Wednesday, 28 October 2020

Anger....let’s explore it

 Anonymous5:03 pm

“Asyou've said yourself in the comments NO you aren't allowed to walk the dogs you are ISOLATING

I had thought better of you but it seems like you're just like all the other rule breaking Covid idiots who think the rules don't apply to them.

Obviously the community knows you're isolating as they're bringing you stuff but I wonder what they think of you acting like an arsehole and disregarding the rules.  

You deserve to be reported and fined.”


So said one of my commentators a little earlier today....you can feel the bile and vitriol from ten yards can you not? and that bile is ugly and without much real thought or insight.

It does, however. smack of fear

So let me explain, without going down the jogger’s incident route

I am isolating at home yes, and have I put another human being at risk of catching Covid ? 

No I haven’t. 

Once a day, first thing in the morning , I take one sleepy Welsh terrier and one overactive almost hysterical bulldog for a walk. We walk down a lane away from any houses and across Graham the Shepherd’s fields. 

We see no one 

My sexy bearded dog walker and kind souls like Hattie and Trendy Carol pick up the slack during the afternoons 

Dorothy will not pee without Mary by her side so to pander to her psychological needs the pair are taken out last thing together....again no one sees us...the lane is empty....hopefully as empty as Dorothy’s capacious bladder.


So please dear reader, report me ....report me for daring to risk assess my home and life with a modicum of common sense and intelligence, but rest assured I would never put another person at risk of this dreadful disease


The anger in the above comment saddened me. It reminded me of the anger in my father’s face when he lost his temper when I was a child ..or the look my husband gave to me just before he left when I always cut the corner turning into Cwm Road

Anger like this always has another source 


A long time ago and far far away



 

116 comments:

  1. John I believe an angry person likes to blame someone else for feeling bad inside themself x

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    1. I don’t want today’s blog to go down the joggers route with the bashing of people
      The point of the blog yesterday was to explain what I did relating to the dogs
      But to also link with old memories where anger featured and made a difference

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  2. I love the way these 'people' are always 'anonymous'. Have a hug from me, covid or not...
    Helena

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    1. That’s the phenomenon that is the internet, we all buy into that

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  3. Clearly, you know (and follow) the rules.

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  4. as the famous Elsa says...."let it go"! They are not worth your energy!

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  5. F*** Anonymous..the coward. Sorry you have to ensure such vitriol.

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    1. Perhaps the anger comes from a place of fear?

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    2. Yes, there is so much anger that comes from fear

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  6. You have to feel sorry for someone who would leave a comment like that because it reveals something about the writer. Such face-slapping bitterness does not just arrive from thin air. Isolating workers like yourself deserve moral support - not nasty tongue-lashings.

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    1. Exactly, well-said Yorkshire Pudding! Happily John was spot on in his post to recognize this although it doesn't take the sting away.

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    2. Yes I do feel for the commentator
      Anger and fear go hand in hand
      Perhaps my explanations would have informed rather than fought

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  7. Huh. I wonder if "it" stopped to think about the many villagers who rally around you when help is, or even is not, needed.
    People don't go out of their way to help arseholes. And only an arsehole would spew such vitriol with the specific intention of causing distress.
    Don't let the bastards grind you down!
    {{{{Hugs}}}}

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  8. Well, he certainly found a place to focus his anger, huh? Too bad its channeled some other way. Trolls gonna troll. Take good care of yourself, dear.

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  9. Not to justify any anonymous commenter's angry outburst, but it seems I've read (even recently) a few times when you've let off some steam at strangers. And in the same way anonymous has no idea of the details of your life, or the care you take, well... the trouble today is we're ALL very quick to judge everyone else. All of us.

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    1. Good point and a salient one for internet users
      We can be joined by the internet but also kept apart by it
      The point of the blog was it’s connection to memory.
      Anger reminded me of angers past

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  10. That was a weird, anonymous commenter with a mean streak. You aren't mingling with people when you take your dogs out. I believe people are starting to get depressed and cranky because of the virus and other worries stemming from it. I went to get my flu vaccination today. Everyone had masks on but all had "sad" eyes and seemed gloomy. Most likely Anonymous was just feeling gloomy and bitchy and decided to take it out on you.

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    1. I tried to be measured in my reply
      I think the commentator felt that I was proudly or flagrantly flouting the rules which I was not

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  11. You need that morning walk at least as bad as the dogs - it's not healthy to stay indoors 24/7. Just cannot understand why miserable people have such a need to spread their misery around.

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  12. the dogs ain't gonna walk themselves to pee. anonymous can fuck right off now!

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    1. AM thank you, as always for your loving support but let’s look at where this persons emotions are comming from,
      A place of fear perhaps.?

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    2. nope, anon is pissed that you have "special privileges". you have dogs, they need a walk. I doubt anon would volunteer to walk the girls. anon needs to mind his/her business.

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    3. Straight talking ...that’s why I love ya xxx

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  13. Barbara Anne4:22 am

    You've taken the precautions needed to avoid coming into contact with other people. You know you're not endangering others or yourself so anonymous can go fly a kite. Grrrrrrrrrr!

    Hugs!

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  14. 'Anonymous' must be a townie, and cannot imagine the relative freedoms we country folk have. Is he/she the same 'Anonymous' as wishes us all dead?

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  15. I ger similar assinine comments from one anonymous reader, all ready to jump on anything I say. It seems from what I read you are conscientious in your actions.

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  16. Another day another knob head!

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    1. Lol, my thoughts exactly Tayz.

      Jo in Auckland

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  17. Why would you worry what these assholes think. You have done the correct and proper thing. Comments like those you received sum up why we are in such a mess as a nation and in fact worldwide. A small bit of good old common sense goes a long way in my mind. Wishing you only good things you seem a very lovely funny (as in ha ha) humanbeing.

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  18. John, walk where you want to with your dogs. When I get comments like that it gives me great pleasure to say f c u k off, loud and clear, as I press the delete button. Love to you. xxx

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  19. I agree with all of the positive comments. This situation is certainly bringing out the best in the best people and the worst in those already mean and nasty. We, here in Italy, are back into a form of lockdown, but the people are getting very fed up and it's beginning to take its toll. I think we are all feeling a little fragile at the moment, and that is just when the bullies sweep in. I love reading your blog, happy, sad, wistful and joyful. Always remember how much you are loved and respected. a hug Ro xx

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  20. Anonymous8:24 am

    I suppose you should treat your dogs cruelly then, John?

    Anyone with half a brain cell will see that what you are doing is OK. They need a walk and you're doing it responsibly. Y'know, I heard on the radio that they were urging people to report their neighbours if they had more than six people together inside. It's becoming more and more oppressive by the day - we'll be living in Orwellian times before long.

    Sending you a hug. Keep doing what you're doing.
    Take care.

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    1. Of course I am sure anonymous would agree now the red mist has gone.....

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  21. i hope anonymous falls off their high horse xx

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    1. Well perhaps this anger also comes from a place of fear

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  22. A regular reader9:02 am

    You're right John anger always has another source. I experienced much of this when a child and had an appalling childhood both emotionally and physically, unspeakable things (not spoken of even to this day even though they're now deceased)that a child should not suffer from their own parent, it stays with you but I'm thankful that as an adult I don't hold anger myself, only sadness for those days. The ill treatment I received as a child made me into a compassionate adult, determined to show my own children only kindness and love, this spills out into everyday life too, I see hurt in people's faces and recognise it as coming from something they've endured, perhaps it takes past hurt in your own life to be able to see this. So while I feel sorrow for your own past pain I feel sorrow for your commenter too and recognise there is something within them that causes them to post such comments and to hit out at people who don't deserve that. I hope that you're able to put this behind you. I hope they come to experience love in their life instead of the anger they presently harbour. I won't join in with the "fcuk off" attitude expressed by some of your other commenters and on this occasion due to personal content of this comment I'll be anonymous

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    1. No fuck off doesn’t get anywhere really
      This pandemic has fractured people
      The internet can widen the fractures by anonymity

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  23. I worked in a situation where people would often lash out verbally, when it was nothing to do with me personally. There was always something behind it. Finding that and dealing with it is their responsibility.

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    1. Absolutely .its the kick the cat syndrome

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  24. So sad to receive that when you are being very careful and thoughtful

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    1. Yes I felt a bit hurt and rather pious !

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  25. No doubt Anonymous is temporarily hiding under their stone while they polish their keyboard for more attacks on the good folk of this world.

    You get back what you give out in this world. You John are receiving help and good wishes, I wonder what Anonymous will be getting ... it won't be good but it will be deserved.

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    1. I hope this blog today will be kinder to old anonymous
      And I hope my explanations will help them understand that guidelines can be bent safely and with thought

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  26. Words hurt- even when there is absolutely no truth in them. This troubled world would be so much better if people were a bit kinder.

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    1. Yes and I am quick to anger
      A trait I have inherited no doubt xxx

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  27. That's ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with you being outdoors as long as you're distancing from everyone else. Of course you can walk the dogs.

    There IS a lot of anger tied up in this Covid stuff -- anger from people who wear masks toward those who don't, anger from anti-mask people, anger all around. I think it all comes from anxiety about the pandemic. But sheesh, people, calm down!

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  28. Sorry you get hit with this kind of crap. Of all people I follow, I trust YOU to know and think carefully about your behaviour regarding this pandemic. I wish you didn't have to respond to Anonymous. Whatever happened to those funny quotes attributed to Anonymous?!? They should have stuck to those. I'm sending you more hugs from the Costa del Sol where it's beautiful and sunny, the dogs and cats are happy, and Anonymous has a name.

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    1. I think many people are having a crap tine


      I have a funny post after this one
      Scented candle .....a call to arms x

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  29. I begin to see how Nazi Germany came to be. This virus is bringing out all the mean and nasty people. My policy through all this is do as I want as long as I'm not hurting any other person. We were moved on from a bench by the police and threatened with a fine if we didn't comply, we were on our own and no other person around. Didn't they get the young kids reporting on their own parent's in Germany? You take you dogs for a walk and as long as you are not mixing with others do it as much as you want. Please don't allow these bigots to spoil your life John.
    Briony
    x

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      Not spoilt , today it has made me think

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  30. John, everything I would like to say has already been said here. What a sad person to have so much anger inside. What a waste of time. I also agree that there's a LOT of misplaced anger floating around the world right now because of the stress of the pandemic. You keep on living your life and don't worry about some anonymous vitriol. If they really believed what they were saying they would put their name on it.

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    1. Sad? Another judgement by “our” side
      I think now, we all have a responsibility to be kinder and to EXPLAIN things rather to immediately bristle

      I bristled immediately last night when I read the comments but the accompanying memories of bad temper at home And childhood made me stop and think
      Perhaps I should have said

      I’m sorry I bent the rules but I did it safely

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  31. Joan (Devon)10:33 am

    A lot of people have issues of different sorts and in different degrees and whilst most people can hide them and keep them to themselves some cannot. I don't think that lashing out to you John is based on anger, it is based on spite. Because you have a successful blog and loved by all your readers you are an easy prey, so obviously they are going to jump at the chance to unload some of their spite on to you for anything.

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    1. Another perspective Joan
      And some interesting points
      It makes me also question how I have a responsibility to watch what I say
      Flippancy and off the cuff remarks about not adhering to the full guidelines may have set this whole thing in motion
      Perhaps I have to look as we all do, about what and HOW We write

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    2. Joan (Devon)3:39 pm

      You shouldn't have to watch what you say within reason amongst friends, but blogs are open for anyone to read and there will always be someone who doesn't understand or perhaps wants to pick a fight with the blogger because a) that is how they are feeling today or b) it's in their make-up so they will always be picking a fight with anyone for no reason whatsoever. It's their problem yes, but it doesn't stop you from feeling that you've written something you shouldn't. Just carry on as you have been doing, you're not doing any harm to anyone. I myself for what its worth, don't see any harm in you taking the dogs for a walk well away from others. Much love to you.

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  32. Ugh
    Opinions. Like belly buttons, everybody's got one. Some I just don't wanna know about.
    People rush to conclusions so easily....

    XOXO

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  33. I think anything I wanted to contribute has already been said. Just wanted to show solidarity and give a virtual hug. I suspect many of us can be quick to anger because of our past; when one's not feeling vulnerable it's easier to show compassion. Just keep on doing what you're doing, and never doubt that at least 99% of those posting think you're a great bloke.

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  34. The key word is isolation, not confinement. You are staying away from others, that is what will lead to safety. You are so right, that anger and frustration usually has roots in something else. It took me a long time to learn about my mother's childhood, so I could somewhat understand her "issues." My father's repression was rooted in his parents home. (Have a written about my grandmother getting drunk at a christmas party and dancing on the pool table in the dining room? One of my fathers vivid childhood memories.)

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    1. My husband had flashes of pure anger towards the end of our time together .
      I never understood them at the time as they would flash about from nothing. Now I understand they came from unhappiness in the relationship

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  35. I'm afraid that I see both sides of he situation. I understand that you do this very early to avoid others but technically - as I understand it based on our rules - you are breaking the law. When an Aunt and Uncle returned to live in Canada in the Spring they had to ensure that everything was in place at their Air B&B before they crossed the border (they had to buy a new home) and this included being assured that there was a garden available for their dog as there was no leaving the property.
    I believe you when you say you are very careful - but others may not be as careful as you but can also come up with reasons to break the law and then it becomes a slippery slope as individuals all decide to interpret things their own way. Sorry John, but I can't agree with you on this one.
    I'm not so sure that "anonymous" lashed out just in anger - there is probably an element of fear and perhaps with frustration at having had to deal with real covidiots. Perhaps they or a family member has been ill with the virus - perhaps a wee bit less anger on your part would be appropriate....

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    1. Your reply is below....I have rechecked the Welsh govt website which state as long as I am distancing and following the guidelines for isolation I can walk the dogs.....but to be fair the site is confusing

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    2. I’ve been assured by Traveller that I am acting within the welsh rules
      Does that help?

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  36. Having visited you in your lovely home John, I can ‘see’ in my minds eye exactly where you walked ... and so you should... and your close neighbours in the graveyard wouldn’t mind either....but your point about fear is the important one ... these are horrible strange times and we are all fumbling about trying to do our best .....stay safe xxx

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  37. Well I see your points Margie
    And perhaps through necessity I have to disagree
    I am single and cannot possibly have all of my dogs walked by friends and neighbours
    Luckily I live literally yards from an open field so the exercising Of them without anyone around is easy.
    Please if you have any more ideas of how I can carry on for another week
    Let me have them
    I have the dog walker sticking to his booked days and friends are helping
    But to be honest passing dog leads over to others even though they are sanitized has more of a risk of transmitting the virus than me walking the dogs on the country lane on which I live

    Tell me what you think I should do

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  38. I lived with an angry man for 27 years and I think at least some of that anger was fear driven. Your post has caused me to reflect. What was he so afraid of? I think he was afraid of not being enough but he never realised that the anger was the major factor that ensured he was, indeed, not enough

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    1. Yes I’ve reflected on things last night and today

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  39. They are not worthy of your notice John. In your heart you know what is right.

    LXX

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    1. I cannot think of an alternative course of action

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  40. I think I would my advice to anonymous is "don't be a dick".

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  41. Was it anger or frustration I wonder. Difficult to tell sometimes.

    I somewhat agree with Margie from Toronto, I find I usually do.

    I am fed up with covidiots. Those who think this all one big project fear and ask why they are publicizing daily numbers as this hasn’t been done with other diseases. Those who think it is best to get their information from “alternative sources”. Don’t bother listening to the scientific experts and doctors on the front line...no get your information from loonies on the web Such as David Icke. Someone who believes that an inter-dimensional race of reptilian beings called the Archins have hijacked the earth and are stopping humanity from realising its true potential. You couldn’t make it up...actually he did!

    I did find a piece on the NHS Wales website which specifically covered walking dogs if you were self isolating and, based on my read, you were complying with it. Talked about not being near people and not touching things such as gates...can’t find it again.

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    1. I am happy at looking any any advice you or Margie can offer
      But I feel I’ve taken as strict as precautions that I can.
      If you can think of how I can do things differently please let me know

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    2. I think you are doing the right thing John. I only somewhat agree with Margie on this one. I reckon you are following the rules.

      I should have added that if Anon is a regular reader they should know your profession and, therefore, you are not a Covidiot who isn’t taking this seriously.

      Do you know Dorothy’s background?

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    3. She’s a complicated little dog

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  42. I honestly can't see anything wrong in what you are doing. You are walking first thing when no one is about. Its giving you some fresh air and and some exercise so you don't go stir crazy. I think fresh air and the outdoors is an important mental break. Just before the end of your blog - your sentence about anger always having another source really struck me. Very true. Jean/Winnipeg

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  43. A regular reader12:26 pm

    Thank you for replying to my comment John and it was interesting to read of your reflections and comments to other readers. I'm not sure that it's the Covid situation that's bringing out the anger in people, some yes, but hasn't there always been comments on blogs that can irritate and anger? Those that are swiftly called "trolls" by other readers. In fact those readers show their own ugly sides by jumping in to say "fcuk off" and call that person "it" and "weird" and "knob head" all of which have appeared in your comments on this post.
    Of course people are quick to defend you but doesn't it show that we can all be capable of being unkind and not showing any compassion at all. As you've said perhaps we should all look at our own actions and try to be more compassionate.
    In my opinion the commenter who called the person "it" should be particularly ashamed of themselves.

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    1. I think the anonymity of the comment is somewhat irritating ...that was obviously done on purpose which indicates to me that anger has taken over and balance is somewhat out of the window.
      I have had my fair share of trolls here and sometimes a pert “ fuck off” is needed.
      Going gently is not a just a blog, it’s my journal
      It’s not a forum for others to take advantage of

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  44. All of us are human all of us are built very differently although form and function are similar. However, what we see face on and what the circumstances are, very often is not the complete picture and "judgments" are made on the facts before them as it appears.... In reality though there are many levels and many depths. Each individual reacts to things based on their own experiences and fears which help form them in the first place. Fear is often amplified when you cannot see what you are dealing with and are anxious by nature. Anger is often born of frustration and not being able to actively do anything about the situation. If it has no outlet, it festers and causes other issues. We all react to the button being pushed in different ways and not necessarily in the same manner that does not make us wrong. What is unfair though is people judging others, when they are not privy to the minutiae of that person's life or commitments. It is something that we all tend to do and assumptions are made which are often wrong and at the time hurtful. John, you are perceptive enough to realise that this stems from fear and little knowledge. Most people react on the basis of a "black and white" situation, but often forget that there is a middle ground called "Grey" (or should that be Gray). Take care dear John, neurotic animals need regular pee stops and if your strategies work and it makes Dorothy pee when she should, that is your business and nobody elses. Just "love" them and let them go their way. We cannot fix everyone - you help where you can - that person has their own journey to make. Take care Mr Gray xx

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    1. Thank you for that.
      Dorothy is a little damaged soul. The slightest change in her routine has her cowering and flat to the floor.
      She needs her walks with Mary to keep her psychi intact...and that’s something I cannot stress enough

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    2. We all have our blemishes, some you can see, some you cannot no one is perfect and there is no room for ego. Being kind never hurt anyone - however being unkind is not necessary you only hurt yourself long term. This year has proved that if nothing else. We need each other but that does not mean that we have the right to step on or over each other. Winnie, Mary and Dorothy are super little dogs. From your description of Dorothy it sounds as though she has the canine version of Asperger's.
      However now at least she has your calming and reassuring hand. Our Jack Russell Missy, is also neurotic in that she chooses to be with people - all the time and kicks up a right stink if left. Has an attachment disorder. Sometimes we have to leave her and she gets into a right two and eight. However we love them and all their little ways as they give so much unconditional love. My Granddad had bulldogs and they are much under-estimated and under-appreciated. Keep doing what you do and most of all be you. Pattypan xx

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  45. Anger isn't an emotion - it is either fear or frustration or hurt.

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  46. Walking can be done while in isolation. I trust you enough to know that you wouldn't put others at risk. And anger is usually fear or sadness, with me it's both.

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  47. Oh dear John, it makes me sad to read when commenters are so rude and angry. I had a friend who would always just ask, "Can't we all just get along?" I suppose there are just going to be those who feel quite virtuous in "correcting" others. Now, my kind and dear counselor told me and my husband that yes, WE can "correct" each other, but ONLY with kind and loving words, and that we should do the same for others as well. It makes for a kinder and more loving Universe. We were told by her to try and hold our tongues when angry, and go deal with our anger first, before we spoke. She never said don't be angry, just be an adult and deal with your anger rather than blasting others. Sage advice, for sure. As for walking, dear GOD if that had been restricted here I might have died, it was and is an outlet for me! Being outside and MOVING is good for all of us animals! As always, sending you good thoughts from way over here in Illinois!

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  48. You are not breaking any rules by walking your dogs the way you are. Every damaged soul - damaged by man? - has needs to be met.
    That anger has come from a very dark place. Full of spite and malice - another damaged soul, I think.
    If people looked after their own business with such relish, then maybe we wouldn't be in the mess we are.

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    1. Yes the rules are clear that I CAN . Exercise the dogs

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  49. I believe you are entirely correct in what you are going and how you are handling your confinement. Your poster is the one who is ill informed and angry. So many sad things happening and it’s just the beginning again.

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  50. I found the reference to dog walking. The quote below is from NHS Wales on their page about self-isolation.

    Nobody should go out even to buy food or other essentials and any exercise must be taken within your home or private outdoor area such as a garden. If you have no access to private outdoor space, you may take exercise outside for up to 1 hour, including dog walking, providing you choose quiet areas, do not touch external surfaces or items (eg gates, doors, hire bikes) and do not come within 2m of any other person. People with certain health conditions or disabilities may need to go out more than once a day, accompanied by their carers if appropriate. Examples of conditions include learning disabilities, autism, dementia or other mental health conditions. They and their carers should follow the advice above.

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    1. Thank you for finally clarifying the situation

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    2. You are right, the website is not clear

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  51. I guess when you get over a thousand 'followers' there are bound to be some whacko/idiots.

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  52. Common sense is enough and living in harmony with one another in friendship and pulling together is what matters most of all.

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    1. If the original commentator had respectfully questioned my behaviour yesterday we could have sorted all of this out

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    2. Thank you for acknowledging my comment. I wanted to know you had read it. I think it is more important that we pull together than anything else xx

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    3. I agree Rachel there is space for all of us to take deep breaths

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  53. A lot of people are hurting and losing loved ones during this pandemic. There is a very high frustration level with people being infected due to others not believing or taking necessary precautions in limiting the spread of this disease. Thank you John for responding to this person’s comment without condemnation.

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    1. Also the debate has clarified to all that it is perfectly right to socially distance walk your dogs

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  54. i mean, why would you do the job you do and then come home and stupidly put other lives at risk? what they said to you was stupid and not very well thought out. how are you feeling? i hope no symptoms?

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  55. Unfortunately the pandemic hads brought out a lot of anger in some people.

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  56. And another thing - the welfare of your animals has to be attended to. Bitterites like that probably need to be kept away from goldfish, let alone dogs.

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  57. John, sorry I've not read this earlier & am late to getting to respond. Very sad to read the vitriol (sp?). I've always thought it takes a great deal of courage to write a blog. Anyone who uses "Anonymous" obviously is a coward. We all know that. Let's say yesterday was your 32nd day of October. All of us have that damned 32nd day each month one way or another & wish it wouldn't occur. Hats off to you for being courageous enough to bare your soul and blog. And also for the incredibly painful path you've managed to climb to be where you are today. Luv & hugs from Across The Pond. Tonight in about one hour I will have a martini & toast to you.

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  58. I saw that when it was first posted. And read the anger in it. Obviously you have taken great care not to be around anyone. It hurt me to read it. As I'm sure it hurt you. No one deserves to be spoken to like that.

    You were outdoors and took pre-caution.

    I hope we all heal soon. And that anger dissipates and only love remains.

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    1. "no one deserves to be spoken to like that" Yes you're right JM. So what about all the people who retaliated in their comments by calling him/her a knobhead, an arsehole, weird and It. As pointed out by A Regular Reader in their comment above the person who called him/her IT should be ashamed of themselves. That goes back to the days of calling mentally incapacitated people retards and Downs Syndrome people Mongols. Disgraceful and disgusting.

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    2. I have tried to make today’s post a more reflective one

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  59. Oh dear I can't understand what anonymous is on about, dogs have to go for walks to relief them self and living in your village with wide open fields and quiet lanes your not putting any one in harms way and you wouldn't either if you lived in the city because then you would wear a mask. Nothing complicated just common sense. Don't give it another thought John you should not have to explain yourself your a care giver that says it all.

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  60. Something that struck me as I read the comments here. You spoke of poor Mildred's damaged soul and I think that anyone who read those words thought words to the effect of 'oh, the poor creature'. What if we could read anonymous' comments in the same light? It is harder to be sure. Mildred is not snapping and trying to draw blood. But s/he is a damaged soul.

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  61. And now I see that Dorothy is the damaged soul. *sigh*

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  62. Some people just get a perverted kick out of criticising others. They must know they're talking rubbish but they persist.

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  63. Anonymous1:13 pm

    Isn't your saying they're talking rubbish a criticism then? Did you need that perverted kick?

    Enough vile criticism has already been directed towards the writer without further input from you.

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    1. I have to remind You how vile the Original comment was too anon
      Whatever the reason and cause for the anger, it still wasn’t kind or nice

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