mom & siblings); he was also rough around the edges. But he gently brushed the hair away from my face with a few fingers, never broke his gaze, and leaned in ever so slowly for a tender, questioning kiss. It seemed to go on forever, getting bolder, exploring possibilities. Then he ended it abruptly and just held me close for a few minutes. I remember feeling confused. Like I'd done something wrong. He looked sad and said, "You deserve better than me." Though the romance went nowhere, I don't think I'll ever forget Perry.

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  16. Barbara Anne3:51 pm

    My first kiss was with a friend who was a shy boy and it was soft and sweet but he didn't even notice that my braces were off! We soon went back to being friends and these decades later we're still friends and he is an Episcopal bishop.
    I've never seen God's Own Country but will search for it on the various channels.

    Has anyone else found the 'verify' process for "prove you're not a robot" is popping up all too often? On another blog, I posted two comments and had to match the pictures for each comment. That's nuts.

    Hugs!

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    1. It’s a lovely film , brave and positive

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  17. My only gay kisses were on stage during a production of 'The Killing of Sister George'. My first straight kiss was in a shop doorway at night and I thought, 'Ewww'. Nevertheless, I remained straight.

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  18. I was 19, he was 30. he was from manchester, in the states for a visit. he asked me to marry him (with a poem, no less!) before he returned to the UK. my parents put a stop to that.

    his name was peter sewell jarvis. he is now deceased (unfortunately). I often wonder what would have happened had we married.

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  19. At school was about 14 he was too. We


    hadn't perfected the French kiss. He Slobbered all over my face. Sadly a few years ago I heard he had died in a car crash. Now know what I am doing French kiss wise.

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  20. 12 years old at a school dance. The attraction was definitely there. Not much skill on either side but to this day I remember the tall, slender red head.

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  21. I didn't kiss another guy until I was in college!

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