Extremes of behaviour, and extremes of emotion.
Both are exhausting.
Early morning was a time for ugliness, bitterness and nasty talk from both sides.
But that was salved by the kindness of a villager who knocked on the door delivering jam and an invitation to come to his for Christmas
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ReplyDeleteIt is very true that in the worst of times we discover who our real friends are. Silver linings. X
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bad enough that he wants a divorce. terrible that you must still share the same abode. lean on your friends and the ones who want you there.
ReplyDeleteVery sad for you that things had to end this way. Life will continue and new opportunities and adventures will be had. You are surrounded by many kind and thoughtful souls in your village.
ReplyDeleteI wish that you didn't have to endure the angst of house-sharing that continues.
ReplyDeleteThe lovely jam and invitation do sweeten things considerably well before you enjoy the taste of the jam.
Peace be with you.
Barbara Anne
These are tough times, John. Be kind to yourself.
ReplyDeleteAlso, don't eat the 100 year old jam...
No words. Just cyber-hugs. xx
ReplyDeleteEm, you know the jam is a bit out of date right?? Is there a plot to kill you? Keep your wits about you, beware - maybe the villagers are in on the plot!! Do you have a patio? We'll all be sure to get the CSI team to check under it if you go awol from your blog. Kidding aside, just keep swimming. xx
ReplyDeleteHow lovely to get jam and an invite ... I admire how you hold up the good in life for examination, and recognize it, and record it, even in the midst of heartache.
ReplyDeleteExhausting is a good way to describe the ups and down. I always have thought that divorce doesn't just happen over night but I don't any answers. Thinking of you and hoping for the best.
ReplyDeleteThis helped me. “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”
ReplyDeleteI forgot to say I repeated this to myself many many many times.
ReplyDeleteI so feel for you. If only you could fast forward to having it all behind you. So good that there is kindness around you though. Lovely that you have an invite for Christmas as it's the worst time to be alone. Keep your chin up and carry on and give the animals a hug.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely neighbor. x
ReplyDeleteYou cannot choose your family, but you can choose your friends and it sounds as though you have great friends. Although I am slightly worried that you will have a Vicar of Dibley Christmas with so many invitations to attend, but hey that is the sort of problem that can easily be coped with isn't it!
ReplyDeletePlease do make sure you have plans for Christmas. I did not on my first Christmas after my divorce and my children had to go to his place and it was really, really awful.
ReplyDeleteAh, so well timed.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say. Thinking of you xxx
ReplyDeleteits something good to look forward to. and no washing up!
ReplyDeleteIn one way it would be good if all this was behind you but I am afraid, like so many things I have found, it has to be lived through. And when you do come out the other side you will be stronger because you have lived through it I promise you
ReplyDeleteSo sorry that you must go through all the crap to get to the good stuff at the end. I believe you were a good person before you married, and we all know you're a good person now. It's the crap in between that mucks things up sometimes, and it's no fun. Get through it with good friends, sweet neighbors and jam, and folks who've never met you but love you still. Turn to us when in need. I specialize in telling a fop off, offering a good side eye or slap to the face (whichever seems the most logical at the time), and big hugs. Take your pick!!!
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ReplyDeleteFault on both sides YP XX
DeleteRest well when you can, dear one. I wish your knowing you are loved by so many could take away the heartache one caused, I hope it at least feels comforting enough to help. -Mary
ReplyDeleteYou'll get used to it. It gets easier. The first divorce was a drama but the second divorce was a sack of coal being lifted from my back. I felt I was walking on air. Hopefully there won't be a third. I recently married an angel. It's all part of life's rich tapestry. Keep calm and carry on.
ReplyDeleteI've deleted comments for the rest of today. I don't want bad mouthing.
ReplyDeleteI am off to bed.
It's early but like scarlet once said
" tomorrow is another day " xx
What a lovely gesture. Ugliness, bitterness and nasty talk are uncalled-for.
ReplyDeleteYou are definitely going to lay some winter weight with all those Christmas invitations.
ReplyDeleteFeel the love friend.
You are loved from here....chin up
ReplyDeleteYou will get through this and it will get better.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to you, John.
ReplyDeleteThat's wonderful.
ReplyDeleteThe jam, not the nasty talk.
A see saw is a brilliant way of describing it ... you go up and down, up and down and then there's the occasional hard bounce as you crash land and the smack in the balls as you fly off the seat and land again.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for all the nastiness. I do hope the hospitality and high regard of your neighbors makes up for the bad bits. Hugs from hurricane-free Florida.
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