Monday, 2 April 2018

Tired

I'm tired
Even though my mother in law is the easiest visitor ..
It's hard work keeping everyone at home happy , healthy , fed and sorted
Last night we went out to Bryan Williams @  Porth Erias for dinner
It was lovely... but I was driving ....I could have done with two more white wines


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  1. My mother in law is a sweetie ......btw

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    1. ...and pink is her color, even her drink!

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  2. I don't care how much you love someone or how comfortable you feel with them, it's still a tiny bit stressful having them stay with you. The more you love them, the more you care about them, the more you want to give them the very best experience which yes- requires a bit of extra tending. And doing. At least.
    And you can't burp and fart as openly as usual. So there is that, too. (Not that I ever do either. Perish the thought!)

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  3. What a lovely picture. She looks like a very sweet lady. Enjoy your visit and then take a break and unwind when all is back to normal. You are obviously an excellent host so take advantage of some "me" time after she returns home.
    Happy Easter to you all!

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  4. My sister,brother in law and nieces always visit in August for the Edinburgh festival. They do not understand the stress it causes. My lodger has the spare room, so i totally gut out my bedroom and configure it for a family of 4. I sleep on the sofa then. Food is a nightmare!. Being single i sort of live out of the work canteen nhs so cheap , does carry outs of leftovers become lunch for me. But family of 4 need everything easily hundreds to stock cupboards. Would never say and they would not get it anyway.

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    1. There comes a time when you need to say I love you all but. . .
      I am too old to sleep on the sofa, small home, plus they need to help with the food. This is not an all expense paid vacation for them even if they are family.
      Dear Abby would not be pleased.
      Hope this works out better for you this year.

      cheers, parsnip

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    2. Send them a list of places that rent out. I can’t think of what they are called. Not hotels, but economical. They can fix their own meals there and you can enjoy them while keeping your own bed for sleeping.

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    3. AirBnB, send them a list of those in your area.

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    4. If they can afford to come to Edinburgh for the Festival they can certainly afford to dip their pockets to help you out. You're making them too comfortable when they visit. Have a quiet word with your sister. She ought to understand your predicament.

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    5. Edinburgh festival time, not a single room to be had anywhere!. Hotels and even air bnbs put their prices up double if not more!.So other accommodation not an option I adore them but will have a talk about contributing to cost. They do take me out for 1 meal and make a big thing out of it. Yep i,m getting too old for sofa was ok 15 years ago before my niece was born. Now i,m 53.

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  5. Can you have those wines tonight?

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  6. Your mother in law reminds me of an actress I have seen on tv .. BBC ..I am glad the visit is going well, one for the memory books :)

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  7. Ms. Moon has it pretty right.

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  8. You've done a marvelous and splendid job of hosting and welcoming a beloved guest and family member into your home. Guests aren't always the easiest. So I'm happy your Mother-in-law is wonderful and you enjoy her company. The picture says it all: Good food, good company, and good times.

    Make yourself a nice cup of tea. Treat yourself to some chocolate cookies (or get some Easter candy on sale this week), dip them in tea (or not), and enjoy a nice break.

    Cheers!

    (-*)
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  9. Yes, it is an effort, and I always have a 'let down' reaction after they go too. A couple of days being easy on myself and accepting the unwinding process usually sets me up again. Our last guest was a young guy who stayed a month while hunting for accommodation and that involved feeding a bottomless appetite! I'd forgotten how much they eat, and having to do a decent meal every night was wearing. TakeAways were the order of the week once he left!

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  10. You look tired John hope your feeling better. Sorrel is such a star what a wonderful MIL.

    cheers, parsnip

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  11. We have both adult children, spouses, and grandchildren visiting. Yes, John, I feel your pain!

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  12. Echoing Elephant's Child - and make it a whole bottle :)

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  13. A couple of Scotch eggs and a lapful of doggies and you'll soon be as right as rain.

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    1. Sounds like a prescription for happiness

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  14. We had visitors just for the day... that was stressful enough! They are lovely people... but I always worry. Your MIL looks very happy in the company she keeps... nice restaurant!

    Jo in Auckland, NZ

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  15. I have a habit of inviting the world and his wife round for dinner and to stay. Since moving I have decided enough is enough and now try not to. The pressure is off and I feel so much better for it, although now I feel guilty if I am not rushing round like a fart in a colander looking for a hole to get out! Be easy on yourself John. MIL is a special case but still...

    LX

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  16. A taxi treat to the restaurant and back might have been nice.

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    1. Anonymous12:22 pm

      Have an up vote for your sentiment.

      Still, some people will be gladly, and are made, martyr to the cause. Doesn't mean they and their passengers won't kiss a tree on their way home.

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  17. I have had a disasterous Easter with two of my nieces and their children visiting. We have all fallen out and I am exhausted and low quite apart from the mass of food left and the huge expense and trouble I went to. Feeling used and abused and beyond sad. Wish my lovely daughter was here but we face timed, husband and son have been wonderful.
    Sorry to offload dear Blogger friend xx

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  18. I notice that on the Bryn Williams menu there are no pound signs - just numbers so the CHARRED LOCAL GOAT’S CURD, BEETROOT, QUINOA & WALNUTS is 7 and not £7. This is a trend I have seen a few times before and I think it is both pretentious and stupid. "Oh, I thought the prices were in pence and not pounds!"

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  19. She has an immediately lovable face. You're already lovable. Sorry you had to be designated driver.

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  20. You are a lovely host. I'm sure she appreciates it, I know I would. I could do with a son-in-law like you, but I don't have any children!

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  21. I suppose by staying sober you may have avoided some ugly scenes in public!

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  22. You won't be opening a B & B any time soon, then?

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  23. So having to drive probably did you a favour then.

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  24. I'd hate to pay £3-00 for a Caesar salad, when whoever designed the menu has it spelled incorrectly as 'Ceaser'!
    I'm not entirely sure what would happen if I ate a 'ceaser, what ceases I wonder? X

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  25. I love having people to stay, and most of our guests are absolutely brilliant, mucking in with everything we do,washing pots etc, but no matter how lovely the guest it's nice to have the place back to yourselves isn't it.

    You'll not be joining the AirBnB gang then ;-)

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  26. Last year a friend stayed 2 nights with a lovely greyhound -I managed fine but 2 of my darling dogs were showing off & it was a bit chaotic at times.Recently my relatives visited just for tea & cake & same thing again.I went Mrs Overall & when they left I was exhausted.Lovely cocktail by the way x

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  27. I think it’s good to be honest about having people to stay . Some people seem very at ease with this , but very recently I have admitted to myself that I just find it too stressful/ tiring. I get in such a state before they arrive and take days to recover after they have gone .......and never feel I measure up , sooo I don’t do it any more . I am still envious of people who enjoy entertaining but know that I am not wired that way !

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  28. My boss was in meltdown with the visiting children, grandchildren and dogs!!Luckily I could come home to utter peace and quiet!!Two years ago I put my Bestie' s daughter, partner, 2 year old twins and 3 year old precocious girl child up for a week. I left them my house while I went to my Mother's house at night to sleepover while the visitors slept in my bed. It took me a week to get my house back to normal after they left (including washing down the food-stained kitchen walls and replacing a broken bedroom window which nobody could tell me how it happened). They're coming over from NZ again this year and have put out feelers to stay at mine again. I have categorically headed them off at the pass. It ain't happening!!!

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    1. "Bestie" should put them up or find a place for them. What is with people who destroy others home and then ask to come again ?
      I think being honest and say no is a great choice.

      Good Luck
      cheers, parsnip

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  29. Having visitors is always a challenge, no matter how gracious they are!

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  30. I live at the beach. You can imagine what summer weekends are like. I made my extra room into a messy craft space with a very uncomfortable foldup bed in an ottoman. And my sofas are old and saggy. But folks still come...and do not leave.

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  31. Did you watch the Walking Dead last night? It was pretty good. I won't spoil anything. Have a great Monday.

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  32. Anonymous8:31 pm

    Was the restaurant loud? It looked to me as you were straining to hear conversation from the opposite end of the table. I do that these days. MaggieB

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  33. We say "after three days guests, like fish, stink."

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  34. Alison Steadman is who she looks like. Your mil has a kind and pretty face. Do pass on the nice compliments that have been made, we oldies try to look our best but nobody ever tells us!

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  35. Even lovely company is a lot of work. And you work so hard anyway – I'm amazed at all you get done in a day. Please come to rural Washington state, USA, and tidy my house, walk my dogs and sheep and alpaca, and make a delicious meal. That would be awesome.

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  36. It's' always work. They look like a charming pair tho.

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