I didn't get so much of a Good Luck from lead nurse of duty yesterday
Instead she left me a scribbled note
I might not have got on with the lead nurse , but the standard of care was good.
So I wasn't leaving them without an advocate, or in a bad environment .
Older people are so vulnerable.
Im not going to get old
I decided that a long time ago
Instead she left me a scribbled note
" FYI could you complete your careplans they are overdue"I wrote on the corner her note
" FYA careplans already completed" xxxxxWe got up three of my favourite patients before heading for home and I told the, truthfully that I would miss them. Cynthia and Betty ,The two ladies cried a bit as I kissed them goodbye and as I shook Glyn hand firmly he thanked me for my time, in that way men do when they don't want to be emotional
I might not have got on with the lead nurse , but the standard of care was good.
So I wasn't leaving them without an advocate, or in a bad environment .
Older people are so vulnerable.
Im not going to get old
I decided that a long time ago
Getting old doesn't bother me, but becoming frail does, because as you rightly point out older people are so vulnerable, in so many ways. I've always said that I don't especially want a long life, but I want a healthy one.
ReplyDeleteLast shift done and dusted, it's onwards and upwards from now for you.
I don't want to depend on people who don't really want to tolerate being depended upon
DeleteGood luck with all the new beginnings, you'll be forever young, as long as that's what you decide.
ReplyDeleteThank u yael
DeleteProfessional to the last. Well done for not stooping to her level. The rest of your life starts now xxx
ReplyDeleteI did consider leaving a turd on her desk
DeleteWell done, you could have said f*** off but you were better than her. Never say never but stay fit and healthy. I've been trying to get my mum moving more, mobility is everything in old age! Wishing you a much happier new job. x
ReplyDeleteWe had no relationship. I had no expectation that she would be even polite
DeleteIn work not all people gel together. It helps if they do but sometimes it doesn't happen. At least she left a note reminding you about something at work which you had already done so nothing to worry about. Could have been worse. Same as life, you are not going to gel with everybody you meet. Even your soon to be ex husband didn't work out. Not all people are going to fall all over you with passion. It is the way of things. You could find someone at the hospice who finds you difficult to work with. We don't know from the blog. You could irritate the socks off us.
ReplyDeleteCould we move on from bringing up the fact that John's marriage didn't work out? I'm sure John is well aware of this! Today is the start of a fresh chapter in his life, he doesn't need dragging down by his friends.
DeletePauline B
He can cope.
DeleteYou'll never be able to identify the point at which you grow old and have lost any use to anybody and you'll be blogging to 3 people who'll agree that it's ok that you're eating your meal out of a dog bowl on the floor and writing the opening speech to the vegetable show although it is now held in animation and doesn't involve humans or real vegetables but hey ho no need for you to know.
DeleteI wasn't complaining about the note merely commentating on it.
DeleteIt's tone didn't surprise me.
I've always liked the analogy
"Getting on with work people is like standing at a bus stop with 12 other people.....you like one, tolerate most, dislike one other"
Rachel I've been working in large teams since I was 20
I know how they work
DeleteYou are not going to grow old? Well you had better get yourself to a cryogenic facility pretty damned quick then. I believe there's one in Rhyl called "The Ice Man Cometh" after a play by Eugene O'Neill.
ReplyDeleteLike many older people do
DeleteThe suicide rate over 65 is incredibly high
I am not going to get old either. There is a cure for that.
ReplyDeleteUnderstoodd
DeleteGood luck in your new life. Seems to be the year for change for so many of us. Xxx
ReplyDeleteDo tell
DeletePeople going out of our lives for whatever reason, house moves, job moves etc. In my own small turning of eight house each one has had a monumental change in the past year.
DeleteOld with dignity is fine John. I left my last NHS nursing job at 57 a few months ago. The care and patients were great but unfortunately wherever you go you always find one or two staff members who can make going into work a dread. When I was younger I had to put up with it but one reaches an age when you decide that you can no longer put up with it and that there's more to life. The finances have taken a hit but I'm glad I left.Having a job you don't enjoy doesn't do one's mental health much good.
ReplyDeleteYes...sometime in life you have to come first
DeleteI shall fight old age all the way.
ReplyDeleteTo me that's the right attitude.
DeleteWay to go
DeleteI love your attitude to life Ilona x
DeleteYou and me both, kid!
ReplyDeleteLX
How would you go about it, John? And how can you be sure you won't miss the vital moment when you are still master of your own destiny? I suppose - you being a nurse - you have more discrete methods at your disposal than a rope and the next tree or, with a few stones in your coat pockets, wading into the nearest river. I have asked my son, should I lose my marbles, to take me for a long walk along some coastal path. All my life I have been known for "falling" (even UP the stairs) so, should I "accidentally" fall off the cliff, no suggestion of helping me along can be put onto him. An idea which was met with an eye roll, a shake of his head and silence. It's all very well now when old age still seems a long way off, but the thought of ever, possibly, hindering and hampering my son's enjoyment of life really does bother me. Anyway, as you reminded me the other day, this post is NOT about me - though hope that you appreciate that all I can do is contribute my own thoughts and, sometimes, life's experiences.
ReplyDeleteOther than that happy you closed that job's worth door behind you - and hope that all staff relations in your new job will be smooth ones. As Rachel says, unfortunately not all people gel. Which, in a professional setting, shouldn't matter but for some it does.
Happy old endings, happy new beginnings,John,
U
Given that you have just told the world your plan for your own demise, it wouldn't be seen as an accident, would it? It would just incriminate your son. How sad.
DeleteCome on, Anon. Please do crank up the old humo(u)r. Would I ever do that to anyone? Least my son? If, when the time comes, I can still walk that Coastal Path (though personally prefer drowning rather than breaking my neck) I'll do so all by myself.
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I'm sure you could find a volunteer
DeleteMost people just get on with things
DeleteThe human spirit, the ability to just live at all cost, the innate need to keep going
I have seen that all throughout my career
I know what I don't want.
Who knows if I could take charge of my own destiny?
We only know nearer the time.
But I have seen the other side of existing, through chronic pain, disability, menatal instabiliy
I know what I don't want
Mave! You do make a girl titter
DeleteYou are unlikely to know.
DeleteGetting old is difficult. Just got to roll with it. Good luck with your new job. Hope there are like minded people for you to make new friends with.
ReplyDeletexx Cali G
Like I said
DeleteI will like a couple, adore one other, feel ambivalent about most
And hate at least. One
"FYI" is illiterate in this context. If I were the sort of person who said, "That tells me all I need to know," I'd probably say it.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. He could have said, "FYI I have already done them", or just 'FY' for Fuck You.
DeleteShe was never ever going to be my friend
DeleteAnd that was mighty fine with me
Here's to new beginnings.
ReplyDeleteOld doesn't bother me. Increasingly frail does. A lot.
I think you have hit the nail on the head here
DeleteStay forever young John! I know from experience that old age with medical conditions sucks (not a word I would normally use, but it suits how I feel at the moment).
ReplyDeleteI expect you felt some relief when you walked through that door for the last time. Here's to going forward to your new working life.
There was a certain " thank fuck for that" feeling
DeleteIt's fine to grow old, but let's all do it disgracefully!
ReplyDeleteOnward and upward now John, a whole fresh start. X
Tits out !
DeleteNext....................
ReplyDeleteLike I said tits out!!!!!!!
DeleteI met a ninety-two-year-old lady the other day, on her way back from the take-away. She had bought herself a curry for her lunch. Now that is the sort of old age I wish to aspire to. I wish you every happiness in your new job, John (and no snotty lead nurses). x
ReplyDeleteThere are always snotty nurses around, I was probably one myself a long time ago!
DeleteWow, that was some farewell note!
ReplyDeleteMy body is letting me down now and I don't like it.
I could do with a bigger bladder
DeleteCouldn't we all!
DeleteI've lived too long to die young and leave a beautiful corpse. One of my favorite quotes:
ReplyDelete“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!”
Quote by Hunter S. Thompson
Love this quote!
DeleteCali G
Yes David, I know this quote well
DeleteIf lucky, one will eventually get old on the outside, but can stay young inside. It does help if you break all the mirrors.
ReplyDeleteOr go blind
DeleteI suspect age is quite OK as long as you are still healthy and active and have some friends still around. Do NOT go gently!
ReplyDeleteInto that good night
DeleteRage, rage...
DeleteHow joyous it is that the night job is over and done with, careplans completed, and you're back home to sleep. Hug yourself - it's really over. Sweet!
ReplyDeleteI'm right there with Diana Trent (Waiting for God) in being feisty to the end. That's the plan at least. :)
Hugs from afar
Lots of ideas and thoughts here - both good and bad - when dealing with aging and death! I particularly like "breaking all the mirrors", "picking up a take-away meal at age 92", "mobility is everything" and "the coastal cliff walk"!!!
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile I plan to take each day in stride while I can, yes "mobility really IS is everything" - and here's wishing you the best as you go to your new job John. They will be fortunate to have you.
Thank mary
DeleteThe problem isn't getting old, it's our society not looking after the elderly properly and trying to pretend they don't exist at all.
ReplyDeleteAnd also pretending we can't afford them
DeleteWe HAVE TO afford them
Onward. You will be a most valuable and honored member of the team at hospice. I know it.
ReplyDeleteYou had a good farewell from those who really matter.
ReplyDeleteGrowing old..we do it as soon as we start off. Just do it positively, concentrating on Can Do. That's all we are able xx
As long as you can do the can do
DeleteI had to look up what FYA meant, much nicer than what wandered through my head.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got to say goodbye to your patients.
Common courtesy too xx
DeleteA toast to new beginnings John.
ReplyDeleteMines a large one
DeleteOne more loose end tied up with a bow. I can imagine how your patients felt, having seen a few really good caregivers come and go quickly at my father's nursing home. I always wished the best ones would stay, and I hope if I ever need care I will have at least one good one to look forward to each day.
ReplyDeleteTwo of them fell in love with Mary
DeleteI know that feeling of relief when you walk out of a stressful job for the last time, headed to a better opportunity. Good for you! Onward and upward!
ReplyDeleteLess stressed more bored
DeleteWant to stay young forever? Get a blue-collar job. Factories or warehouses won't let you grow old.
ReplyDeleteBut seriously, I want to stay young long enough so that the mistakes of the past pale before all the things I get right in the future. Fat chance.
Then there's relationships. Most of mine have been May-December with me the May. In retrospect I loved that, probably because I enjoy being seduced and, for me at least, that was more likely as a May in May-December than in May-May, and (probably) December-December.
Suicide? I have no moral qualms about it (it's how Hunter Thompson went, incidentally) but am probably too chicken to ever do it. Though I used to be afraid of it, I'm beginning to think Alzheimer's is not such a bad thing. That way, you don't KNOW what's going on with your body.
But it's August?
DeleteBut the one who is stuck to take care of you is well aware. I know. I am there. Not fair at all.
DeleteNot fair allround me thinks
DeleteFYI..... I am so out of here.....
ReplyDeleteSo long, farewell, auf Wiedersehen, Good night !
Adieu, adieu, to yieu and yieu and yieu
DeleteOh yes ! Xx
DeleteGood luck in your new job John. A new chapter awaits xx
ReplyDeleteYeap new and hopefullya great deal better
DeleteIt's a nice dream
ReplyDeleteSome team leaders are no leaders at all, it makes me wonder how they ever got the jobs in the first place. Best wishes to you for the new job. May it bring the satisfaction of good work well done.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a good goodbye.
ReplyDeleteMe, I have a lot of practice at getting old and wearing out this last two months.
Good luck John for your new job
ReplyDeleteI dont I tend to have an unpleasant, painfilled, prolonged, lingering last existence.
ReplyDeleteWe don't do that to our beloved animals, why should we have to suffer it?
Just my opinion though
Glad you finished your final shift there John. Onwards and upwards!
Very well handled John, my parting messages have tend to be burning my bridges types of ones.... I can never just seem to button it. Oh well, at least they know where they stand with me.
ReplyDeleteGood luck in the new job!
Jo in Auckland
I have mixed feelings about my own aging. Hope I'm lucky enough to have all my faculties and basic good health for a long time to come. And, when I go, make it quick, please! As for that head nurse, what a twit. So glad you're onward to something better! Congratulations!
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